he asked me to lie to her parents

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Ds is turning 17 in a few weeks, he initially asked to have a few friends over which we agreed to however he changed his mind and asked for us to organise for him and a few mates to stay over night at SIL log cabin.

The cabin has been booked for the weekend after his birthday for him and 5 others including his girlfriend, ds has asked me to tell his girlfriends parents that I will be at the log cabin supervising otherwise his girlfriend won’t be allowed to attend.

Basically the back story is girlfriends dad walked in on them a few months ago and caught them in the act and has now forbidden any staying overnight with each other.

The problem is I am not going to be at the cabin and I really cant lie to her parents, I know it will ruin ds night if she is not there, would it be unreasonable to speak to her parents and try to convince them to let her attend or should I stay well out of it?

Even if you totally disagree with her parents Lying to them is a arsehole thing to do.

I'm surprised that you and your sis ok'ed the cabin idea. It's screaming my sister is a CF for letting my nephew and friends trash my cabin sort of post.

I've had kids that age and read about your son's attitude towards girls and I would put money on sex, alcohol or drugs happening and as a result someone being ill, stuff being smashed or the police being called because a fight's occurred.

Do you now realise that you shouldn't enable his fuckboy behaviour? Feel bad for the girls involved.

OP you must be so disappointed in him. I'd try again with your DH. Is he going to be so hands-off if DS' gfs get pregnant? If not, then it's time for both your DH and your DS to grow up.
DH is his male role model and he's sending a clear message that it's fine to mess girls around, play them off against each other and use them for sex. If he's not up to parenting then is there another close male who can have the serious conversation that your DS needs to hear? Because I think you need more than just you combating the shitty message your DH is projecting.

And now the OPs lovely son has got both the girls pregnant 🙄🙄 Lovely new thread

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3620739-to-give-ds-the-benefit-of-the-doubt-and-believe-him?pg=1&order=

They're all too young to be staying somewhere like that without adults there keeping an eye on things. Are you not concerned that your son could get her pregnant, with both their lives & options then narrowed down to being teenage parents? Do you know the others going, if they'll be having alcohol, drugs etc? Tbh I don't know what you're thinking of to have agreed to any of it.

@Eileen
He HAS got both girls pregnant!

Oh is this that boy?!

@Bookworm I hadn't realised when I commented that this thread was from earlier in the year. FFS what was that mother thinking? Heading over to the new thread for a look.