To be surprised this woman got so cross with my three yr old

[JuniperGinYay]

DD is recently 3, but has good clear speech. She’s small and could be presumed to be 2.

Like many toddlers she’s a bit absolute. We cycled past a woman on a horse in the road, later we saw the same woman at a out door forest cafe.

Dd was sitting with Dd 6 and the woman lent on the next table while her friend saw to the horse, I was getting drinks and in clear sight but not ear shot. Apparently dd3 said ‘horses go in farms, not on the road’ then when the woman disagreed she said ‘yes! Roads are for cars! You scare horse in road!’. Personally I would have just either smiled and wandered off or explained my horse wasn’t scared on the road and was used to it. Instead the woman stomped over and gave me a tirade about what I taught my daughter, her attitude and how I was a ‘presumptuous car driver ‘. Dd was still smiling, now chatting about unicorns and horses to her sister in the same smiley way. I was initially very polite, explained she didn’t actually mean to criticise and just chats away. She’d probably just only seen horses off road or in farm pictures and was basing it on that, not family disapproval of horse riding. I also pointed out we were on bikes. I smiled and all that and tried to be friendly and tone it down, but then she retorted i had no idea how to raise polite children so I also raised my voice and told her to just stay away from the children if she had issue.

I’m still stewing on it today. Bizarre? If she dislikes small children why she even stood so close to a little one (tables scattered out doors in forest area, plenty of space) I don’t know.

Juniper - i am so glad you find it funny. I think this is the most ridiculous version of a certain type of thread I ve seen on mumsnet a lot. Basically, parent and child bashing threads. Usually they make me despair. This one... Im still laughing.

Well, they have to go onto the roads to get used to the roads. So an old veteran of the roads may not turn a hair at a car backfiring while sounding its horn with the twats in the car yelling crap at you as they go past. But a less experienced horse will be nervier. And it depends on how experienced the rider is too!

The traffic now, seems a lot more aggressive and faster, more impatient, and less knowledgeable around livestock than it used to be.

Ridiculous! Can't believe some comments that the 3 year old is cheeky or copying you. 3 year olds see horses in books on farms and on tv in farms all the time - what she said was actually perfectly logical in her world and I'd be proud of the sentence formation! Woman was clearly batshit and probably can only communicate with horses.

Most horses aren't scared of cars, in fact my old boy could have done with a healthy dose of respect for anything with an engine!
Didn't stop him getting upset and being in pain and actually causing more of an obstruction when some wanker drove into his back legs. Literally, into them. He didn't react until the car made a connection.
But yeah, horses are the problem.

Neigh!

Doesn't take long for the hard of thinking who believe the stereotype to start on a horse thread does it?
Most hobbies are pointless.
Bit like your post really.

This. Well said

I think people forgot what three year olds are like. It’s not being rude or cheeky, it’s having no filter, continually processing the world around them.

Feel like people in general are too quick to jump to a negative conclusion.

I did laugh at ‘horsist brat’ though!!

The horsewoman was completely in the wrong. I am surprised the horse was able to carry the weight of the massive chip on her shoulder as well as her.

What a horrible thing to happen to you.

Some people should be muzzled.

She was a total wally to come over. It would rile me too. Who goes up to a small child like that?

I am 😲 at both the woman’s reaction and some of the psychos on here who think it’s a reflection on your parenting/“obviously parroted from you”.

My kids have never seen a horse on the road. It would blow their minds.

She sounds unhinged. No normal grown women gets offended at something a three year old says. I could easily imagine my children at three thinking similar. We spend so much time talking to them about road safety that it makes sense that a horse shouldn’t be on the road. Silly woman!

Three year olds say stuff that comes from anything and everything. Partly from a book that was read to them, partly from seeing a horse once , partly from dad, mum , aunt whoever. I think it’s a massive over reaction and the horse lady needs to chill.

A lot of people here need to spend a lot more time with children under four.

I have never seen so much utter tripe spouted about children in my life (and I am 54 and have been here since at least 2009).

And not just tripe - some of it is outright hostile.

I have horses and occasionally go onto quiet roads and hate every second of it.

Unfortunately they have built roads leading to all of our bridleways. We have to cross 3 motorway bridges to get to the nearest wood or park (in which we are harassed by dogs but that’s another story)

If I decide to take the horsebox I get just as much abuse from car drivers who want to overtake, undertake and just generally be idiots. Horseboxes have to take turns very slow and this annoys even the calmest of drivers.

It’s a shame that impatient people have to spoil a hobby that people have enjoyed for years over what, waiting a minute to pass carefully

@Myfoolishboatisleaning wins the thread of stupid rude comments. Why does your three year old have shite grammar? 😂

My mind is also boggling at the behaviour of the woman and the stupidity of some posters on this thread. Have these people ever actually met toddlers in real life? Three year olds come out with all sorts of ransom weirdness, and certainly don't just parrot what parents have said. Some of their weirdness can also sound more coherent than it really is as well.

In short, ignore the nutters OP YANBU!

Sorry, I should say, it’s awful that people have so much hassle with horses on roads- I had no idea. It’s shit, and something I’m saddened by. I’ve had so little experience.

On the flip side I’m surprised how low the bar is for complex thoughts for some!

I was a poster that admitted I would have thought the ops dd was bad mannered. I will say again I would never have moaned out loud about it and certainly not had a go at the parents. It is possible to not find all 3 year olds fascinating and amusing particularly if you've had a bad day!

I like your DD OP.
She sounds like a confident and caring little thing. Maybe horses do get scared on the roads.

This woman was obviously out of order getting so worked up about what a 3 year old was saying. Just surprised so many on here are defending her and saying your child was at fault. Frequent use of the word 'parroting' makes me think the horsey crew may have hijacked this page!

Quite a few of the 'horsey crew' have also said she was being unreasonable to carry on like that at a 3 year old..........

I think myfoolishboat is implying that this thread is an exaggeration / made up. Tbf, it is a shocking story and horsey / dog / mil threads on here often go bananas.

I think op, you’ve just genuinely experienced irl the sort of thing weird trolls would make up on here to get a rise out of people.

It’s just unfortunate and I’ve had similar btw; something genuinely happened irl and I posted on here only to be told I was being goady and making it up. I was really hurt till I got to know mn better (and I know you’ve been around a while too btw) and realised I’d been unlucky enough to have a crazy mumsnet thread ACTUALLY happen to me .

I meet many many people I find neither amusing or fascinating over the course of the average day. Routinely I manage to hold my shit together.

I would have thought this was a few replies to my OP then not much else!

Sorry that was to @LaviniaTheLemur, I genuinely thought it reasonably boring. Met odd lady, ignore her...