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Original poster

New lodger taking over my house!!!

496 replies

scrabbled · 26/02/2019 20:08

Ahhh not sure if I'm being unreasonable as my last lodger kept himself very to himself and I know I was lucky.

New lodger moved in Saturday, but I was away.

He is taking over my house!!

  • has installed a doorbell with alarms all over the house without asking me
  • keeps his bedroom door open whilst blaring out rubbish heavy metal music
  • has filled all available work spaces with protein and supplements and squeezed my stuff onto a tiny shelf
  • stays up until the early hours watching tv in he living room and refusing to turn it down.
  • kept his keys in the door so that when I got home from work I was locked out, as he was in the shower.

I've just been sitting quietly eating dinner and he has come in and turned on the TV and started watching something.

AIBU here? And if I'm not how do I tell him where the boundaries are?

OP posts:
Samind · 26/02/2019 20:34

If there's a contract were there any stipulations? When I moved in with a live in landlord years ago, it was made crystal clear what wouldn't be tolerated; bringing one nighters back (steady partners were fine) we had separate lounging areas, respect property etc and told me that I was welcome to have friends over but not house party type situation and to try and keep noise down in morning if up early for work. Also said to me that we'd look into a month probation at the start. Was the simplest arrangement ever and we ended up being good friends going out for drinks or sitting out in summer weather etc and still are even though I moved out couple of years ago.

MitziK · 26/02/2019 20:36

Don't you mean 'Ex Lodger Tried To Take Over My House'?

Get him out. Now. Call the police if he refuses to move immediately, too.

CurlyhairedAssassin · 26/02/2019 20:37

Op, in the nicest possible way, you need to grow a pair. This is YOUR house, YOU set the ground rules.

I would have chucked him out in the first instance of twattishness not waited till I had a full list to post on MN.

Get rid . Tomorrow.

Sparklesocks · 26/02/2019 20:37

You can ask him to leave, tell him you’re not compatible as housemates and it’s not working out.

TwoBlueFish · 26/02/2019 20:38

It’s your house, he’s refusing to turn the tv down, refusing to keep items in his room and walking all over you. Time to tell him to leave, he thinks he’s your flat mate not your lodger.

Original poster
scrabbled · 26/02/2019 20:38

I interviewed thoroughly and he told me he spends most time in his room etc, which is obviously not true.

Now he's asked if I mind putting another mirror up in the bathroom for him so he can trim his beard. I firmly said no and he said he would buy one tomorrow! I said NO again and he went quiet but did go and remove a protein bag from the kitchen.

OP posts:
PuppyMonkey · 26/02/2019 20:39

No, that’s perfectly normal behaviour from a lodger who has just moved into someone else’s house. You have to just put up with this I’m afraid OP.Wink

Lifeisabeach09 · 26/02/2019 20:39

Things won't get better.
Get rid.

Samind · 26/02/2019 20:40

I'd get him out the ignoramous. Have someone with you though. Sounds like a weirdo.

whitehorsesdonotlie · 26/02/2019 20:41

Does he have a contract? If so, what does it say??

Cheeky twat. Sounds like a nightmare. I'm not sure how you can come back from this, OP. I'd ask him to leave.

DonnaDarko · 26/02/2019 20:41

Tell him your house, your rules. Give him the rules. If he doesn't like it, give him notice.

As a landlord, you've got to be more assertive!

Travis1 · 26/02/2019 20:41

@scrabbled honestly mate give him his notice. I’m assuming you have a contract with a 2 week notice period? Get him out ASAP.

Mmmhmmm · 26/02/2019 20:41

Just evict the entitled CF.

ohfourfoxache · 26/02/2019 20:41

You need to get rid. He’s being an inconsiderate, CF wankstain

CurlyhairedAssassin · 26/02/2019 20:42

“If I was being generous I’d say he doesn’t understand the difference between a lodger and a flatshare”

But you DID clarify this, and set ground rules when you interviewed him, didn’t you?

timeisnotaline · 26/02/2019 20:43

Hahaa are you nuts? Evict him. The music alone would have him out in my house!

Whisky2014 · 26/02/2019 20:45

Now he's asked if I mind putting another mirror up in the bathroom for him so he can trim his beard. I firmly said no and he said he would buy one tomorrow! that's because your response should have been "yes" if you minded.
Do you mind? No, I don't mind.
Do you mind? Yes, I mind.

See?

Anyway he is an arsehole and you need to give him his notice.

Siriismyonlyfriend · 26/02/2019 20:46

If this is what he’s done in the space of moving In on sat you do realise that you will end up like a lodger in your own home hiding in your room. Get rid ASAP and change the locks

XingMing · 26/02/2019 20:47

Sounds appalling. Get rid ASAP, with the assistance of friends if you need muscle.

DontDribbleOnTheCarpet · 26/02/2019 20:47

He's doing this on purpose. He's congratulating himself on getting a cheap place to live where he can behave as if he owns the place.
Do you have a friend or family member who could come and stay for a few days, while you get rid of him? I'd be worried about him getting nasty when you really stand up to him and tell him to leave.

bigcomfypants · 26/02/2019 20:47

Get rid, he's only going to get worst. This is the thin end of the wedge.

Original poster
scrabbled · 26/02/2019 20:47

@Whisky2014 I meant I said no, I'm not putting another mirror up.

OP posts:
winsinbin · 26/02/2019 20:47

He has to go.

BollocksToBrexit · 26/02/2019 20:49

Are you scared of him?

Mof3K · 26/02/2019 20:49

Have you taken any of the unanimous comments on board OP ? He's a cheeky fucker tell him it's not working and he needs to leave!!

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