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DS doing drugs...

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missjacks · 01/03/2019 21:52

Hi,

Really just posting here for traffic I'm going to be honest.

Anyone else have a 16 y/o and please can you tell me realistically how common you think smoking weed is of this current generation of teens.

I have been worried for a while DS is playing with recreational drugs and basically have caught him (DH found a video on social media and everything spiralled from there). DS is very blaze and assures us "everyone is smoking weed"...

Mumsnet... what do you reckon?
Obviously i know it isn't everyone... however the school seems to think this is "very common in teens at the moment" as well ?! Confused not sure if this is widespread or just my area.

Thanks

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Hayden555 · 01/03/2019 23:21

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Cheetahssitonfajitas · 01/03/2019 23:22

I'm going to confiscate your '.' button in a mo. If you don't like adults swearing, this is not the site for you. And you're not being non-PC, you're just being a dick. If you can't separate swearing from being a dick, then there's no hope.

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SadOtter · 01/03/2019 23:22

I have 5 teenage siblings, being an adult sibling I get told a lot they wouldn't tell parents, same with their mates, because I am an adult that can help but can't ground them and is still 'cool'. A lot of teenagers smoke weed, not many do it regularly but every so often at a party or whatever it is very common, it's not something I approve of and I do tell them that but it is common for teenagers to try it/have a small amount at a few parties.

If he is making videos, splashing it round social media, being blaze that suggests he is doing it a fair amount and is far beyond 'everyone smokes a bit of weed', he's either smoking a fair amount or showing off trying to be cool, neither of which are good.

DesolationCrow · 01/03/2019 23:24

Sorry Rachel. Im not British or in the uk, though have links. I was trying to explain to Hayden that the culture is very different.

No offence intended.

Hayden555 · 01/03/2019 23:24

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Cheetahssitonfajitas · 01/03/2019 23:25

😂😂😂 This is gold.

Hayden555 · 01/03/2019 23:26

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CallMeRachel · 01/03/2019 23:26

No offence taken @DesolationCrow Smile

I'm Scottish and I guess get a bit irked when people refer to England as 'the uk'

I think Hayden is beyond educating

The posts are becoming more and more bonkers. Confused

Hayden555 · 01/03/2019 23:27

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Cheetahssitonfajitas · 01/03/2019 23:27

Who are you even talking to dear? Do keep on though, I sense this is cathartic for you and it seems like you need the release.

InSpaceNooneCanHearYouScream · 01/03/2019 23:27

OP please continue to post for support AFTER hayden has been deleted and banned-he or she is clearly a raving lunatic

LellowYedbetter · 01/03/2019 23:27

Hayden, you started off quite funny, now you’re getting a bit boring. Know when to stop ...

CallMeRachel · 01/03/2019 23:28

I smell curried shite

Marcipex · 01/03/2019 23:29

Well, there's nothing on the telly....

Cheetahssitonfajitas · 01/03/2019 23:30

Yep, no talking to some people. I suspect one day she will find out what happens to kids with 'hardline' parents that are so zealous about it. Seen it too many times. Hope not though, of course.

Myothercarisalsoshit · 01/03/2019 23:30

@Hayden555 Is that aimed at me? Sorry it's not very clear.
What I said is that I genuinely, genuinely hope that your kids don't experience any of these problems because you have zero empathy and you are simply not equipped to be able to handle the fall out.
FWIW I see parents who are very controlling and feel they know 'everything' about what their kids are up to all the time. They really have no clue. I don't usually swear on here but for you I will make an exception. You really are a cunting twatbadger.

purpleboy · 01/03/2019 23:31

Initially I agreed with you Hayden even though the post was phrased in an unpleasant way, but now your just coming across as unhinged, why are internet strangers getting to you do much? You berate one for their choice of word (which I agree with) but now your being just as bad if not worse.
Your point could of been very valid and with you experience you probably have a lot of good advice to give, but the way your coming across now is just OTT

Desolation my heart goes out to you truly you are suffering and I hope your daughter gets the help she needs to turn her life around, and you get the support you need for both of you

Lovingbenidorm · 01/03/2019 23:32

Despite all the vitriol I think Hayden is just trying to suggest that parents are wholly responsible and that when the shit hits the fan with our kids then we need to look at ourselves as adults and parents.

CanILeavenowplease · 01/03/2019 23:33

Low working class ... Crap admin job ... Divorced ... Kids of different men ... How close am I? ... Your kid beats you ... You're a failure !!!

Wow. Just....wow.

DesolationCrow · 01/03/2019 23:34

Kids same dad, british university educated. I live off independent means, though im not wealthy. Im not bound by a class system, but come from a blue collar family. My son is successful, kind, never touched drugs or booze and is a very talented athlete.

Im not a failure. Im actually a dedicated loving mother. My daughter was influenced by social media and became anorexic and violent.

You are behaving is an assholic way.

You clearly are off your meds, I recognize it. I know you try and your who needs you to feel superior, but really you are just hurting yourself.

SadOtter · 01/03/2019 23:34

@Hayden555 it is parents like you who have kids who end up fucked because they have no one to turn to. Stop being so judgemental, OP is doing the sensible thing and asking for advice to help her child. Either you haven't got teenagers or you are one of those parents whose kids can never ask for actual advice because all they'll get is drugs are bad mmkay.

Cheetahssitonfajitas · 01/03/2019 23:34

Fwiw, myself and my group of friends that smoked lots of weed as late teens were all the ones with strictly anti-drugs, unapproachable parents who were hardline. We were rebelling against them, were crafty and they never had a clue. Still don't. I'm raising my son to be able to talk to me openly and honestly about anything without fear. Far better to know what your kids are up to! You don't want to encourage it obviously, but you don't want them to hide it.

CallMeRachel · 01/03/2019 23:35

Your kids will get mental health issues wishing that on people kids ... Evil nasty witch ... I don't drink you filthy alcoholic.

Wow even more.

Karma will get soon get it. Bye bye Hayden

Hayden555 · 01/03/2019 23:35

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