Step Parents... if you can't do it don't do it!!!

[whoevenami]

Does anybody have a Step Mum (or Step Dad... personally mine is the Step Mum) who clearly wishes that their partner's children from a previous marriage weren't in the picture?!

My Step Mum has always made it very obvious myself and my brother were an inconvenience. When she first came along we were kicked out of our bedrooms and when they had a child together we had no room at all! In their house there has never been a school picture etc of me or my brother but plenty of her child from a previous marriage and the child they have together (Step Mum and Dad)

She's made the littlest effort possible with regards to conversation over the years but dotes on her own children. They would go on holiday as a 4 all of the time to amazing destinations... myself and my brother were never included.

My Dad is equally to blame for this as he could've and SHOULD'VE included us more, but this post is mainly about Step Parents.

So my message to anybody reading who is in the early stages of dating somebody who has children from a previous marriage... if you can't be a decent PERSON (not even suggesting being a parent) then find somebody without children. You cannot erase them from life and move on with your own perfect family.

Does anybody else have issues with their step parent/s?

My friends ex started a relationship with a woman ‘who didn’t like children’. She in fact refused to even speak to her DD and of course the ex who was skint from gambling had moved with her. She expected the DD to spend all visits sitting in her bedroom.
As soon as she had a say she stopped going. This is entirely the Ex’s fault for allowing it. She no longer speaks to her dad.

On the flip side she got a fabulous step- dad she now considers her real dad.

emilybrontescorsett. There is no difference really, she is doing her best to raise her kids on her own, the only difference I can see is that she is not being fully sponsored for the dad’s or the kids, which makes her more of a hero. She may have even left a husband who was as “workaholic” or as bad a parent as many are, which is quite commendable as it takes quite a lot of courage to end a relationship like that. A lot of unhappy married women will rather have the children being ignored or having a miserable time with their dad “staying for the sake of the children” because they are afraid of change or, more especifically... loosing the income of their nasty husbands/lifestyle.

Unless you really implying that all uninvolved parents are better than unattached ones as they are still “united in (holly) marriage.

I see what you are saying Notsure.
I hadn't thought of it like that.
I think a lot of married parents either don't see or brush over their spouses shortcomings as a parent. When you are together I suppose it's easier to do/not see.
When you separate you no longer cover for (if that's the correct term) for them. So whereas before if dad was out, mum is there to care for the dc. Whereas if dad is out but supposed to be having the dc, it is highlighted and mum will think, 'he should be with the dc'.
I hope I'm making sense.