Daughter not invited to my brothers wedding abroad

[Alicia870]

My daughter will be approaching 2 when my brother gets married in Croatia. Ive only just found out they are not having children at the wedding and she is not invited. He also wants us all to go out 3 days before the wedding and to stay the day after for other events and gatherings. So it would mean we will have to leave her with dh's parenrs for about 5 days. She is the only niece he has and I can't help but feel upset by this. It's a long time to leave her and I feel like she is part of the family too and can't see how she would do much harm. I wouldn't mind if it was at home as I understand some people don't want kids at a wedding but isn't it a bit much to expect us to go abroad and just leave her for days?

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Ooh thanks for @ing that time howwillwedeal! I'll have a look.

@LunafortJest She didn’t really apologise though. She tried to pretend she’d said something completely different and blamed people for “misunderstanding” when they didn’t.

Recognising a fake, snidey “apology” does not make people vipers, actually.

Also, I don’t think you’re supposed to accuse people of being trolls.

Anyway, OP glad you’ve come to a decision.

When someone apologises like @MadMadaMim did, that's an act of good faith and should be treated accordingly, the vipers making snide comments after sound quite nasty and troll-like.

Except she didn't apologise. She lied about what she'd actually said in her first rant. So take your own snide 'viper' comments and toddle off.

HTH.

@Quintella Actually, yes, she did apologise if you even bothered to read her posts. Clearly I hit a nerve regarding the viper comment, maybe you should slither back into your snake hole.

HTH

@LunafortJest

It didn't come across as an apology, more a justification.

Actually, yes, she did apologise if you even bothered to read her posts. Clearly I hit a nerve regarding the viper comment, maybe you should slither back into your snake hole.

Curious that you're so enraged. And how sad that you have problems with basic reading comprehension. Wishing you all the very best.

Lunafort
She said she’d also like to apologise for shouting re the caps lock issue. Despite using also there was no apology for anything else. She then went on to reiterate what she’d said in her original post but in a less abrasive way. And then attacked posters, who expressed displeasure at her posts. Hardly the behaviour of someone, who is contrite.

@Quintella No enragement from me, I wonder why you are so enraged and so invested. Perhaps it is you reading rage into a post where it doesn't exist, just as you have problems with basic reading and comprehension. You seem to have a lot of issues

Can you take your daughter with you, but not bring her to the wedding. You and DP take it in turns to stay with her?

My mum and dad always declined childfree weddings on principle, I am inclined to follow in their footsteps. For starters, I would rather use babysitting favours on literally anything else.

maybe you should slither back into your snake hole

Something an absolutely calm and collected person says.

Poor love. So enraged.

• "She lied about what she'd actually said in her first rant. So take your own snide 'viper' comments and toddle off.

HTH." *

I meet like with like. Clearly you were enraged to start off with to pick a fight with me. Don't snipe at someone if you aren't prepared to take it, honey.

HTH

Who is right Luna or Quintella.... only one way to find out

Poor @LunafortJest, that rage is never very far from the surface, is it?

Camomile tea might help? Or a seaside sojourn?

FFS this is pathetic. 'honey-ing' someone is the sure fire sign of a lost cause.

The OP has long since sorted it, and the other poster who dared express an opinion others disagreed with has since apologised (in a fashion) so repeatedly tagging her and sniping on at her is just ridiculous.

You tell me @Quintella, you're the one who desperately needs to let go of the anger you feel.

I simply wouldn't go.

I wouldn't go either (I missed my SIL's wedding) but the OP is obviously nicer and more self sacrificing than me.

Oh dear, @LunafortJest, indulged in a few Friday sherries and then decided to do some late night peevish posting?

Lol I wish I had time to have drinks. Luckily you appear to have enough for both of us.

Yes people have the right to choose their wedding but ffs people are precious. Five days abroad all about them - people having to use what could be a quarter of their annual leave a load of money and then you're told you can't take your child?

No way would I go.

Good god stop sniping at each other! Take it to personal messages if you each can't let the other have the final say!

It's ok, I'm going to hide this thread now. I don't think the OP is going to come back anyway.

Bye, @LunafortJest. Hope your hangover wasn't too awful and that it didn't make you overly waspish to those around you!