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Home77 · 03/04/2019 10:14

You have to: Have big house in the country
Work, both of you, all the hours you can to afford this.
Drive everywhere
Get a cleaner

If you have e.g. a flat, in the town, that is not a 'proper home'
If you don't work all the hours you can, you are lazy
Ditto for driving.

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SherlockSays · 03/04/2019 11:50

You absolutely must assume that all transwomen are rapists and pedophiles and make a huge fuss about their presence in any public space.

This made me laugh Grin. Glad it's not just me who feels like this!!

I do however have my own savings account that although I have mentioned to DH, he doesn't know about.. it isn't for leaving him though - it's for a holiday to Florida!

Laska2Meryls · 03/04/2019 11:50

Also PILs should not be allowed to visit new baby in hospital or at least for 6mths after

DoneLikeAKipper · 03/04/2019 11:53

Every problem you have can be solved by reading a self-help book/watching Marie Kondo/doing a programme.

theycallmebabydriver · 03/04/2019 11:53

Your SIL is a 'toxic narc'

BlueMerchant · 03/04/2019 11:53

You must always put books from The Book People in kids' party bags. 1 zillion for a tenner pah!

Maryjoxk · 03/04/2019 11:54

If you have kids and feel like full time working plus a commute is too much, you’re lazy.
Also your husband must be a sexist dick to allow you to do part time working or be a full time mum.
Oh and you can’t say ‘full time mum’

toffee1000 · 03/04/2019 11:55

You must not EVER keeps toilet brush in your bathroom. Or have a bathroom bin.
If your baby has ANY sleep issue, swaddle them and give them a dummy.
Change/wash your towels after every use and wash your bed linen every day or you’re a dirty skunk.

downcasteyes · 03/04/2019 11:55

You must be completely and utterly tone deaf to structural lack of power and privilege. Poor people with three jobs just need to work harder to succeed, race discrimination is just people being oversensitive - but god forbid you would have to enter a bathroom after a trans person.

reallybadinterview · 03/04/2019 11:55

If you're short of cash just take in ironing, a lodger or go work at the school at lunch time.

teyem · 03/04/2019 11:55

Narcissist is your go-to, non-sweary insult.

Pinkarsedfly · 03/04/2019 11:56

You may only have a rescue dog.

The dog should be walked for three hours, eleven times a day.

Nuttyaboutnutella · 03/04/2019 11:56

A chicken should feed a family of 12 for 6 months. You should only ever eat this chicken, quinoa and fresh air, even your fussy toddler. Oh and maybe some organic hummus as a treat.

I LOVE MN food threads Grin

Lifeonmars77 · 03/04/2019 11:57

You must not, under any circumstances, be proud of your children or anything they have achieved, otherwise you are stealth boasting.

In fact, tell everyone how shit your children are being today.... oh wait, only the worst mother's do that.

Ah what the fuck, just go have them 'assessed' anyway Smile

Pinkarsedfly · 03/04/2019 11:57

You must have ‘a huge salad’ for lunch, and something done in the slow cooker with ‘a ton of veggies’ for dinner.

Nuttyaboutnutella · 03/04/2019 11:57

On a related note, if you give your child Weetabix, it's akin to giving them heroin!

nelsonmuntzslingshot · 03/04/2019 11:58

If you have male DC they can eat endless amounts of cereal, toast, pasta etc. If you have female DC they can have dust as a special treat and even then only a spoonful as anymore would be greedy

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Home77 · 03/04/2019 11:58

You need to change into a special frock to do the school run.

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BlueMerchant · 03/04/2019 11:58

Cadbury chocolate in all forms is inedible.

Pinkarsedfly · 03/04/2019 11:59

Any child who has inadvertently been fed sugar must be given exorcised and given a blood transfusion instantly.

BabyDarlingDollfaceHoney · 03/04/2019 11:59

The doctor is wrong. Always.

If your MIL expects to see you and your DCs more than once a decade she is clearly overbearing, toxic and controlling. Go NC.

BlueMerchant · 03/04/2019 12:00

You must NEVER use any type of air freshner. Open windows and fresh flowers only!!

GerryblewuptheER · 03/04/2019 12:00

Your child is not gifted even if they read every Stephen king book by the age of 2.5 and are studying degree level maths in pre school.

You should invite your creepy neighbour who built steps his side to peer over your 7ft garden fence over for dinner as hes just lonely.

zoellafortitude · 03/04/2019 12:00

Work, both of you, all the hours you can to afford this

That sounds like far from ideal.

Lifeonmars77 · 03/04/2019 12:00

Shit... I've just realised I have used an apostrophe on the word 'mothers' where there shouldn't be one in my previous post. It was a typo, I know this was wrong - I'm sorry!!!!! I am an uneducated, ignorant fool and should swot up on my grammar before I even consider posting on MN again.

Pinkarsedfly · 03/04/2019 12:01

If someone is rude to you, call 101 immediately and get it logged.