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He vlogged our date!
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AlsoAlan · 08/04/2019 14:06

Hi will try not to make it an essay! NC for this.

So my friend set me up with a guy she knows from her hobby group, chatted a bit online etc and he seemed nice enough so agreed to meet up with him last night. He had previously spoken a lot about how he is really into social media which I'm not really into - we spoke on WhatsaApp but he keeps asking for my Snapchat, Insta etc, he is very into YouTube and kept asking me to subscribe to his channel and watch his top vid which is a Yes Lads reaction video which has around 7000 likes.

So I arrive last night and he is literally filming as I walk in and asks if I'm excited to meet him, how I'm feeling etc. I kind of laugh it off but then am getting increasingly annoyed as he keeps asking for us to take a selfie, messing around that weird dog ear filter thing and the whole time I am trying to chat to him his phone keeps relentlessly pinging. He also wanted to play this weird "20 questions about you" game but said he wouldn't put it online if I dont want it.

So I get home and within literally 5 minutes of him dropping me off he texts me to say "the video" is up on his profile and can I please like and share it??? I go to his profile and he has actually put together a 20 minute video of our date!! You can't really see my face but you can hear me, he says my name several times and my car reg plate is clearly visible at the end. Even worse is that it already has several hundred likes from his "followers" who have shared it to their own Insta accounts etc. He even gave it a title like"xxcVideoGuyWithNoName GOES ON A DATE"!! And he filmed the whole 20 questions thing by hiding his phone behind a menu!

So I guess my AIBU is a. AIBU to be weirded out by this? and b. Is this focus on social media the new norm for dating now??

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wizzywig · 08/04/2019 14:07

Huh? What a weirdo!

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Highway · 08/04/2019 14:08

No, this is not normal and ask him to remove the video. If he doesn't then report it

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TacoFlavouredKisses · 08/04/2019 14:08

No and no. He's an attention seeking manchild.

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Bigearringsbigsmile · 08/04/2019 14:09

OMG!!!!
i would incandescent!
how dare he???


Are you going to tell he must remove it ASAP?

what the hell is your friend doing setting yo up with such a dick?

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Veterinari · 08/04/2019 14:09

Weird creepy and intrusive. Not to mention incredibly rude. I’d have left when he started filming tbh.

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PCohle · 08/04/2019 14:10

He sounds like a narcissistic lunatic.

This is absolutely not normal and I think you're right to feel like your privacy has been completely disregarded.

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MaMaMaMySharona · 08/04/2019 14:10

That is completely mad! I'd be absolutely fuming. Have you told him to take it down?

No it's not the norm!

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Angeladelight · 08/04/2019 14:11

Report the video. What a fucking idiot. I guess he fancies himself a celebrity youtuber, sounds like he’s trying to copy what other successful youtubers have done.

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InspectorClouseauMNdivision · 08/04/2019 14:11

Report the video.
This is massively unacceptable! If it's on youtube, go tu youtube. If on insta, go to insta. Maybe get his account suspended. Prick.

And seriously. What have you done to your friend that she thought you deserve this date?

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hidinginthenightgarden · 08/04/2019 14:11

That would wind me up so much! I wouldn't be seeing him again!

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Helplessfeeling · 08/04/2019 14:11

That is weird. Don't accept another date from him. Can you contact YouTube and ask them to take it down as it was filmed without your permission?

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mummabubs · 08/04/2019 14:11

I'd be fuming. He doesn't have your consent to film or post that video. Ask him firmly to take it down and if he doesn't report him to YouTube. Sounds like a shitty date anyway OP! Did your friend who set you up realise he's like this?!

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HedgerowTree · 08/04/2019 14:11

Fuck no.
Tell him to remove your car and voice.
You told him no.
Report it wherever it will let you.
Never see him again. He will always secretly film you.

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Dieu · 08/04/2019 14:12

What a fucking twat.

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DestinationPub · 08/04/2019 14:12

😲🤮

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UbbesPonytail · 08/04/2019 14:12

That is so inappropriate. How does that even count as a date?

Does he want to see you again? I’d be so tempted to go on it and rope in a couple of friends, one with a camera and one with a boom.

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Oliversmumsarmy · 08/04/2019 14:13

Has no body yet commented

“Is this why you don’t have a gf”

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Still18atheart · 08/04/2019 14:13

I would not be impressed and there defo wouldn’t be a second date. Report the video. What a creepy weirdo

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AryaStarkWolf · 08/04/2019 14:13

weirdo

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DestinationPub · 08/04/2019 14:14

What else will he film without you knowing? These people have no normal boundaries, it’s all about the likes. Some have been arrested for going too far and they don’t even realise it. They are obsessed and have MH problems.

He secretly taped you.

Then put it online.

Keep away.

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NorthernKnickers · 08/04/2019 14:14

You know without asking that this is out of order! But I'm at a complete loss as to why you even stayed on the date and engaged with this weirdo, after his filming of you at the beginning!! That, on its own, is an invasion of your privacy and should have had you running for the hills!! Not for one second do I believe that you actually believed him when he said he wouldn't post any of this online...you seriously cannot be this naive!

Of course he needs to remove it, but it's way too late to retrieve any of the re-shares by his followers 🤷‍♀️

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Shazafied · 08/04/2019 14:14

I would be incredible creeped out and furious. Demand that the video is taken down and then never ever communicate with this weirdo again.

It’s not only wierd, it’s down right disrespectful and surely not legal to upload you/your details without consent?!

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gamerchick · 08/04/2019 14:15

Or you can get a load of people to go and hand his arse to him so he's forced to delete it Wink

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Shazafied · 08/04/2019 14:15

If it’s on YouTube I’d be reporting it and telling YouTube I don’t consent to To it being up .

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Foslady · 08/04/2019 14:16

Would you like us to unlike it and call him a weird fucking creep who obviously isn’t into dating as no serous woman would want anyone who did this to them.....?
Probably better not to!

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