New lodger taking over my house!!!

[scrabbled]

Ahhh not sure if I'm being unreasonable as my last lodger kept himself very to himself and I know I was lucky.

New lodger moved in Saturday, but I was away.

He is taking over my house!!

• has installed a doorbell with alarms all over the house without asking me
• keeps his bedroom door open whilst blaring out rubbish heavy metal music
• has filled all available work spaces with protein and supplements and squeezed my stuff onto a tiny shelf
• stays up until the early hours watching tv in he living room and refusing to turn it down.
• kept his keys in the door so that when I got home from work I was locked out, as he was in the shower.

I've just been sitting quietly eating dinner and he has come in and turned on the TV and started watching something.

AIBU here? And if I'm not how do I tell him where the boundaries are?

Is it a special cake? Various things suggest drugs are involved?

Many many years ago in another country, then DH invited an old friend to stay in our spare room for a few days. A few days later, he turned out to be somewhat similar to the OP's lodger and eventually I had to dislodge him by packing his bags and putting him and them in the street. He was a psychotic and a control freak who scared the living daylights out of me. Get him gone, quick, quick, quick. Do you know a very helpful extremely large bloke who would enforce your wishes? Then change the locks. This will not end well otherwise.

A lodger shouldn't be doing any of the things listed in your original thread and agreed with others, ground rules should have been laid from before he moved in.

Your best course of action now is to give him notice asap and for the next lodger draw up strict ground rules.

This is why I always preferred to live in a flat or house share when I was younger as I had more control over the space in which I lived.

Squeaky doorhandles is usually a WD40 fix isnt it rather than removing them completely?

He is treating it like a house share.
I do wish people would stop saying this

Hear hear! I've houseshared for years (now have a lodger) and neither I nor anyone in any of my homes has ever meddled with bits of the house like he is. Alarms, door handles...

Please, OP, give him as short a notice period as you can immediately. I'd recommend having someone else there when you tell him, too.

I do wish people would stop diagnosing psychoses online though, it's ridiculous and unhelpful.

Confidently pronouncing he has a particular condition, or labelling him as "crazy" would I think be unhelpful. However, I think it does help the OP to flag up the fact that his behaviour is so far outside the realms of normal that we are in the realms of some sort of MH issue. And whilst I'm aware that people with MH problems more often harm themselves than others, I do think the OP could be at risk.

I'm treating all this as if it's real because I'd rather look a bit of an idiot myself, than treat someone who genuinely needs help as if they're a troll.

I'm going to diagnose him as a socially unaware twunt who thinks it's his house.

I wonder if he read this thread somehow. I think he will have a pattern of taking over your house with all his stuff, then reining it in, then doing something slightly different to the previous take-over.

I would say it's not working for me and it's time for him to move out. Why did he leave the house share?

What?! What absolute weirdo takes door handles off in someone else's house?!

@scrabbled the cake I could understand at a push... something to do on a wet Sunday ... bit inconsiderate to not check first whether you needed the kitchen.

But the door handles is just weird. He refused to turn his loud music down when you asked yet says the door handles are too loud? Nobody ... NOBODY without weird intentions removes door handles in a house that is not their own! Does this include your bedroom door? Can you still close / lock your bedroom door? I mean for your own safety!

Please get someone to come stay with you while you tell him to leave.

Op hasn't come back. Perhaps she is trapped in a room with no door handle! Seriously though, it would be good to know that psychotic CF has vacated the premises and that she is safe.

@scarbbled Are you OK? Talk to us!

@Scrabbled We are a bit worried...

She's not coming back, probably because she hasn't kicked him out.

You do realise this thread is 5 months old ???

He has to go right now!.What kind of a CF is he?.Unless he is very young and he doesnt understand rules he is absolutely taking the piss!Tell him he has to find somewhere by the end of next week!.Next time thoroughly vet them first!

Ghost thread!

First thing I would do is gather up all his crap in a bag and chuck it into his room.

ZOMBIE