Some people twist these things around to create a debt, and a debtor who can never be free. Such as that revolting posters ‘you’ve betrayed your partner...’ utter bollocks. You cannot argue with that kind of virtuous hypocrisy.
It’s funny isn’t it, how people like this don’t realise what foul rancid insides they are revealing by their pretend ‘oh la la I am so whiter than white I am soooo shocked and virtuous let me damn you with my false morality’. They actually think by damning a victim of child sex abuse and exploitation, they make themselves look good. Bonkers.
And I’m afraid, it’s not just your situation these types of people can twist to victim blame and write off the girl involved as damaged goods.
Anyway. OP, I wouldn’t feel any worry about not sharing this part of what happened to you in your far off past.
I lived this, when I was younger and less sorted, and I thought people (men) ‘had a right to know’.
Because I was sexually abused, as a child, a little child, not a teenager. So not that teenage age which society seem to get so confused about when it comes to women anyway (which is unexceptable by the way). You’d think it was pretty clear what the narrative should be, like, where the blame should sit etc. But no, sadly I found myself blamed, judged, told it was probably my fault and definitely told I was damaged goods, not as good as other women who had managed to not get themselves sexually abused. Which when you think about it, is pretty sick. Because they put that all on a 5yr old.
Soooo, my feeling is that we live in a society that blames the female sex for pretty much everything. So I’d protect yourself both now and your young vulnerable self.
You can’t control the way people will react, and sadly, you’ve seen today that the way people react to such things can be utterly vile. I hope it also shows how insightful and compassionate others can be.
The trouble is, you can’t guarentee what will happen, or who will end up knowing, or if it will ever be twisted against you in the future, if things went bad.
