Aibu to be annoyed by hospital visitors.

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Had a baby two days ago and still here. Partners/named visitors are allowed 9-9 others 3-7. Lady in same ward had partner here till 10:30 last night and they came back at 6am today . I wouldn't mind but they don't shut up and I was trying to take a nap after getting baby to sleep. The midwife even said "oooh your back early" but didn't tell them to bog off. What's the point of having visiting hours!

Then if you're incapacitated or incapable (exhausted, stressed etc) the failure is with your advocates (perhaps) but definitely with the ward staff (overworked? Just don't care? The impact is the same).

Yanbu op. That sounds awful, I cant imagine how noisy and uncomfortable it must be there. Definitely say something. You have a right to some quiet as well.
Grateful we were able to book a private room where dh could stay. I had a CS so was in for 4 days and he stayed over. It was a massive help.
It must be horrible trying to establish those first few moments with all these strangers around.

Threads like this make me feel so relieved about the hospital I’ll be delivering DC1 in in October- no post natal ward, just individual en-suite rooms. It’s one of the reasons I wanted to live in that area! The thought of delivering in the ancient maternity ward at my current local hospital and having to endure the post-natal nightmare fills me with horror.

@GreenTulips I'm not sure if the not leaving babies alone was because of all the visitors. The HCPs were a bit obsessed about responsive feeding so you were so supposed to be poised ready to pounce by your baby in case they needed feeding!

The antenatal class midwife was in cloud cuckoo land and told it wasn't worth paying £100 a night for an 'amenity room' (just a room on its own without having to share) as we'd a lot from each other on the postnatal ward. There were even pictures on the maternity unit webpages of smiling new mums sitting round tables chatting away. The reality was somewhat different and nobody wanted to talk to anyone else because there were visitors there almost all the time. Maybe if there hadn't been, I'd have talked to some other mums and felt able to ask one of them if they'd keep an eye on my baby whilst o went to the loo etc? I spoke to one other new mum in my three days on postnatal. It was very isolating. It was better on SCBU as I got to know the woman I shared a room with there (who was lovely and had considerate visitors) and we looked out for each other.

By the time I write this you will be home and it will not matter. Jesus when I gave birth I was more concerned about my stitches and if I would ever able to walk again lol

Bignosenobum the many bad memories being recounted on this thread alone kind of prove that actually, it really does matter.

These experiences have massive effects on women's stress levels during recovery, during critical bonding time, ability to establish breastfeeding, not to mention when a woman may be going through raging hormone fluctuations & getting used to her new body post-delivery even in cases where it all went "textbook" perfect!!of course this stuff matters!

It's not ok to dismiss this as "oh well you're home now, as long as you have a healthy baby everything is fine" - what other hospital patient would be told that level of care/ward management is good enough!!!

Why are maternity patients worth less in terms of recovery management?!

With my first, the twat in the bed next to me had a radio on constantly. She had loud people there the whole time. I had my baby at 8.20am and just wanted to sleep. Nooooooope. The entire thing at Cheltenham Gen was a shit show, start to finish. I can only hope they've gotten better, learnt some compassion and tightened up the rules. 11.5 years later. It was a disgrace.