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Son shown his willy during lesson

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Harryy · 04/04/2019 18:42

Today after school the teacher has told me that my 5 year old son had pulled down his pants and showed his willy to the class during PE and tomorrow he will be missing out on his morning break time surely this behaviour should be dealt with on the day it happens? (PE was the last lesson)

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Harryy · 04/04/2019 21:37

Thank you all for the ones who's helped trying to read through them all in between the mess.

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CheshireChat · 04/04/2019 21:37

Nope, the OP never said he's unable to follow a whole class chat or that his behaviour is delayed, I just had another scan through the thread.

Even if the OP's son is unable to fully grasp it, it's still a worthwhile discussion for the rest of the kids.

Sorrywhat · 04/04/2019 21:37

What type of person wants to punish a five year old - A FIVE YEAR OLD - because of this. You as the parent should be having a word about it. My God. What kind of people are you.
He is 5... he’s hardly a fucking flasher...

ThinkingAboutRL · 04/04/2019 21:38

@callmekaren this is the second thread I've seen you on where you are on being nasty to people tonight. Maybe go and make yourself a cuppa and give yourself a hug.

myrtleWilson · 04/04/2019 21:39

@CallmeKaren you called a 5 year old a "delinquent" at 20.46

It's not stressful at all, because we don't have delinquents showing their dicks off to my children

Claw01 · 04/04/2019 21:40

I have read his posts callmekaren and I cannot see any of them saying his son has the mental age of 2

Spikeyball · 04/04/2019 21:41

Having a mental age of 2-3 hasn't been mentioned.

PortiaCastis · 04/04/2019 21:41

My God what nastiness calling, a 5year old a dick is disgusting and bloody low

NaughtToThreeSadOnions · 04/04/2019 21:42

So please hold off on the troll hunting and any abusive comments, and report any that you

So @MNHQ can you please delete the persons rather nasty and degority posts you can see which they are.

Your asking us tk stop doing something but allowing her to derail this thread which you've said yoirselves is useful her contrubution is not, in fact its rather hurtful and sadenning.

People wouldnt gave to troll hunt which is actuslly just people annoyed at her vickous nonsense

Do we need to report her every post when you csn clearly see the one poster thsts causing a problem

myrtleWilson · 04/04/2019 21:42

nope can't see anything from the OP re the 2-3 yr mental age either Karen

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Harryy · 04/04/2019 21:43

My son doesn't have a mental age off a 2 - 3 year old. He's behind on a few things which I won't say as I'm sure you'd be nasty about that as well

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OhioOhioOhio · 04/04/2019 21:43

Omg. I've taught 5 year old for years and years and years. It is really, Really normal for 5 year old to flash their privates.

OhioOhioOhio · 04/04/2019 21:44

Seriously don't worry about it.

Claw01 · 04/04/2019 21:44

In fact you said it earlier in the thread callmekaren not the OP!

JacquesHammer · 04/04/2019 21:44

OP, please ignore CallMeKaren. Their experience clearly relates to no more than their own children.

Your son will categorically not be the first or last child who does this. Whatever the delusional PP suggests, it IS a fairly normal occurance.

FWIW I would agree no punishment necessary and a chat to both your son and the class in general about privacy etc.

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Harryy · 04/04/2019 21:44

Let her stay! I'm able to skip past most off the comments

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DonPablo · 04/04/2019 21:46

Are you the dad potty training? And is this the boy who's going nappy free at school for the first time?

I think that may be part of it, if you are that dad, that he's free now and like the other kids. It must feel awesome to be free of the nappy!

If it's not you, sorry. Just sounded really familiar.

BeardyButton · 04/04/2019 21:46

Aldo good to bear in mind that the research seems to say that having kids with sn in mainstream is (on the whole) good for the kids w out special needs. Its good for their attainment and social emotional learning. I have definitely seen this. The classes i taught that had a child w sn were (on the whole again) more tolerant and kinder to each other. There was also a discernible community spirit. Just thought some might be interested in that.

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Harryy · 04/04/2019 21:49

@DonPablo yes but I didn't want to say that he's only been out off nappies for a month. Already have enough shit from that Karen I didn't want to her start slating me again and being a shit dad

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killpop · 04/04/2019 21:50

Aldo good to bear in mind that the research seems to say that having kids with sn in mainstream is (on the whole) good for the kids w out special needs. Its good for their attainment and social emotional learning. I have definitely seen this. The classes i taught that had a child w sn were (on the whole again) more tolerant and kinder to each other. There was also a discernible community spirit. Just thought some might be interested in that.

It's just a shame that they can't balance the needs of all the children. Children with SN aren't there to benefit others.

Claw01 · 04/04/2019 21:51

harryy the sn board is full of non judgmental advice, should you need any in future. Lots of parents who have been through the EHCP process too.

Claw01 · 04/04/2019 21:54

Oh gosh only just out of nappies, could well be the reason for the incident. The school doesn’t sound very knowledgeable or understanding!

TheFormidableMrsC · 04/04/2019 21:58

CallmeKaren No I am not on drugs. Please go away from this thread, you are no help, your behaviour is disgusting. I have a long experience of being an ASD parent and have had to deal with all sorts of arseholes along the way. You, by far, are the worst. You should hang your head in shame. Get off the thread, you are adding nothing useful at all.

@Harryyy the nappy thing is telling! He can get it out at will now! He will have no idea that that's not an appropriate thing to do because he's five. I remember my son having his hands permanently down his pants when he was out of nappies...curiosity, something to hold onto..."oh look what I've got all of a sudden, does everybody else want a look"...! It's an object of curiosity. Once he learns the "pants" lines, which he will, it won't be as much fun. I promise.

Toastingbythefire · 04/04/2019 21:59

OP please ignore the negitive comments that have been posted here.
You have a wonderful son who you adore and support.
You are looking for advice not criticism on this post.
For what it s worth I would suggest have a chat with your son's teacher before school tomorrow morn.
The teacher / school has their own procedure to follow but as your son has only been diagnosed within the past few weeks I would reason with them to take this into consideration.
However you have to respect their decision.
If the punishment goes ahead, I would take your son aside for 5 mins and explain clearly why this is happening.
Explain this a couple of times. Tell him that he himself is not being punished , but his behaviour.
Explain that he might be annoyed but they are the rules and if he follows the rules in future and never does it again, he won't be kept in at break time again.
He s only 5. He s just been diagnosed with ASD. He s learning xxx

Drogosnextwife · 04/04/2019 22:00

callmekaren

You might want to calm down before you hurt yourself. You are talking absolute shite. Why are you trying to scare the OP, talking about safeguarding? Try and take the knot out of your knickers.

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