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Original poster

To visit the doctors? (TMI warning)

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SofaSurfer20 · 03/04/2019 12:23

Let me take you through it and you decide if i should go to the doctors.

For what its worth we are trying for a baby and I am not due period till Sunday 14th April (i have period every 7ish weeks).

Sunday night my partner and I had sex, very rough but very good. Immediately after we finished i were sore inside and 2 hours later the pain increased so much i had to take pain killers.

Woke up Monday morning as usual, sore but nothing drastic. Took DD to school and started studying. Then shortly after my stomach started hurting so much I took 2 30/500mg Co-codamol and 1 250mg Naproxen tablet with a hot water bottle. Even so i was doubled over in pain. I started bleeding but only a small amount (I use a menstrual cup). I was topped up on pain medication all day.

Tuesday, I was in so much pain all day, doubled over even after pain killers. And a hot water bottle all day. Around 5:45pm I finally had some reprieve and got a call from work to go in for a couple hours. I agreed and went in. By the time i got there I was in agony again, my boss asked me 4 times if i was ok, then she sent me home less than 2 hours after I got there. I changed cup once in the morning and it only had a little in it. I changed it again at 2:50pm eith about 2tbsp full (just before picking up DD) and didn't change it again till this morning.

This morning there was about 1tbsp full. 17hours. Today I'm in agony again, taken pain killers and got a hot water bottle on as hot as I can stand it. Barely moved today.

This is not normal at all for me, i never have this much pain and the bleeding is very unusual for me. Usually day 1 and 2 get steadily heavier until day 3 where its very heavy then eases off day 4 and barely anything day 5.

If you've got this far please don't suggest A&E as no, Im not going up there.

AIBU to go to the doctors today? I feel like crap and in so much pain.

OP posts:
JaneEyre07 · 03/04/2019 13:47

Rough sex that leaves you in pain for days afterwards isn't right, OP.

You may have torn or damaged your cervix or vaginal wall. Please be honest with your GP (and tell your Mum to wait outside) so you get the right treatment, I think you will need to be seen in hospital.

And you need a chat with your DP...........

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 03/04/2019 13:48

It wasn't rape so please don't insinuate that!

I didn't, I asked if you were able to say no, does he get sulky if you do,because tbh it sounds a bit concerning.

namechangedforanon · 03/04/2019 13:49

stop shoving the cup up there then .

Ideally go to a Gynae walk in clinic as an emergency

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 03/04/2019 13:58

I agree,I don't think any internal protection is a good idea ATM.

OneStepSideways · 03/04/2019 14:19

Have you any history of ovarian cysts? Rough sex can cause a cyst to leak or rupture, this fluid irritates the pelvic cavity and causes intense pain. Usually you would have a slightly raised temp too.

Or it could be an ectopic pregnancy (possible to have a ruptured ectopic without a positive hcg test) do you have any shoulder pain or dizziness? Ectopics can kill so do see a doctor asap!

Original poster
SofaSurfer20 · 03/04/2019 14:30

I have PCOS.

I fear i have explained the pain location wrong. It isn't hurting in the same location as it did when we'd just had sex. Its a lot deeper than that.

The cup is not hurting at all, if it was, I wouldn't be using it.

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Original poster
SofaSurfer20 · 03/04/2019 14:32

Ive had ruptures before. This is nothing like what I've had before.

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Haworthia · 03/04/2019 14:34

No one was insinuating rape, but rough sex that causes physical injury is troubling even if it was consensual, and the onus should be on the man not to take it too far and forget about your wellbeing and safety in the name of his enjoyment.

Gisel · 03/04/2019 14:37

What exactly do you mean by rough sex?

purplelass · 03/04/2019 14:38

Why do people feel they have to judge every aspect of someone's life when it's clear that they just want advice on one part of it?

OP wasn't asking whether her sex life met your approval(s) just whether it was worth going to the doc with this pain...

Hope the doc sorts you out OP and the pain goes soon Flowers

Gisel · 03/04/2019 14:38

Is it always rough but it has never happened before to have pain after?

Gisel · 03/04/2019 14:39

@purplelass - I suppose because I for one don't know exactly what 'rough sex' is?

Original poster
SofaSurfer20 · 03/04/2019 14:44

Thank you @purplelass

Im clock watching to get there now. Had to take more pain killers as its hurts to move.

OP posts:
sandi2019 · 03/04/2019 14:46

I suppose because I for one don't know exactly what 'rough sex' is?

Unfortunate Wink

purplelass · 03/04/2019 14:46

@Gisel
Why do you need to know the details of what they were doing? Unexplained severe pain after any kind of sex needs a medical opinion, end of.

Babyhumps · 03/04/2019 14:47

You're not soft taking your mum with you OP, it sounds awful... Good luck, hope they get you sorted, let us know how you get on 💐

blueandgreendots · 03/04/2019 14:49

Please give the doctor all the background circumstances. It is possible for penetrative sex to rupture the upper vagina (usually at the posterior fornix behind the cervix) leading to peritonitis which is not good. Glad to hear you got an appointment and will be assessed soon.

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 03/04/2019 14:57

Why do people feel they have to judge every aspect of someone's life when it's clear that they just want advice on one part of it?

Big difference between judging and concern.

Gisel · 03/04/2019 15:09

Well I don't know what it is, so I can't comment on whether it might be the cause of the bleeding or not!
I also don't know, have never seen nor used a menstrual cup, so I also don't know F all about that either!
The OP obviously felt the need to mention the fact that it was rough sex for some reason, so I was just asking what that is.

For e.g. is it him going at her like a jackhammer, or is it him penetrating her when she's not yet wet or turned on. The former I can't see causing much damage, but the latter might have torn her inside, which might account for some bleeding. But as I seen I don't know anything about menstrual cups, how far they are put up you, to estimate where the bleeding might be coming from.

I don't need to know the details of what rough sex is for some sordid reason, but if it was worth mentioning by the OP then she has mentioned it for some reason or another!

Gisel · 03/04/2019 15:10

In any case, glad you're going to the GP.

Gisel · 03/04/2019 15:14

And I wouldn't bring your mother in with you to the doctor, I'd ask her to stay outside, as I'm not sure she wants to hear the details of your sex life. But you need to tell the GP whatever this rough sex was so that she has full knowledge when trying to diagnose you.
Worth asking at reception for a urine sample cup as the GP will want to test your urine I suspect. Bring that in with you before you go into the appointment.

sandi2019 · 03/04/2019 15:33

Your husband probably knows what it is, Gisel. You could ask him to show you so you have an idea.
It is definitely not for everyone.......and some men aren't comfortable to do it in this way.....but you may enjoy it.

sandi2019 · 03/04/2019 15:34

(ps.....assuming you have a husband, that is!)

Gisel · 03/04/2019 15:50

I don't have a husband no. And no, I would not like to ask someone to show me what rough sex is thank you very much!
Is it a secret?

Gisel · 03/04/2019 15:54

Ok, just googled.

"People who love rough sex get the sexual high, more from the pain they experience than the sexual pleasure they feel."

Ok, so it's not surprising then that she's bleeding is it.

This is my first time ever to clutch my pearls and wander off to a safe place!

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