Do you ever wish you married for money?

[augustales]

Or do you ever wish when picking a partner you considered money?

[jessebuni]

Yes and no. I do wish I had considered money a bit more before agreeing to marriage but I would never have only married for money.

[neveradullmoment99]

No, but I do wish I had married someone ambitious. All we do is stagnate and its depressing :(

[ForksintheRoad]

I could never marry anyone who didn't make make me go 'Phwoarrr!' every day (at least for the first three years or so anyway)!

My DH, like quite a few men I know in their 40s, spent the first decade of our marriage earning far less than me and taking his time finding his thing. He now has though and is doing well enough for me to scale my own work back. So things can change - either way.

I only know one woman who married for money and gosh did it end badly. She is now in her 50s, divorced, has lost her home and is a cocaine addict who drinks three bottles of wine a day. Thank goodness her children are old enough to not need her support any more.

[ToftyAC]

No. I had the chance but politely declined. My fiancé is poor as a church mouse & I couldn’t be happier.

[SlaaartyBaaardFaaast]

No way. Money is not everything. Mutual love, respect, values and ethics are far more important.

No amount of money can sort out a bad partnership.

[GingerLiberalFeminist]

Yes. Because I married a man with zero ambition for love and he left me 10 years later when I was past my best to attract the sort of man with money.
I know, I know. My friends call me Lady Susan 😉😂

[SeaOtterFluff]

I'm agreeing with other posters who've said that they wish they'd married someone with more drive and ambition, not just money. DH is a nice man, but undoubtedly this also why he's not ambitious as he can't bear to be disliked. It was fine that he was a van driver when we met in our late teens, he was a bit wild and cool. 20 years on, it's worn thin and I'm sick of being the main breadwinner, thinker and planner. I probably should've left years ago but there's never been a right time or good enough reason.

If I could go back and have a stern word with my 21 year old self, I'd tell her she could wait and do better fit herself.

[brizzlemint]

I'd rather have been married to a rich, abusive bully than a poor, abusive bully so it's a yes from me.

[KneelJustKneel]

I think life would have been a lot easier if my partner had been ambitious/professional....

[Oblomov19]

God Yes. As pp said £400k+ per year. Yes!!

[Goldilocks3Bears]

DAILY 😂

Actually nope - I’m in the situation where I hold my own and the man in my life is there because I want him to bed.

The world is full of women who married rich men and then lost it all.

By all means marry a man for his money but not if that’s all there is to him.

[Ribbonsonabox]

No never. The two wealthiest guys I ever dated were extremely controlling, tight and more focused on money/status than they were on our relationship. Someone elses wealth in itself is actually not worth shit on it's own.

I married for love... but an important thing in that is also trust that someone has your back... and part of that does entail at least wanting to support you financially as an equal partner (there are valid reasons why someone may not be able to bring any financial contribution to a relationship of course... I just mean to say that they would if they could and the will is there and of course sometimes the earning capability of each partner is different so they are going to contribute differently)
I do think you need to marry someone who is bringing you SOMETHING... but it doesnt need to be money. It's just about you working together as a team with what you've both brought to the table. Working together to support each other as a team and having goodwill and compassion for each others situations no matter what is far far more valuable in a marriage than money.

[contentedsoul]

What a depressing thread
Thank god my partner of 22yrs is still by my side.

We are not rich, but we are content and appreciate what we do have.
Sorry, but most of you lot sound like gold diggers - have you no pride?

[ShirleyPhallus]

Sorry, but most of you lot sound like gold diggers - have you no pride?

Lol. This really is bollocks.

[Lardlizard]

Not really but dh does earn a lot

[Crushedvelvetcouch]

Sorry, but most of you lot sound like gold diggers - have you no pride?

Lol.
Pride is a luxury I can't afford

[flyingspaghettimonster]

I often wish we had the money to repair the house or provide nicer lives for our kids... instrument lessons, riding, ballet etc... and summer holidays that aren't just camping or staying at relatives...

But I don't wish I had married anyone different. My husband is my other half... my best friend. If we were both richer it would be lovely, but money without him in my life would never be worth it.

[Klopptimist]

It's pretty disgusting that some people are calling women who want a rich man 'prostitutes.' What a vile thing to say!

I do believe that 'prostitute' is the correct word for a person who has sex with someone they don't love in order to get money. Prostitution seems far more moral than marrying someone you don't actually love, in order to get your hands on his cash.

[Maxabella2]

My ex partner was very wealthy but was a narcissist .
I was treated to lots of lovely things/experiences but he was cruel, so no amount of money would have made it a happy healthy relationship .
Money only buys opportunities and gives you choice.
No amount of money would have made me marry him

[helacells]

Absofuckinglutely!!!! Better to be a rich mans darling than a poor mans wife.

[Itsnotme123]

My ex’s family thought I was a gold digger, then I met a poor man and was / am head over heels in love. Having had both experiences, I know I would want love, be treated like a queen, be able to get by than be controlled by a selfish wealthy knob.

[AestheticPerfection]

I missed several boats like this.
I say missed, but I chose to disembark before they sailed to rich happy ever after.
I knew the happy ever after just weren't mine.
I am unable to be that shallow. I have tried, particularly since the kids coming into the mix.
I have to be such someone for love and the whole shebang.

[KneelJustKneel]

I think lots of people only date wealthy professions or those likely to be. Its not about marrying someone you don't love, but only falling in love with or seriously considering those likely to make money.

They can say they werent in it for thw money, genuinely be in love, but wouldnt have considered someone on a lower income/non city profession etc.

[Tomorrowillbeachicken]

No, I married for love and still married 14 years later.

[OrangeSunsets]

When I was 22 I had a very good male friend who was gay. His mum had a bank balance of £5m as she had been awarded compensation for an accident that happened to her. She had been told she would only have around a year to live.

My friend was convinced he should get married before his mum died so she would die thinking he was happily married and settled. He proposed to me and said I could have half of the money once he inherited it if I just stayed married to him until his mum had passed.

Did I do it? Of course not! Instead I convinced him to come out to his mum and helped him tell her. She was thrilled he had finally come out. He had been worrying about nothing.