To not go to friends wedding tomorrow...I'm the bridesmaid

[sillyandsally]

I had a baby 3 months ago and she isn't sleeping on a night at all.
I'm lucky if I get 2 hours sleep.
I'm exhausted to a point I feel sick.
My friends wedding tomorrow and I'm bridesmaid but I know tonight I will be lucky to get even 3 hours sleep so I'm going to be in no fit state.
I feel so sick and exhausted with tiredness.
Aibu to tell her I can't go?
The wedding is at 1pm but she wants me over at 9am for makeup and hair.
I don't know what to do

Well done for going op, glad you managed to enjoy yourself, you done well staying till 11!

Brilliant, it's good let your hair down once in a while. Sorry you didn't sleep better though - unfortunately, your sleep rythmns are out of sync. It will get better, honest.

This has been picked up by Birmingham live app! 🖕🏼🖕🏼🖕🏼🖕🏼🖕🏼

Glad you went OP

What's birmingham live app?

What's birmingham live app?

It's an app for birmingham local news and the like.

Ahhh. I need to get out more

I've been there OP, you'll survive then thrive! Most difficult period. Xxxxx😚

Haven’t rtft but I got myself so exhausted that I was delirious when my third child was a similar age. I was so tired but was suffering from insomnia?! I phoned the doctor and begged for them to give me something to help me to sleep. I must have sounded like a madwoman.

I don’t think the OP is being U if she is feeling terrible

jinxed go back to bed, there’s a love 💕 🛌 💤

GoFiguire

I slept for 8 hours last night !!! Got up once at 3 for 20 mins and straight back to sleep.
I feel normal ..even if it's just a one night thing I feel normal ..I could literally do the conga around Morrison's

@sillyandsally I think you needed a break, be kind to yourself in future as well!

I slept for 8 hours last night !!! Got up once at 3 for 20 mins and straight back to sleep.
I feel normal ..even if it's just a one night thing I feel normal ..I could literally do the conga around Morrison's

This is great! Glad you had a good time at the wedding and I'm glad you slept last night!!

So the rest of the time last night I presume baby self-settled?
I remember lying in bed awake thinking I am too tired to go to baby, I won't move in case she hears, and then falling asleep again, it's how she slept through.

Glad you had a good time!

That's fantastic news sillyandsally. I'm so pleased for you.

Your friend is relying on you to be there and support her on probably the biggest day of her life and that's part of the reason she asked you to be a bridesmaid in the first place. I get that you are having a difficult time, sleep wise because of your baby not settling (and I am sorry for you) but you must function to some degree every other day? You just have to suck it up and go!

Sorry - I obviously didn't read the whole thread and thought this was posted today! Apologies!

Yes @MummyStruggles OP must construct a time machine and re-go to the wedding that was on the other day.

Lol MummyStruggles >.

Oh, mummystruggles, if only you'd been able to give your advice before the wedding rather than 3 days later. Never mind the 11ty billion previous posts pretty much covered it

I know I know I know - I apologise!
New to this and didn't realise it was an old post!

Again - I apologise to you OP and am glad you had a good time in the end!

Well, this thread has been an eye-opener in terms of the number of people who not only don't read anything after the OP, but seem to not notice that there are several pages and hundreds of subsequent posts after said OP, which I find far weirder.

I think you should go, and here's why...

Just joking.

I remember the first sleep after months of deprivation. It was bizarre. I felt like it was 100 years.

So pleased about your whole weekend OP

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