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New lodger taking over my house!!!

496 replies

scrabbled · 26/02/2019 20:08

Ahhh not sure if I'm being unreasonable as my last lodger kept himself very to himself and I know I was lucky.

New lodger moved in Saturday, but I was away.

He is taking over my house!!

  • has installed a doorbell with alarms all over the house without asking me
  • keeps his bedroom door open whilst blaring out rubbish heavy metal music
  • has filled all available work spaces with protein and supplements and squeezed my stuff onto a tiny shelf
  • stays up until the early hours watching tv in he living room and refusing to turn it down.
  • kept his keys in the door so that when I got home from work I was locked out, as he was in the shower.

I've just been sitting quietly eating dinner and he has come in and turned on the TV and started watching something.

AIBU here? And if I'm not how do I tell him where the boundaries are?

OP posts:
Shambu · 03/03/2019 17:33

If this scenario is in any way real, it would be totally irresponsible not to flag the fact this guy may have serious mental health issues.

southnownorth · 03/03/2019 17:42

He reminds me of Chandler's lodger in Friends.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 03/03/2019 17:45

It's not a fact though, Shambu and there are altogether too many posters who like playing doctor. If posters actually had any responsibility, (they don't), that would be very irresponsible indeed, yes.

DailyMailWankers · 03/03/2019 17:47

There is a massive jump between is this guy taking the piss a bit and is this guy about to murder me.

She might post again just for support. She doesn't owe us anything. If it's annoying you then read another thread. If you think she's a troll then report. But you aren't being helpful by making a person who might really need a sounding board feel like she cant post.

Shambu · 03/03/2019 17:50

There are no facts on the internet.

But if a man genuinely behaves like this, failing to flag the implications would be totally irresponsible.

OneDayIWish · 03/03/2019 18:53

You said your boyfriend was coming over on Friday, and you were going to tell the lodger then that he had to leave? Has this happened?

MumW · 03/03/2019 20:00

Then yesterday morning he took all the door handles off the internal doors because he thought they were squeaky? ShockConfused

If he'd said, "I hope you don't mind but I noticed the door hamdles squeak so put a bit of WD40 on them"
To which you could have said "Thanks, I've been meaning to do it but I'd appreciate it if you asked before helping with my bome maintenance"

Then you might have been able to brush it off but to remove the door handles - WTF.

And as for the cake, sounds like a flippin' wedding cake. If you're baking anything other than a standard sponge surely you'd say, I'd like to make a cake, it'll take 5 hours is that ok or will you need the oven before then.

Hope he shares it with you. Cake It better be bloody delicious after all that upheaval.

TheHodgeoftheHedge · 03/03/2019 20:16

but I would never have foreseen this!

Apart from all his behaviour from the minute he moved in. Ffs.

Itssosunny · 03/03/2019 22:59

Why do people ask questions and then disappear? It happens so often.

WellThisIsShit · 03/03/2019 23:19

Instead of just telling us what has happened, can you tell us how you are feeling? How has his actions impacted on you?

You sound so passive and not particularly bothered by your lodgers behaviour.

What do you think you should be doing about this?

mantlepiece · 03/03/2019 23:30

Some people like a bit of drama in their lives!

Jux · 03/03/2019 23:37

Did you get to sample the cake?

Has he put the internal door handles back on?

Have you kicked him out?

The door handle thing would have absolutely finished it for me, and he'd have been gone in the morning (minus the cake, I'd keep that!).

PepsiLola · 03/03/2019 23:39

Did you tell him to put door handles back on or just say ok and leave him to it?

You're sounding like a push over op

NorthernLurker · 03/03/2019 23:47

How very odd

Thinkinghappythoughts · 04/03/2019 00:14

Bonkers

TheMaddHugger · 04/03/2019 01:04

armchair diagnosis here. He sounds manic depressive. there is definitely something wrong with Him.. or with the OP 🤷‍♀️👀

ThunderStorms · 04/03/2019 01:23

If it’s true..

Do you have locks on your bedroom door?

andypudding · 04/03/2019 05:04

I'm not sure how you are sleeping at night...

Ruru8thestars · 04/03/2019 05:51

Very odd

forumdonkey · 04/03/2019 07:36

Did he take the handles off and leave them off?

MiniCooperLover · 04/03/2019 07:40

Why the fuck didn't you stop him at door handle one? Assuming this is true you are a doormat OP 🙄

slipperywhensparticus · 04/03/2019 07:48
Delatron · 04/03/2019 08:00

I wouldn’t even stay in the house with him.

Very unnerving behaviour. I have no idea why you didn’t ask him to leave from the moment this all started.

Gotthetshirt23 · 04/03/2019 08:21

Perhaps he's a bake off fan....
Schicherttorte or Small Island cake ?
Grin

Aaaahfuck · 04/03/2019 08:25

I've read the thread. I'm wondering if he doesn't understand the difference between a house share and lodging?

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