DS doing drugs...

[missjacks]

Hi,

Really just posting here for traffic I'm going to be honest.

Anyone else have a 16 y/o and please can you tell me realistically how common you think smoking weed is of this current generation of teens.

I have been worried for a while DS is playing with recreational drugs and basically have caught him (DH found a video on social media and everything spiralled from there). DS is very blaze and assures us "everyone is smoking weed"...

Mumsnet... what do you reckon?
Obviously i know it isn't everyone... however the school seems to think this is "very common in teens at the moment" as well ?! not sure if this is widespread or just my area.

Thanks

Do you honestly think that the parents on this thread are condoning teenage drug taking Hayden?

Agree that consistent users are only about 10% of the teens around here but would guess about 40% have tried it at parties once or twice

I think a big majority have tried it but only a small majority smoke it regularly. Dd hasn't smoked it but her brother did a few times in y11. By y12 he had a part time job so was too busy to smoke and enjoys spending his wages in designer stuff and his gf rather than weed.

I was happy to mong at home

Please do not use the word 'mong'. It is horrible. Please look up the origins.

@inspace yes I am changing my mind about this point! I was trying to be conciliatory

Hayden, I feel sorry for you. You are really not acting well.

Ive already had my leg broken by my teen girl kicking me repeatedly when I tried to stop her going out late at night. You knocking my teeth out wouldn't be nothing.

shrinkwrap
hayden are you ex military by any chance?

Catch onto yourself Hayden
seriously

hayden you're becoming more and more incoherent. Maybe have a wee lie down? Think of your blood pressure....

I am so sorry desolation. I have turned myself inside out over dd. Nothing has been more difficult.

OP, my DC include a 16 yo DS. He says 'they all' smoke weed at parties. I have no idea if he has or hasn't, though have said I would very much rather he didn't (I never did, though that doesn't have much to do with the price of fish). He says he has, but he says all sorts of things. I am a bit old fashioned (never even tried a drink as a teenager), but try to keep the lines of communication open with my DC. DS and his friends are very far from being stoner losers - they are all high achieving, articulate, ambitious, engaging and thoroughly agreeable young men...

Fuck me.............Hayden........STFU

Hayden have you got kids who have had MH issues?

Mmm. I don’t think so. Every teen is different. Being hardline with some teens would only result in more extreme behaviour. Maybe you are lucky enough to have fairly compliant teenagers. Some of us are not.

@woodlands01
Out of all of my daughters friends the only one who I would say went too far with drugs (taking things other than weed and on a regular basis) has teachers for parents. Figure that out? She's recently really calmed it down and she too is in university and she's a lovely intelligent girl. I've been really lucky with my children but I don't think I did anything special, it's not easy being a good parent, we try our best! I don't know what I'd have done if mine had gone off the rails a bit or had other problems. It's not always bad parenting that makes kids do certain things. You haven't failed. Don't think that. 💐

Amazed at Iwondered, semi rural area here
Teach at state comp, 280 kids per year. Current y11, at least as many as she says are dealing, at least half the kids actively/frequently use weed. Many are disengaged because of it. Not an unusal situation talking to colleagues at other schools.

I think it’s more common than when I was a teen in 80’s 90’s.
The imagery around it has changed a lot.

It used to be “drugs” part of being a bit different wether arty or cool or black or whatever. Now it’s “hard” part of showing “you can”.
No idea what cool drugs are but it’s not weed.

I'm not sure where I claimed to know you Lellow? I can sure agree is wasn't very well thought out comment but the underlying point is still true, parents do need to shoulder some of the blame.

Desolation good for you to openly admit that, I guess that would help us understand why you have such a child, and blaming it on her being a teenager, again is just an excuse for lazy parenting. reading your update, I'm not particularly aiming that teenager comment at you, you sound like your going through the mill and I really do sympathize with you, sometimes it's a bit late to try the hard parenting line if generally you've been quite laid back, each child is different and in some cases it can work but generally if kids are allowed to do as they please on the whole then when you try to set firm boundaries it just won't work, again not aiming that at you just stating my point that parents are partly responsible even if unintentionally.

Rick read the thread quite a few are saying it's no problem, or they aren't overly concerned.

But hayden that's the point-you have no idea if we are tough on our kids or not!! You couldn't be more wrong if you tried.