I broke DHs glasses

[LellowYedbetter]

I live in a family of gog botherers, both of my sons and DH but I’m not although should be but I never went back.
Anyway DH is fiercely protective of his and if you go anywhere near them or touch them he panics and flaps. Last night he’d left them on the bedside table. I went to bed, was very tired and didn’t feel well and put the iPad on the bedside table in the dark on top of the glasses forgetting they were there. We both went to sleep. In the middle of the night I woke up, couldn’t get back to sleep so reached for the iPad, dragged it off the table and smeared his glasses. This morning they were all bent and he’s gone ape shit. I mean, proper meltdown, panicking, ignoring me as he was too flustered and ended up late for work.

AIBU to think this obsession is too much?? Or is it because I don’t wear them that I don’t get it?

I would be really angry if someone’s carelessness broke my glasses. I too have sensory issues but need my glasses to drive. It’s quite immature to just not bother going back to the optician for that reason there are loads of styles and designers try them until you find something comfortable. It’s the effort I put in to finding something comfortable for me that means I’d be really upset if dh broke my glasses but he wouldn’t laugh or mock my anger Hefner be appalled he’d been careless and get me new ones ASAP and I have a spare set but they aren’t my first choice so I would need new ones.
I couldn’t drive, cross the road or work without mine so even if he drove me I’d struggle massively to do other things without them.
I broke my glasses myself end of last year and needed a pair before we left on holiday so I didn’t have to rely on my spares. Dh drove me an hour and a half away to the nearest optician that had an hour service for me to make sure I got them before I left. That is what you should be doing not using pithy little nicknames and calling a necessity for a lot of people an obsession. A good fitting, comfortable pair of glasses are as important to your dh as your need for baggy comfortable clothes is to you. Does he mock you for that?

How would you be feeling if, in order to get his glasses, he knocked over your iPad and smashed it?
I’d be panicked if mine were smashed too. How bad is his vision - will he be able to manage at work?

My spare glasses are an old pair which would do until I could get a lift to get mine fixed but nothing more.

Leaving glasses on a bedside table overnight should be safe.

You sound about 10.

Yes I'd be pissed off although why were they on your side of the bed?

I'd be bloody furious if someone broke my glasses. I cannot see without them, certainly wouldn't be able to drive, and they cost getting on for £200 to replace. You sound really unsympathetic. Wearing glasses is (usually) not a fashion statement, or an obsession, it's a necessity to ensure you can see. I am obsessed with being careful of my glasses, in the same way, you would probably be obsessed with making sure someone didn't break your eyes.

I live in a family of gog botherers

Charming.

I used to get called speccy-four eyes at school and thought that was bad enough, but you've just trumped that. Well done.

You have no empathy with how much of a pain in the arse being short-sighted is. I can't function without my glasses/contacts. They are expensive and essential.

I don't think being able to see is an 'obsession'.

I hope you've offered to pay for some replacement 'gogs'. What is he going to do in the meantime?

what on gods green earth is a gog botherer? When i used to use glasses - i always had designer pairs - the most expensive being about £500 (my mum now uses them) I would be lost without them. YABU and very rude.

Sounds like you did it on purpose because you have some weird problem with him needing his glasses and think he’s over reliant on them! As others have said, absolutely immature, ridiculous attitude, totally unreasonable. If you break someone’s glasses they can’t see to function in day to day life... it’s very normal for people to want to take care of them and expect others not to break them. Bemused as to how that’s difficult for you to understand

Confusing post.
If you are so concerned with the glasses wearing perhaps you could pay for corrective surgery? Or go for therapy.

YABU. Being without glasses when you really need them is awful. I cannot work without my glasses and I simply cannot see the screen. Everyday tasks are near on impossible.

It is not an obsession. Would you say someone was obsessive if they needed crutches to get about?

Very odd way of speaking about things.

I also echo what has already been said, you need glasses (by your own admission) but choose not to wear them. Can you pass the minimum eyesight requirements for driving without them? Even if you have sensory issues you have to be able to pass the eyesight requirements or you are a danger to others. I understand sensory issues can be awful however you do need to ensure you meet requirements and not drive if you cannot.

I hope you have offered to pay to replace his glasses as a minimum.

Also if you know you are clumsy, you need to take more care not to damage others property.

@alliwantisagoodnightssleep I'm with you. Mine cost 600 and i would be crying if they were broken. I keep disposable lenses in a safe easily accessible place next to the bed just in case.
You sound terrinly immature OP.

YABVU on all counts - with making up the term “gog botherer”, describing wearing glasses as an obsession, and the fact you broke them and don’t seem to give a shit.

I think you need to get over your sensory issue obsession and get the glasses you need!

'Gog botherers'
Not only is that offensive, it's not funny. You're being quite horrible.

The sensory issues were mentioned in answer to people asking why I don’t wear glasses.

I passed the driving eye test without glasses.

DH referred to himself as a gog botherer when we first met. His mum says it and my friend says it, I don’t see it as an offensive term but then, I’m very difficult to offend. And yes he does take the piss out of my sensory issues, as do I.

I passed the driving eye test without glasses.*

So did I, 32 years ago! That means nothing! When was your test?

YABVU! My glasses cost £450 (£350 of this is the lenses). I can't see anything without them. Couldn't drive, read, watch TV, work. Literally I'd be stuck.

Of course you're being unreasonable - he needs his glasses to see. Surely you can understand how important that is?

I can't follow this at all. You "smeared" his glasses?

I wear glasses and fine your name calling offensive. You should like a nasty person and really need to grow up. I find it appalling you think someone who needs something, for what is in effect a medical condition ( ie he can’t function without his medication, which in this case is glasses) is being unreasonable in his actions. You are the unreasonable one and a horrid person. Put yourself in his shoes for once

I passed the driving eye test without glasses.

Was that before or after you had an eye test saying you needed glasses?

Eyesight changes after time and if it changes you need to ensure you still meet requirements. You can be pulled over and checked by the police.

I am only saying this as you seem to have a very flippant attitude to people needed glasses.

About 17 years ago. I should really make another appointment I suppose but I can’t wear glasses and certainly wouldn’t be able to stick something in my eye. Might have to look up lazer eye surgery

I like how you turn it to only your eye problem and ignore the fact YABVVVVVU.

Also, maybe he's so protective of his glasses because he knows how careless you can be? You must have used a lot of force to break his glasses.

I passed the eye test after being told I needed glasses for computer and wading