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AIBU to tell her he's cheated?

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NotReadyForThisX2 · 10/04/2019 19:10

Me and Dp have a couple friend who are due to get married. Dp wasn't on the stag do but heard from others that the groom to be cheated on his fiancé. He's spoke to him and he admitted he had.

Dp has told me in confidence and thinks we should stay out of it, that his friend is really sorry and not usually that type of man, blah blah blah....
But I'm friends with the fiancé and if it was me I'd definitely want to know before I married him.

Dp thinks what we tell each other should stay between us and that I'd be unreasonable to say something and get his friend in trouble and in the process damage their friendship.
I think if he didn't want me to say anything he shouldn't have told me at all. Where as Dp said he'd see that as keeping secrets from me and wouldn't want to have to do that.

We ended up having a argument about it and he basically said it wasn't anything to do with me and he'd be really angry if I say something to her.

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Yeahnahmum · 15/06/2020 00:25

O. Great she knows. Good to know. And some friends he has if his friends cheered him on to cheat. Wow...

NeutrinoWrangler · 15/06/2020 01:00

Now that she knows, it's not necessary, but if he hadn't told her of his own accord, I would've had to find a way to tell her anonymously that she needed to have a talk with him about a serious indiscretion. It needn't have been traced back to your husband, but I'm not very impressed that he prioritised his friendship over the poor bride-to-be's right to know. Hmm

I can't understand people who think she'd have been better off not knowing!

Mrmojorising71 · 15/06/2020 01:31

I'd say nothing, you didn't witness it it's not your business

Mrmojorising71 · 15/06/2020 01:32

Sorry missed the updates!

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