This annoys me - house guest

[kamillaw]

We have family staying one has moved all my scented candles and switched off my lovely plug in thingy. It's annoyed me no end. AiBU

You don't have to turn things off in someone else's home. You just don't go. Or ask them. 'Oh, noise gives me a headache so I have to walk in and switch off their telly.' 'Oh, I'm allergic to dogs so when I go to theirs I have to push their dog outside.' 'Oh, meat makes me sick so when I go to someone's house as a guest I throw all theirs out.'

Plug ins make me feel nauseous and they trigger migraines for many people. Your guest clearly hates the smell of your candles and plug in so why should they put up with it?

Your poor dog op. Their noses are so sensitive it must be horrible to have an odour they can't escape from. Just open the windows.
I think plug ins are vile, and possibly dangerous.

Your guest clearly hates the smell of your candles and plug in so why should they put up with it?

They shouldn't. They ask if it can be turned off and it not they stay elsewhere.

Who's your house guest? If it's a close relative, then surely it's ok. If a distant cousin of your partner, then maybe different.

If he gets migraines, sometimes they take days to subside. Maybe he saw a potential trigger, panicked, and meant to tell you?

Seriously ? They moved the candles, they didn't put them in the bin.

My siblings do all sorts of things when they visit, one brings their own pillows as they can't stand mine, one brings their own food as I can't cook veggie apparently!

Its just folk, nothing to get so worked up about.

A woman sat next to me in the pub yesterday, she was drenched in perfume.
Put me right off my steak and kidney pudding.

I'm sorry OP but I always do that in a rented property as I can't bare overbearing fragrances. I prefer to open the window . Don't take offence, it's just personal choice.
I always put them back where they were before I leave.

Would you go into someone elses house and start rearranging the soft furnishings or moving family photo's around?
Moving candles and unplugging the other smelly things is rude imo.

ASK if they may be removed and unplugged....presumably the HG can speak.

Oh I would only do it in the room I am staying in btw, not the rest of the house!

Yankee candles and plugins remind me of rats....long story, but they make me feel ill.

I would still politely ask if they could be removed or unplugged though if I was a house guest where someone used them.

Its definitely polite to ask but I can't imagine getting that worked up about it. Probably just roll my eyes as to they wouldn't ask (unless they've asked before and been ignored)

I would rather smell dog that those awful plug ins. Sorry op.

Time for house guest to go home

Plug ins = omfg. Well done visitors to unplug.

We’re in rented and when we viewed, the landlady had put diffusers in every room, they smelt awful, DH said it smelt like old woman we put them in the garage after we moved in and I bought some lovely White Co ones. But when DD comes to stay I move anything scented from her room because she hates sweet smells. Not sure about plug ins, but I always imagine they’re a bit chemically smelling.

I would never just move or switch off something in someone else's house if I was a guest and I am shocked at the amount of people who would be okay with this?! If they suffer from allergies, headaches or don't like them then ask for them to be turned off or moved. It's just polite.

Good grief people on here are weird. Its your house, your rules OP!

Plug-ins are vile. Yes, they should ideally have asked before switching it off but it’s not a big deal, surely? You can’t force your guests to inhale that stuff- I can’t think of anything more unhostly. Open the window if your house is smelly.

God a lot of people are really uptight and mean spirited. Maybe she felt awkward asking you about the plug ins and just turned them off as they thought it would be a less pointed way of solving the problem.its very unlikely she meant any offence so why be such a stick in the mud. You must know lots of people find those plug ons unpleasant so it's not a surprise. If something so minor was bothering a guest I'd rather they just turned it off and felt comfortable ("but I usually quite like my house guests).

YANBU!! It’s your house and they are guests. So whatever reason they had for wanting to move your stuff/unplug your diffuser, they should really have asked first unless it was a life or death emergency.

It's a very mumsnet thing to be more worried about protecting your territory than being nice to guests in your home.

This is such a minor deal. Those plug ins are vile and give people headaches, surely it's better for them to quickly get rid of the smell than suffer until you come back. They also might feel like you'll be offended if you ask. They misjudged it's unlikely they realised you'd be so uptight about it.

Why go so far out of your way to take offence to something so innocuous.

Massive migraine trigger for me the dog is definitely preferable

yes it's your house but all that artificial stink must be vile. you should consider your guests, and any animals who may have far more sensitive noses than you.