I hate my step kids

[Whatyoudoingoverthere]

I know I’ll get flamed but i need to vent somewhere. I do not let these feelings be known in RL, I hope this anonymous forum realises why I’m choosing this outlet. I’ve NC’d for obvious reasons.

My step kids are teenagers. They fight and bicker constantly and I can’t bear to be around them. I married their father when they were small 10 and 8, they were relatively well behaved until the teenage years came along. Their dad is fairly strict and asks them to say please and thank you as unbelievably they still need to be reminded. He tells them off when they need it and is caring and loving to them.

We have them EOW and I hate it. They treat our home like a hotel and behave like unpleasant brats.

I love their father and our life when they’re not around.

I’m not the OW before anyone asks. Typical responses will be you knew he had kids when you met him!! Yes but how can you ever know how hard that job will be when you’ve never done it.

Sounds like typical teenager behaviour. It's hard when it's your own..my advice would be to make Time for yourself go out with friends or visit family to reduce the time, if your finding it difficult.

Well, they're 21 and 19 now, so I suspect that the problem has gone.

Sounds awful OP.
Can you go away some of the weekends they are due to see their dad? Make any excuse to visit your family, friends, pretend you have to go into work and take yourself out for the day, etc.
In my late 20s I almost got caught with a man who had 2 children (who I never met). Thankfully he broke it off after a few months, but to this day I shudder at the thought of had it worked out I’d have been a SM because I really wasn’t aware of just how awful it can be. Bullet thoroughly dodged.
I found someone who didn’t already have children so having our first together has been extra special.
I don’t think any man is worth becoming a SM for. Okay, maybe Henry Cavill is (if he had kids) 😂

Bloody hell zombie thread

Jesus.

Yes, I wonder why the 16 year old isn't completely independent by now

This thread is years old!

😄

How would we know?

Not while the wavy mouth and 'see no evil etc' monkeys exist, it ain't . . .

But I take your point, and agree about your stepchildren. I would indeed be expecting them to come less at those ages, and they probably will in the near future. Good luck, OP. Hunker down.

ZOMBIE