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To visit the doctors? (TMI warning)

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SofaSurfer20 · 03/04/2019 12:23

Let me take you through it and you decide if i should go to the doctors.

For what its worth we are trying for a baby and I am not due period till Sunday 14th April (i have period every 7ish weeks).

Sunday night my partner and I had sex, very rough but very good. Immediately after we finished i were sore inside and 2 hours later the pain increased so much i had to take pain killers.

Woke up Monday morning as usual, sore but nothing drastic. Took DD to school and started studying. Then shortly after my stomach started hurting so much I took 2 30/500mg Co-codamol and 1 250mg Naproxen tablet with a hot water bottle. Even so i was doubled over in pain. I started bleeding but only a small amount (I use a menstrual cup). I was topped up on pain medication all day.

Tuesday, I was in so much pain all day, doubled over even after pain killers. And a hot water bottle all day. Around 5:45pm I finally had some reprieve and got a call from work to go in for a couple hours. I agreed and went in. By the time i got there I was in agony again, my boss asked me 4 times if i was ok, then she sent me home less than 2 hours after I got there. I changed cup once in the morning and it only had a little in it. I changed it again at 2:50pm eith about 2tbsp full (just before picking up DD) and didn't change it again till this morning.

This morning there was about 1tbsp full. 17hours. Today I'm in agony again, taken pain killers and got a hot water bottle on as hot as I can stand it. Barely moved today.

This is not normal at all for me, i never have this much pain and the bleeding is very unusual for me. Usually day 1 and 2 get steadily heavier until day 3 where its very heavy then eases off day 4 and barely anything day 5.

If you've got this far please don't suggest A&E as no, Im not going up there.

AIBU to go to the doctors today? I feel like crap and in so much pain.

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Handsoffmysweets · 03/04/2019 16:47

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GottaGoGottaGo · 03/04/2019 16:47

@Gisel
No - I actually read the thread. Her 'DP' is minding their child while she brings her mother to the appointment.

And....? If I was a bit worried, I'd take my mum (well, probably actually my sister, but still) over my DH to the doctors any day. My DH is a wonderful man but pretty useless when it comes to knowing what to say or do if I'm in pain. I would also leave him looking after DC... Nothing to be fretting about there

Because it all sounds off to me. Not off as in she's a troll, but off as in she's not actually enjoying it as much as she says.

She actually says it was very good in her OP. Why would she say it was if it wasn't, it's not relevant to her problem either way. I also think you should leave this thread now since you admit to knowing nothing about rough sex or the menstrual cup, yet feel you can wade in like an expert after reading one article on Google! Please go and clutch your pearls on another thread, they aren't needed on this one, thanks.

OP, hope the doctor has sorted you out Flowers

PhalangeReginaPhalange · 03/04/2019 16:50

Some bizarre responses OP hope you are ok x

justasking111 · 03/04/2019 16:52

My friend had an ectopic pregnancy until then I did not realise how serious it was.

FriarTuck · 03/04/2019 16:53

No, I'm just dim.
Finally, an intelligent comment Grin

Purpleartichoke · 03/04/2019 16:53

I once doubled over in pain a few minutes after vigorous and thoroughly enjoyable sex. I was in agony and had symptoms similar to OP, though not identical.

Thankfully I sought medical
Treatment because it was a large ovarian cyst rupture and I was rapidly developing an infection.

The cyst would have burst anyway. The sex wasn’t the problem. It just may have jostled things enough to speed up the process.

StormTreader · 03/04/2019 16:55

My goodness the pearl-clutchers are out in force today! The OP clearly only even mentioned it in the context of "might this have caused this problem", there's no need for people to pile in being "concerned".

MrsDrudge · 03/04/2019 16:57

@Gisel - you’re not helping much either - leave the OP to explain to the doctor, we don’t need your smug gloating about what may or may not have happened. You are verging on weird.

HeyCarrieAnneWhatsYourGame · 03/04/2019 16:58

I’ve had that kind of pain from bad cystitis that’s been left to fester and turned into a kidney infection. Hope you’ve got it sorted at the GPs OP.

SleepingBeautyonwheels · 03/04/2019 16:59

Giselle rough sex can just mean a bit harder or faster than usual, the OP enjoyed it so clearly she wasn’t damaged during the sex as she would know about it and it would not likely have been as enjoyable. It’s perfectly normal for couples to sometimes enjoy rough sex. Your insistence on continuing to talk about this one part of the OP’s post, despite her reassurances that 1- it was consensual and 2- she enjoyed it- is over the top!

You are not supporting the OP with your constant posts! The OP has mentioned that she is ttc, so it is perfectly possible that she is suffering from an ectopic pregnancy, a miscarriage or even a ruptured cyst (very possible due to the OP having polycystic ovary syndrome).

OP please ignore the judgement of yourself and your dh on this thread! Neither of you have done anything wrong! I hope that your GP manages to get to the bottom of why you are in so much pain.

TatianaLarina · 03/04/2019 17:01

There’s not a lot of point in going to the GP, they won’t have an ultrasound, they will simply send you to A&E.

Petalflowers · 03/04/2019 17:02

Hope you are okay.

bmbonanza · 03/04/2019 17:02

Possible ectopic - they can kill you if they burst so get seen asap! You will need a scan to determine if its ectopic.

TatianaLarina · 03/04/2019 17:05

Generally if you have cysts you shouldn't muck about with sudden onset abdominal pain in case of torsion, which can cut off the blood supply to the ovary or rupture which can cause internal bleeding.

Viobihi · 03/04/2019 17:05

Gisel sounds like she needs a right good shag herself 🙄

BuggerOffAndGoodDayToYou · 03/04/2019 17:08

I also noticed that she chose to bring her mother with her to the appointment rather than her partner.

Because he is looking after their child!

There is nothing wrong with enjoying rough sex if you both consent and it is clear that OP consented AND enjoyed it. Stop being so judgemental!

HollowTalk · 03/04/2019 17:12

Yes he's looking after their child, but he might also want to avoid questions about how it happened. I'm glad she's going with her mum rather than with him.

BuggerOffAndGoodDayToYou · 03/04/2019 17:12

Gisel sounds like she needs a right good shag herself 🙄

😂

It might be a shock to her ...

PineapplePatty · 03/04/2019 17:13

Hope you've been seen OP. I bet it's an infection

crimsonlake · 03/04/2019 17:14

I think the op is battered and bruised internally from the rough sex. I hope she does not take her dm in with her to see the doctor.

LilQueenie · 03/04/2019 17:14

I can get similar pain in the same area after sex. Did so for years thanks to endometriosis.

TatianaLarina · 03/04/2019 17:14

I once doubled over in pain a few minutes after vigorous and thoroughly enjoyable sex. I was in agony and had symptoms similar to OP, though not identical.

Thankfully I sought medical Treatment because it was a large ovarian cyst rupture and I was rapidly developing an infection.

Exactly.

Gisel · 03/04/2019 17:16

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HollowTalk · 03/04/2019 17:19

If a woman on MN is upset because another poster says she had such rough sex that she needs medical help, it doesn't follow that the upset woman needs a shag. It's disgusting to think that.

Laiste · 03/04/2019 17:19

Oh goodness.

Gisel everyone is shuffling up the bench away from you now. Stop and wait for the OP.

Hope everything is going ok OP.

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