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Original poster

To think this was ridiculously rude

251 replies

lastqueenofscotland · 09/03/2019 20:55

Invited two friends round for dinner tonight. Due to another commitment it was always going to be late (arrive half 8 eat at 9) explicitly said this when I was arranging it as I know it’s very late for some people.
Assured me it’s fine.

Got food in inc some naice (fucking expensive) ingredients. Get everything cooking, text at 8:45 asking if they are on their way.
Reply “oh no we were too hungry to had to make our own dinner, we can come round in an hour or two after we’re done.”
I was a bit hacked off so told them not to bother Blush
Aibu to be pretty seething Blush

OP posts:
Barrenfieldoffucks · 09/03/2019 20:57

Given they knew that was really rude, yes. I'd have done the same as you.

TORDEVAN · 09/03/2019 20:58

Wow, YANBU, they were very rude. They could have had a 6pm snack to keep them going

Ineedanewmil · 09/03/2019 20:59

I would be annoyed. Very rude of them

Bobbycat121 · 09/03/2019 21:01

yanbu they should have let you know earlier if they couldnt wait till then.

aibutohavethisusername · 09/03/2019 21:02

You’ve done the right thing Flowers

AnneLovesGilbert · 09/03/2019 21:03

That’s shocking. Are they usually very thoughtless?

Have you eaten your lovely food? At least you can enjoy leftovers but sorry you’ve been let down.

Singlenotsingle · 09/03/2019 21:04

I never invite anyone round except for family. Other people always let you down. I've learnt that by experience. Confused

GiveMeAllTheGin8 · 09/03/2019 21:05

Yanbu would they usually be so rude?

BlueMerchant · 09/03/2019 21:05

They should have let you know by lunchtime at the latest.

BellaVita · 09/03/2019 21:06

Very rude of them.

Original poster
lastqueenofscotland · 09/03/2019 21:06

I was halfway through cooking so couldn’t really abandon anything without binning it. Guess it will be DPs drunk scran when he gets in from a wedding later... grrrr

OP posts:
JRMisOdious · 09/03/2019 21:06

Incredibly rude. That would be that for me.

DameXanaduBramble · 09/03/2019 21:06

Unbelievably rude of them.

ADHMeeee · 09/03/2019 21:09

Very rude. They knew they were coming and that you were cooking late and should have arranged their daytime meals to acommodate that.

LuckyLou7 · 09/03/2019 21:10

Bloody hell, that's incredibly rude. I would never do that - maybe have a piece of toast or something early evening to stave off the hunger pangs - although 9pm is hardly the middle of the night. Enjoy your food, plate up some for DH and freeze the rest or eat tomorrow. Sod the guests.

GorkyMcPorky · 09/03/2019 21:12

Scran. Love that word - thought it was local dialect.

FetchezLaVache · 09/03/2019 21:12

YANBU, they were incredibly rude.

Stayawayfromitsmouth · 09/03/2019 21:12

Very rude!

GreatDuckCookery6211 · 09/03/2019 21:12

Why didn’t they tell josh it was too late to eat?! Bloody hell I would be mad too.

SnuggyBuggy · 09/03/2019 21:12

YANBU, I usually eat at 6 but it's not like you'd die of starvation waiting for a late dinner. Very rude.

SleepingStandingUp · 09/03/2019 21:13

So rude. They a) should have eaten earlier andso they'd be hungry for 9, b) contacted you and cancelled / told you they were eating and replan.

GreatDuckCookery6211 · 09/03/2019 21:13

Josh!? Don’t know who he is Grin was meant to be you!

DontBuyANewMumCashmere · 09/03/2019 21:15

Outrageous - and I would be making sure they knew I was pissed off.
Were they apologetic or embarrassed at all?!

MrsEricBana · 09/03/2019 21:17

Very very rude. You did the right thing. Don't invite them again. (We have friends who come for so dinner and vice versa. When they come here she immediately identifies something I've not got and sends her dh home to get it. Grrr. People can be BLOODY rude).

KrazyKatlady · 09/03/2019 21:19

This is very bad manners.YANBU. I often eat at 9 but if invited out would adjust meals and snacks accordingly.
I cooked a birthday lunch for DD once and invited the IL. they got stuck in traffic so stopped on the way to by sandwiches and then ate packaged sandwiches at the table when I had prepared the meal. I was not happy!!