Do you ever wish you married for money?

[augustales]

Or do you ever wish when picking a partner you considered money?

I don’t not at all. I met my husband at uni so I guess I knew he had some potential to find a job at the end of it and earn a living. I’d never have gone out with someone completely uneducated or who was long term unemployed. That’s more to do with the type of person though and lack of drive rather than not being rich.

For me it was more important to find someone that I loved, that I wanted to be stuck with forever and have children with. I made the right choice, we are doing ok and have 2 amazing children. I’m happy without the millions (although maybe I’d be ecstatic with a few million in the bank too lol).

"They are almost always incredibly beautiful and/or have beguiling personalities, and probably also work in a niche job that puts them in regular contact with men with lots of money."

I am really not sure this is true, though we may be defining "money" differently!

I know a couple of women who are married to millionaires by inheritance (£2m houses, best part of a mil in savings, but husbamfs in high status middle class jobs earning £100k). Neither is dressy and both are distinctly average looking, and neither would take any prescription from husbands about looks (there would be a hard stare and then a long and erudite lecture on feminism). Both women are talented professionals in their own right, married to men with the sense to value that. Maybe this is under the level of really alpha wealthy you are talking about, though?

I think it's a mistake to assume every guy wants the stereotypical trophy wife. In both of these cases, the men in question would be scared stiff by those women. And bored, within seconds.

They are almost always incredibly beautiful and/or have beguiling personalities, and probably also work in a niche job that puts them in regular contact with men with lots of money.

Not in my case! Chubby single mum who works for the NHS.
I think I was very lucky to meet this guy, and I hope someone is making him happy. I hated the idea of him not being loved like he deserved to be. But my friends thought I was absolutely mad to leave, and they probably had a point.

"They are almost always incredibly beautiful and/or have beguiling personalities, and probably also work in a niche job that puts them in regular contact with men with lots of money."

Not in my case either -- I am plain and take no prisoners, and work as an academic. He was a engineer who patented something which made him an incredible amount of money, and I liked him, and thought I loved him, but when he asked me to marry him, I realised I was fundamentally bored by this dull, decent man, who dripped with money, and turned him down without thinking twice. Not a moment of regret, even at my most financially precarious with DH.

I had the chance to marry rich. He was an abusive wanker though. I've never, in over a decade of marriage to a poor but lovely man, regretted my decision to leave my ex. Money doesn't mean you'll be happy.

Why would anyone marry an abusive wanker though. The OP wasn’t ‘would you put up with being abused if he was wealthy’.

Yes

Yep In someways.

Sometimes but not seriously!

I did marry class and money, mostly asset rich and I’m tight enough to agree to maintain the assets than blow them in a perma-holiday on Necker island. I meet him at a top university. He was the 4th generation to go there for studies. I was on scholarship. I’m fairly pretty but I was going places and he preferred brains and fiery personality to beauty queens.
He’s an incredible person and handsome to my eyes in the tall, skinny Jeremy Irons way so it was a win-win for me.
I had a huge career and made plenty of money, same as him, to not need to be a show pony.
I grew up poor so it’s nice to have places to live and holiday and not go to bed at night worrying about money.
I can’t say, that his family were very accepting at the beginning but after nearly 20 years together they got over it.

I wouldn't marry for money but wish I had considered that my OH would always have the view of "what's his is his and what's mine is his". Feel trapped and have no money because he just takes.
Eg. I can't take my DD for a weekend away because he needed a new car and I had to pay, but he can afford to go on a lads trip...

I wish he had had money, but wouldnt change my choice of partner because of money.

No never, I love my partner regardless of money. I'm rich in happiness and memories. Yes money helps but I get by fine without it.

Money for companionhip and sex? That's whoring isn't it?

Nope.
When I met DH and fell in love I had absolutely no idea how much he earned, how much he had in his bank or anything.
I couldn’t give a fig.

When I married nearly 46 years ago it was love. The thought it was some sort of business arrangement would have put me off completely

I introduced her to him because he was interested in me but he was a knob.

Does your sister know you don’t like her?

No, I’m the one with the money

I married a kind, loving man who earned a decent but not extravagant salary. He was great with my kids and, when we had our own was amazing with him. When DS was weeks old, DH met up with his estranged father. DH changed. Money became everything. FIL offered him (and his 3 siblings) £500,000 to leave me (or their spouse) so he did (and so did one other sibling).

No I wouldn't marry for money

DH was penniless and unemployed when I married him but we were in love. We are comfortably off now but would be pretty rich if we’d not had children (which meant I didn’t work for 15 years).

Don’t think I could ever have married for any other reason than love TBH.

Inadvertently I did. We’ve inherited a few rather large sums over the years ( and 3 more to come - that sounds very calculating doesn’t it) and when DH was made redundant 10 years ago he became self employed and now earns a very good living. We started out with just two normal wages, bought our house in the 90’s so the value has gone through the roof. DH doesn’t need to work now but he enjoys it so carries on.

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I married a man called Rich...always said I got it the wrong way round! 😂 Joking aside, no way, I’d much rather spend my life with him and work out how to save/spend our money - he’s kind, funny, handsome and wouldn’t swap him for a moment. If you asked him the same question I reckon he’d dump me in a flash 😂 (probably on the premise he’d pass the money on to me on the side 😂)

Not so much money, but an attitude to work, ambition and "getting on" in life.

I would never have married someone who was constantly in and out of work, insecure jobs, getting sacked, no ambition to progress and happy to drift along in a dead end job forever.

Yes, because I have no love, am not cherished and we have no sex life and NO money (I had all the money when we met)

DP has got us into huge debt which has me rigid with anxiety.