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DS doing drugs...

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missjacks · 01/03/2019 21:52

Hi,

Really just posting here for traffic I'm going to be honest.

Anyone else have a 16 y/o and please can you tell me realistically how common you think smoking weed is of this current generation of teens.

I have been worried for a while DS is playing with recreational drugs and basically have caught him (DH found a video on social media and everything spiralled from there). DS is very blaze and assures us "everyone is smoking weed"...

Mumsnet... what do you reckon?
Obviously i know it isn't everyone... however the school seems to think this is "very common in teens at the moment" as well ?! Confused not sure if this is widespread or just my area.

Thanks

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InSpaceNooneCanHearYouScream · 01/03/2019 23:07

And now you think only fat people have high blood pressure??

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missjacks · 01/03/2019 23:08

Hayden I'm not sure who most of your posts are aimed at? Do you think my son is going to become an addict or end up in a mental hospital? This seems pretty harsh for me saying we have found 1 video of him smoking weed and that he's admitted to doing it at some parties.

I'll hold back on those private mental health bills for now?!

Thanks everyone for your views. I am totally not condoning any drug taking, obviously I'm gutted by not so little boy is now going out and smoking weed (& lying about it!!!) but it's tricky to know the right line to take with him. I am definitely one for keeping lines of communication open whilst also coming down hard when I disapprove!
I will not give up and continue to talk to him and educate him on the dangers, but you do have to catch him on a good day otherwise I am speaking to his bedroom door!

Ahh the joys of having a teenager!

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RickOShay · 01/03/2019 23:09

Well quite Purple Grin

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Cheetahssitonfajitas · 01/03/2019 23:10

Side note, but is it wrong that I find the most irksome part of Hayden's posts is her terrible misuse of ellipsis? As you were.

InSpaceNooneCanHearYouScream · 01/03/2019 23:10

Good luck with it missjacks. You seem very sensible.

RickOShay · 01/03/2019 23:10

‘mental people’
Oh my god

ashvivienne · 01/03/2019 23:11

DD2 is 18 and I know she smokes it regularly I only ask it’s not smoked in the house and no butts are left anywhere and that no paraphernalia or anything is brought in the house so she keeps everything in the car. She holds down a full time job and mainly uses it for pain relief due to chronic illness and it’s done wonders for her compared to things given to her by Drs for the pain. DD1 has tried it before but it wasn’t for her and it wouldn’t surprise me if DS1 and 2 tried it as well if I’m honest

LellowYedbetter · 01/03/2019 23:12

Hayden is clearly on crack. Best just to ignore her before she knocks all of our yellow teeth out 😂

Nutkin123 · 01/03/2019 23:12

Hayden as much as you may think you're trying to help, all of your posts have come across as judgemental and offensive and not at all helpful it the slightest. It may be best to exit this thread so that the OP can get some valuable feedback on her post.

CallMeRachel · 01/03/2019 23:12

Hayden, please step away from the glue.

Bonkers, incoherent and offensive posting.

Ps do you pee standing up?? Grin

bluddleuddleumdum · 01/03/2019 23:14

I know it's not easy Missjacks but it is only weed and my two never went on to try anything else. By the time they got to their 20s they were personable and loving and still get up on time for work every day. They both love their football and xbox games. One is married with five children and the other dating. Try not to worry too much

Shellery · 01/03/2019 23:15

What are your DS's friends like?

DesolationCrow · 01/03/2019 23:15

My daughters behavior is mostly her personality. She is eating disordered, in treatment for it. She is very superior, stubborn. Rejected everything she was raised with, from Christianity, to politeness to adults.

Im not ashamed. She should be. But she has no shame.

I love her retroactively. We have no relationship left. I provide what I have to.

Hayden, this is a mostly English site. You are upsetting people by being culturally blind. Its not helpful.

Lovingbenidorm · 01/03/2019 23:15

I don’t think Hayden deserves a big bashing.
Reckon she’s got lots of issues going on (children with MH issues etc)
It’s a Friday night, we’ve all had a nice drink 😂

DesolationCrow · 01/03/2019 23:17

'Merican, Trump supporter, off her/his/ziz meds (tramadol, zoloft, xanax), wishes they were rich. Probably from Cali.

How close am I?

bluddleuddleumdum · 01/03/2019 23:18

@Lovingbenidorm............cheers Grin

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CallMeRachel · 01/03/2019 23:18

Its posts are now being deleted.

Obviously showing the effects of the bad parenting

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Myothercarisalsoshit · 01/03/2019 23:19

My boy is 21 and I think he started smoking weed when he was about 15. We certainly did not condone it and spoke to him about the damage it could do to his developing brain etc. He went to a very well rated Sixth form college at 16 and started hanging out with a lot of upper middle class boys with very rich parents. That's when the trouble started and I know that he has taken cocaine, ketamine, acid and all manner of other drugs. When they turn 18 and are legally 'adults' - earning their own money, going to festivals etc there is literally nothing you can do. He got his A levels and a place at a good university but has just suspended his studies mid way through his second year. He will go back and repeat it in the Autumn. He recognises (now) that his 'friends' - many of whom went to the same university - haven't helped and is coming home to work for a bit and hopefully get some counselling around addiction and his mental health issues.
It's hard. We have always had a very open and loving relationship with our boy and it's heartbreaking to see him so lost and alone now. He recognises he has a problem now though and hopefully will get some help with it. Peer pressure is an absolute bitch for teenage boys. We live in a major city and I would say that drug use is very very common. The problem is, as others have said, that the 'weed' that kids are smoking these days is actually very strong 'skunk' that is also sprayed with other chemicals.
I don't think that we are bad parents. My son comes from a loving home. I am a primary school teacher. It happened to us.
Hayden, I hope you never experience any thing like this with your children. It's heartbreaking and it destroys you. I hope you don't because from the way you present on here you have absolutely no empathy and zero chance of ever being able to deal with it.

CallMeRachel · 01/03/2019 23:20

Hayden, this is a mostly English site. You are upsetting people by being culturally blind. Its not helpful.

Ahem, it's a UK site. England is not the entire UK.

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DesolationCrow · 01/03/2019 23:21

Yes, ive heard of pot being sprayed with research chems. Its very strong nowadays. Spice, the synthetic cannaboid is very dangerous.

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