I broke DHs glasses

[LellowYedbetter]

I live in a family of gog botherers, both of my sons and DH but I’m not although should be but I never went back.
Anyway DH is fiercely protective of his and if you go anywhere near them or touch them he panics and flaps. Last night he’d left them on the bedside table. I went to bed, was very tired and didn’t feel well and put the iPad on the bedside table in the dark on top of the glasses forgetting they were there. We both went to sleep. In the middle of the night I woke up, couldn’t get back to sleep so reached for the iPad, dragged it off the table and smeared his glasses. This morning they were all bent and he’s gone ape shit. I mean, proper meltdown, panicking, ignoring me as he was too flustered and ended up late for work.

AIBU to think this obsession is too much?? Or is it because I don’t wear them that I don’t get it?

FFS, I've worm glasses for decades and have never had to leave them in their case because I don't live with people who would dump an ipad down on top of them.

Your DH needs to get into the habit of putting his glasses into their hard case when he takes them off. Bollocks to that. You need to be able to grab your glasses quickly if you're woken up suddenly in the night, or need to get to the loo. Not faff around taking them out of the case. And when you're feeling around, glasses are more readily identifiable than a glasses case.

I’ve read your other thread (I thought you sounded familiar) you and your DH have issues

What do you mean 'wading'? Is this meant to be 'reading'? The pair of you sound pretty immature in the way that you speak to each other.

I dont see anything wrong with you calling him names in a jokey manner especially in light of his reaction to you stepping on the dog. You have apologised and offered to drive him to work. You do seem to have a lot of drama in your life, disappearing sons when there is cake to be cut, totally bizarre work colleagues, broken glasses and a dog who got stood on. Think I would need to relax with a large gin after all this.

“just bent” is something only a person who does not have to wear specs could say with a straight face.

I can’t see if my glasses sit wonky.

The micro adjustments needed to get glasses to fit confortably for all day wear are very difficult to do. It takes a skilled fitter and a proper heater to do it, and the person whose face they are aiming to fit.

You can’t take them in on someone else’s behalf to get them fixed.

It weakens the frames every time you have to reshape them and you risk snapping something or loosening crucial parts.

They’re arse clenchingly expensive if you have certai prescriptions. Mine are horrendous and are insured for this reason.

No one touches my glasses but me, and I am crippled without them.

Oh dear.

OP
What is a gog botherer
If it's what I imagine it is, it sounds nasty and disablist.So explain, retract or report your own post and let Mumsnet edit the post.

'Obsessed'... with seeing things? So unlike you he's happy to wear glasses and presumably needs them to DO stuff, like work and life

YABU by calling him obsessed. Perhaps if you were wearing your own glasses, you'd have seen his glasses and then not damaged them. That said, if you only moved an iPad, how much damage can that even cause!?

I'm incredibly short sighted and can't even make it around the house without mine so I understand his frustration but if he doesn't have a spare pair, he ought to take more care of his glasses, even keeping a slightly older pair as backups. I have an old pair as backup for when my DC headbutt me and break mine (again)

You're driving without knowing if your eyesight is good enough??

What is a gog botherer
If it's what I imagine it is, it sounds nasty and disablist.So explain,...

She has explained.

It's not your off-colour jokey names that bother me, it's the way you seem to think that your DH being without his glasses is a trivial matter and that he's making an unnecessary fuss. Just because you have only a minor impairment doesn't mean to say that he can manage without his glasses and is just wearing them for fun.

I disagree about having a spare pair. Glasses are expensive and some people can't afford to have a spare pair. Mine cost £800 just for the lenses. There's no way I could justify have a spare pair sat around in case something happened to the other pair. This, absolutely. In 60 years of glasses wearing, I have once needed to use a spare pair. So like many people, my "spare" is the set I used before my last prescription change. Possible to use, but not comfortable because my eyes have to get used to them again, just as they had to get used to my current pair. So his issue is not that he lacks a spare pair, but that he needs a spare pair because he can't trust you to treat his glasses with care.

@Lwmommy same prescription here fist bump

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If DH broke my glasses and called me obsessive for being pissed off, I'd twat him with the iPad.

It's an utter pain in the arse to replace glasses, expensive, in my case I wait over a week for them to be made as the lenses have to be thinned, and it means a trip to Specsavers and queues.
Unless you rely on specs you have no clue what it's like to go without them.

Ds is 9 and is autistic, dyspraxic and has sensory issues (amongst other things!) and even he knows the importance of looking after his glasses. In the last year they have broken once and that was pure accident. If he can get it then I am sure with a bit of thought the op could!

Minus 8 here, I can’t function without my glasses, when I lived alone it was an issue.

I think your clumsiness could be related to the fact that you possibly can’t see properly.

Does anyone else sometimes get the feeling they have forgotten how to read when the come across an OP which is just totally and utterly nonsensical?

‘Gog botherer’, ‘I’m not but should be but never went back’, ‘smeared’? It’s like a foreign language.

Gog botherer?

I would majorly panic without my glasses as I need them to, you know, see!

They're also really expensive. £250 recently just to replace the lenses.

They're also something you wear on your face so you don't want them look bent and broken.

If they don't sit right they can affect your vision.

I wear glasses. I generally need help to find the fucking things of a morning, because I am that myopic. I cannot go anywhere or do anything independently without them.

And hand in hand with a high, complex prescription comes great expense.

So if someone carelessly broke my glasses, I too would be fucking furious.

Also, the 'gog botherers' - really not cool. You sound very immature.

You can really tell which respondents wear glasses.

My glasses cost more than your iPad. I'm totally confused how you managed to mangle his glasses so badly. Smearing can be fixed by washing but did you whack down your iPad so hard that it went flying across the room or something?

Without my glasses I can't sit at a computer and type. I can't even wipe my arse after a poo and see if there's poo on the paper without bringing the paper close to my face.
It's bizarre that you think seeing is an obsession. It's more like a basic fucking necessity.

Accepting that the OP is clumsy, as she said, I don’t understand why the iPad ended up on top of his glasses on the bedside table. Unless there’s only one bedside table and one person has to reach over the other to get to it. If there’s a table each side, the glasses would be on his side and the iPad on the other.

Considering the recommendation is an eye test, at least every two years, the OP should have had at least eigh in the last seventeen years since the last one.

And no, I don't tend to have spares - my prescription changes annually due to a progressive eye condition. I'm not forking out for two pairs because they'll need updating in a year!

Well even urban dictionary is drawing a blank on gog botherer and asking if i meant god botherer never mind pin toon.
Are you sure you don't need glasses op