New lodger taking over my house!!!

[scrabbled]

Ahhh not sure if I'm being unreasonable as my last lodger kept himself very to himself and I know I was lucky.

New lodger moved in Saturday, but I was away.

He is taking over my house!!

• has installed a doorbell with alarms all over the house without asking me
• keeps his bedroom door open whilst blaring out rubbish heavy metal music
• has filled all available work spaces with protein and supplements and squeezed my stuff onto a tiny shelf
• stays up until the early hours watching tv in he living room and refusing to turn it down.
• kept his keys in the door so that when I got home from work I was locked out, as he was in the shower.

I've just been sitting quietly eating dinner and he has come in and turned on the TV and started watching something.

AIBU here? And if I'm not how do I tell him where the boundaries are?

I'd be packing his bags and moving him out! Cheeky twunt that he is

Evict him.

Not being unreasonable about any of those things. I’d ask him to move out, he has no respect for you.

YANBU - what a tit. Get him out.

Tell him to get the fuck out.

He locked you out of your hone...

Just get rid!

Oh wow. Honestly I would say there is too much here to fix. I think he fundamentally misunderstands what being a lodger (or actually sharing living space with anyone) means.

I don’t think it’ll work. I’d get rid.

Wow! This is insane and of course YANBU
Get him out ASAP!

Id be telling him it's not working and he needs to go

Kick him out

This for real?

Get rid of him, lodgers have very few rights

Wow. I'd sit him down tonight and read the riot act culminating in giving him notice!

Yanbu

Try this:

'I'm afraid this isn't working out, you've overstepped some boundaries and I think it's best you find alternative accomodation'

Get them to leave now.

If he's doing this sort of thing within a week of moving in, heaven knows what he will be like once he's "settled in" in a month or so

Turn the TV off right now, then tell him to leave. And remove his doorbell and alarms before he starts to pack.
You are definately NBU

Erm... am I missing something? Just tell him to clear his shit off the bench, turn down the tv, and wear headphones, or else to move out. And take the doorbell alarms down, repeatedly, if necessary.

Do you want one of us to come do it for you?

Why the fuck are you passively accepting this man taking over your house?

Tell him it's not working out and fuck off.
Change your locks once he is out.

Dear God, no wonder he's taking the piss if you're too scared to tell him to pack it in.

It's your home. Woman the hell up and sort it! And tell him to get rid of the doorbell and if he locks the door again from the inside, he's gone.

You're not sure if you're being unreasonable?

How did he move if you weren't there?

What agreement do you have with him? You did meet and interview him, yes....??

Why are you being so accepting of his behaviour, I personally would give him notice... Its like a mouse making a lion feel uncomfortable in its own habitat. Dont put up with it!

I asked him to keep some protein in his room, as there's clearly no WAY he can be using it all, and he just said no. I mean, this is just one part of my kitchen.

Yabu if you don't give him notice today. He's decided it's his house and your needs come second - for fuck's sake get him out before he marginalises you any more