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I broke DHs glasses

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LellowYedbetter · 01/03/2019 10:10

I live in a family of gog botherers, both of my sons and DH but I’m not although should be but I never went back.
Anyway DH is fiercely protective of his and if you go anywhere near them or touch them he panics and flaps. Last night he’d left them on the bedside table. I went to bed, was very tired and didn’t feel well and put the iPad on the bedside table in the dark on top of the glasses forgetting they were there. We both went to sleep. In the middle of the night I woke up, couldn’t get back to sleep so reached for the iPad, dragged it off the table and smeared his glasses. This morning they were all bent and he’s gone ape shit. I mean, proper meltdown, panicking, ignoring me as he was too flustered and ended up late for work.

AIBU to think this obsession is too much?? Or is it because I don’t wear them that I don’t get it?

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Megs4x3 · 01/03/2019 10:25

Are you always so dismissive of other people and their (important) possessions? Yes, you are being very unreasonable. It's not as if you broke his favourite mug, for example. He clearly finds it difficult for function without them and you own him a sincere apology.

It's not an obsession with his property, they are a requirement, a bit like you breaking the walking stick of someone who really, really needs it to be mobile. You are off the charts unreasonable and more to the point, unkind towards someone you supposedly care about. Your clumsy and everyone has to deal with you and whatever you break? Deal with his upset then!!

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LellowYedbetter · 01/03/2019 10:26

I have sensory issues and wouldn’t be able to pin toon with something plastic stuck to my face. I don’t wear earrings for this reason and all my clothes have to be too big as I can’t stand the feeling of something stuck to me

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NotTheFordType · 01/03/2019 10:27

I don't understand why he put his glasses on your side of the bed? Or if they were on his side, why did you put your ipad on his side and not yours?

singwhenyoureswimming · 01/03/2019 10:27

Being able to see is not an obsession

You also sound reeeeeaaallllly immature.

What is a gog botherer and why have you not looked back?

BrexitIsComing · 01/03/2019 10:28

"Gog botherers" - really? Do you say that to people who wear them? That's incredibly offensive. And YABU in thinking that their "obsession" with being unable to see is too much. How about you go around with something obscuring your eyesight for a few days, & knowing that it will potentially cost a few hundred pounds to fix it, & that your partner damaged your last device because they couldn't be bothered to be careful & are now laughing at you for being a "gog botherer".
You really need to listen to yourself.

BrexitIsComing · 01/03/2019 10:28

Does he mock you for your sensory issues, then?

howwillwedeal · 01/03/2019 10:28

@LellowYedbetter what's are gog botherers?

babycatcher411 · 01/03/2019 10:29

I read this I live in a family of gog botherers, both of my sons and DH but I’m not although should be but I never went back.
As “god” botherers, which doesn’t make much sense in the context of the rest of the post, but cannot make sense of it otherwise.

What’s a gog botherer? Someone who bothers to wear glasses, because they’re shock horror required?!

Iooselipssinkships · 01/03/2019 10:29

I thought you'd made a typo and meant God botherers.

MereDintofPandiculation · 01/03/2019 10:29

Being without glasses means not being able to drive, not being able to take a bus because you can't read the number on the bus, not being safe to cross the road, not being able to use the computer, probably not being able to do your job. Being without them also means feeling very vulnerable.

Please understand that for the majority of people who wear prescription glasses for everyday as opposed to just for reading, they are a necessity - most glasses wearers are not in your fortunate position of deciding not to go back to the optician.

OftenHangry · 01/03/2019 10:30

How did you not feel that you were putting a tablet on something other than flat surface?
You should get them repaired. Get them to somewhere today and maybe get the cheapest pair they have for a time being. Nothing fancy.

I can see without mine but I would freak if dh broke them, because they cost. And I do need them for work otherwise I get headache.

RiverTam · 01/03/2019 10:30

try not actually being able to function at all without your glasses, OP. I can't see clearly more than a few inches in front of me clearly. I would probably be dead if I couldn't wear glasses, and I mean that quite literally - I would not be able to see the dangers right in front of me.

You attitude to this stinks.

hendal · 01/03/2019 10:30

I would go apeshit if someone broke my glasses. It’s not just not being able to drive, I wouldn’t be able to do anything - I certainly couldn’t work, I’d barely be able to walk as wouldn’t be able to see steps/dips in the pavement etc. And I’d have a horrendous headache from not being able to focus. Which is all quite apart from the expense of having to replace them!
I think you need to check your attitude towards this OP. I find it appalling that you are so dismissive of this. Your DH needs his glasses, it’s not a fashion accessory or something optional.
And your DH now needs to keep his glasses in a case as it’s obvious he can’t trust you to be careful where you put things.

buttertoff33 · 01/03/2019 10:30

what has this got to do with breaking DH's glasses????

BrexitIsComing · 01/03/2019 10:30

You should count yourself really bloody lucky that your eyesight is good enough that you can function normally without glasses. Many people can't.

needthisthread · 01/03/2019 10:30

What's a gog bothered?

And why do you think he has an obsession with his glasses when actually he simply needs them to see?

Are you 10? I'm trying to work out why an adult would have weird feelings towards their partners glasses

IIIIIIII · 01/03/2019 10:31

Op, you could try contacts or there's lots of different designs with different nose pads etc, I have sensory issues too, so I'm very picky about the glasses I have. If you need glasses are you safe to drive?

Clairaloulou · 01/03/2019 10:32

Am I the only person who presumed "gog" was an autocorrect and spent 5 minutes trying to work out being religious related to breaking reading glasses?

Sirzy · 01/03/2019 10:32

Your “gog bothers” comment said it all really.

Your whole attitude to their needing to be able to see is just down right odd and actually quite rude.

Being driven to work is useless if you can’t acrually see when you are there!

Monty27 · 01/03/2019 10:32

There wouldn't be any point me going to work if someone had broken my glasses. I can't read without them for a start. Driven there or not

Grace212 · 01/03/2019 10:32

YABVVVVVU.

GreatDuckCookery6211 · 01/03/2019 10:32

You both need to be more careful.

KurriKurri · 01/03/2019 10:33

I've never heard the phrase 'gog botherers' before - is it somethin you have made up? It's pretty unpleasant - do you have 'amusing' nicknames for other extra needs ?

Also what is 'Pin toon' - I know it must be a typo - but I can;t work out what it should be.

If you have been diagnosed as needing glasses you should not be driving without them (if they are for distance)you are a danger to other people. I understand sensory issues are difficult - I have some myself. But wearing not wearing glasses when you need to is unacceptable because it affects other people. Are contacts an option or would you struggle with those as well ?

bumblingbovine49 · 01/03/2019 10:33

My glasses cost about £350 and without them I cannot function. I always have a cheaper spare set ( about £150) but it takes a couple of weeks to get a new set so if you don't have a spare set it is awful. I am effectively pretty blind without them.

I would have been bemused at this panicky behaviour by your DH in my previous glasses days but I completely understand now

Katiepoes · 01/03/2019 10:34

Just knocking glasses off a nightstand would not bend or break them, either you put force on the ipad or they really got smashed down. As a fellow 'gog botherer' (wtf?) that could not leave the house without my glasses you are beyond unreasonable. Glasses are to allow us see - hardly a small request. My current pair cost 600 euro, I'd have been furious with you dismissing breaking them as me being 'obsessed'.

Also glasses are not 'plastic stuck to your face'. Please re-read your posts and consider how ridiculous they sound.

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