To think “love” is a load of bollox for most women?!

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It’s brightly packaged and sold to us but it’s all nonesense really. Even when you smugly think you’ve cracked it - fast forward 10 years and nope, no you haven’t. It’s all compromise and sacrifice, boredom and indifference.

Men are obsolete. I have my DC, I literally can’t think of a single other reason to want a man around. It’s all bullshit, I wish we never had “Hollywood” this side of the globe - many people would be a lot less disillusioned.

Anywho that’s my rant!

Robots will take over women for sex so I wouldn’t assume that men need us.

Maybe in years to come we will live in massive communes Men in one. Women. in the other

Am I having a Julie Burchill moment? Just falling asleep Zzzzzz.... as women go on ... and on .... and on ... and on! .... about their "relashionships". As if anyone cares? Maybe you just have to have a lobotomy to blab on and on on MN about this stuff methinks? ZZzzzz...

If only the thread title gave an indication as to the subject matter and we were able to avoid those threads which didn’t interest us...

@beansouptime the flaw to anyone saying that is that they've shown enough care to read and respond.....

I think you're more likely to have had at least a partial lobotomy when you fail to read thread titles or just zoom in on ones you don't like the sound of beans.

If only the thread title gave an indication as to the subject matter and we were able to avoid those threads which didn’t interest us...

I feel rather sad for all the PPs who have never had the experience of genuine life-long love.

Why?
My parents and my brothers and sisters love me,as do my children and grandchildren. So do my friends.What more do I want or need?

Yeh, I don't need sadness. I've grown so much from being single. I'm braver, more content in my own company, better able to find (and do) what brings me peace and contentment.

I agree with Beansoup as these threads always go the same way. It’s boring

Women having verbal orgasms over their ‘soul mate’* pitying on women who don’t have the same as ‘sad’ ‘lonely’ ‘just had bad experiences’ ‘made poor choices’ (someone said they didn’t have a good radar or something?)

*no such thing. Souls aren’t a real thing (like god) and there is no mystical cosmic energy where each person holds a tiny golden key to the other persons chakras or your moons aligned drawing each other closer together as if you were joined by magical string

You just met someone you like who you like more often than you want to kill them. You respect each other and like the same things

You do know that is what FRIENDSHIP is right..? You just so happen to fancy this friend and have sex with them. People have amazing platonic lovely loving friendships all the time. It is really nice too

Oh wow. I believe in LOVE. Been through shit and back, but can never give up on LOVE. Then again, each to theirs.

What do you mean LOVE? Is there only 1 kind that means anything? All the other love is pointless. Only love with a man is meaningful and validates you

People aren’t ‘giving up’ on anything
Argh

You do know that is what FRIENDSHIP is right..? You just so happen to fancy this friend and have sex with them. People have amazing platonic lovely loving friendships all the time. It is really nice too

Yes! I love my best friend ...we tell each other that regularly. It’s lovely.

@CostanzaG

And people have friends for years!
Nice solid caring friendships. It’s platonic love but it’s not any less valid because it’s not sexual

You do know that is what FRIENDSHIP is right..? You just so happen to fancy this friend and have sex with them. People have amazing platonic lovely loving friendships all the time. It is really nice too

I don't think a relationship is sex + friendship. Friendships are great and I value them highly. Thus far, my friendships have outlasted my relationships. But I think with a relationship that's with someone right from you, you do get a closeness that you don't get with a platonic friendship.

It doesn't happen that often though. Too often we do accept something substandard, oddly by wanting too much. We maybe hold out for some ideal and desperately want to believe that this one is it, when all the evidence is to the contrary.

I've spent most of my life being single. I like it, I enjoy it. I've had fuck buddies, and they're fun. I'm just now embarking on something different, and enjoying the closeness of it. Maybe it will work out in the long term, maybe it won't. I wouldn't say love is bollocks for most women - but I do think we compromise ourselves too much. And having been single for a long time, I know that if this doesn't work out, I'll be fine. And if it does work out, it will be great.

Long term relationships turn into friendships if they don’t start out that way. They don’t stay lusty and amaaaaving is the heady rush part of something new. Anything long term and solid is a friendship at its core. You will still be close but it will not be how it feels in year 1 what it feels like it year 20. This is what leads women to feel so disappointed when the main excitement wears off and they think ‘is this it?’ Because they are not even friends with each other!

I’m not saying it is the same
I’m saying love is all different and people who don’t have romantic love have other types of love which are just as valid as romance

Don't know if anyone's already posted a link to this very good article on mawwidge but it made me chuckle and is quite wise and realistic.
www.thecut.com/2019/03/marriage-an-investigation.html

I think we all have the capacity to romantically love more than one person and so that’s what I do and it’s very liberating! If only society hadn’t frowned upon it.