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Pretending that I did it ...

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Glitterzzz · 23/02/2019 20:00

So.. I am no chef but I can bake.. my OH asked me for a carrot cake sometime soon.. usually I would be happy to run round the supermarket get the ingredients and stand in the kitchen to turn out a half decent baked delight some hours later

But

I’m tired. It’s half term. I’m run crazy with two children with additional needs, no school or nursery breaks and trying to keep the house and I’m on a diet myself ... so I cheated.

I contacted a cake maker ordered the cake and was gutted to see how professional it looked when I collected it today considering how much u paid for it... in the need to make it seem I baked it lovingly for him I brought it home and have roughed it up a little... ( smudges in the Cream cheese frosting, a dent here a dent there and whizzed up some pecans and walnuts and whacked them on top...

Unfortunately the real baker had gone to the effort of making little sugar paste carrot decorations which she seems to have apples with a orange substance so I removed them and will just say I attempted a decoration that failed...

Does this cake look home made but not too fancy/ professional? Why do I even care ? 😂😂 I guess I love him and wanted to give him something he wanted and of course all the thanks of how lovely it is and how hard I must have worked

Pretending that I did it ...
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GinandGingerBeer · 23/02/2019 20:28

You know this rouse is going to go on for years don't you Wink

'Make that carrot one again DW, it was sublime'

He'll probably rumble you but not tell you he's cottoned on and have you faking making it forever.

longestlurkerever · 23/02/2019 20:29

I am not really concerned about the dishonesty, more the pressure you are putting on yourself to be the perfect wife. If you are sure you are happy that's ok though I guess.

MiddleClassProblem · 23/02/2019 20:29

I just don’t get how you’re doing this to treat him and be impressed by you but if you lie he’ll be impressed but not actually by you so not sure how that would feel the same...

icelollycraving · 23/02/2019 20:30

Result! Smart move, everyone happy.

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Glitterzzz · 23/02/2019 20:30

Any tips how to remove the cake board! Thanks to whoever pointed that out

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LifeCasting · 23/02/2019 20:30

This reminds me of a time in my DD’s school. We were given a paper plate to “supply with a cake for the sale”. It was a busy time at work, so I bought an Emma Mason (??) country cake from Co-Op and stuck a few Maltesers in it. I wrapped it in clingfilm and gave to the former Mr LifeCasting to take into school with the DD.

He told me that one of the Mums stopped him en route and asked him if he baked it. He said no, and she assumed I did & said she’d definitely be looking out to buy it. Think it sold for a tenner!

Eeek though! I was worried for ages, about some mum asking me for my cake recipe...

Amoregentlemanlikemanner · 23/02/2019 20:31

Oh no, cake board problems!

IAmNotAWitch · 23/02/2019 20:31

"he will get his cake and be happy, the baker got paid , and I got that time to chill rather than cook... win win"

But all that could happen without the lie.

This is pretty strange behaviour. I just don't understand why you would lie.

Very odd.

Sparklingbrook · 23/02/2019 20:31

What's wrong wih it being on a cake board?

Fruitbatdancer · 23/02/2019 20:31
  1. they sell loads of cake boards in hobby craft tell him u bought one - or shove it on a plate- bashing it a bit will make it look more authentic!
  2. are you in Kent? Can I have the cake bakers number 🤣
icelollycraving · 23/02/2019 20:31

Slide a v sharp knife under to slide it out, Remember to hide it properly in the rubbish.

NotStayingIn · 23/02/2019 20:33

But isn't the fact that you bought him a fancy cake from a really fab bakery a great thing? Why lie? So you didn't have time to make one, you still went to lots of effort to get him a lovely treat. I'm baffled as to why you would feel the need to lie.

Wordle · 23/02/2019 20:34

£20 is great for that cake!

Amoregentlemanlikemanner · 23/02/2019 20:34

You need a sheet of something with a sharp edge...

Or a plausible explanation for the cake board

HettieBettie · 23/02/2019 20:34

I would do this!!

RagingWhoreBag · 23/02/2019 20:34

to the ones asking me about destroying trust in my relationship over a white lie of a bloody carrot cake... get a grip

You’re faking washing up and we’re the ones who need to get a grip!?

I would honestly think less of anyone who could lie to my face regardless of what it’s about.

A couple of times I’ve questioned something that my DP. It makes me think “if he’s lying about this, what else has he lied about?” - it really shakes my faith in him, even when the lie isn’t told to me, just to hear the ease with which he can tell someone something I know not to be true.

It’s such a pointless and petty thing to lie about, but it sets a precedent that you can’t be trusted. Unless you’re going to have a big reveal at the end where you come clean. Otherwise you’re literally just a liar.

Little white lie, big thumping great lie, they’re all lies.

SeigneurLapindeGrantham · 23/02/2019 20:34

Ah what's the harm in taking all the credit, it looks yummy. Reminds me of an episode of Come Dine With Me years ago when a contestant ordered all her courses from the local restaurant who came round with them and passed them to her through the kitchen window. She won too!!

ButtonMooooon · 23/02/2019 20:34

You can buy cake boards in supermarkets, just tell him you saw it and thought it would add an extra touch

ILoveMaxiBondi · 23/02/2019 20:36

  1. sorry to disappoint you OP but it looks like a professional cake- he’s a chef, he’ll be able to tell

  2. he’s a chef, he’ll be able to tell from the taste and appearance once cut that you didn’t make it. hes a chef!

  3. you’re bonkers! Grin

MuchTooTired · 23/02/2019 20:37

I’ve never lied to my dh about food, but I have bought pre packaged sandwiches on they way to a couple of birthday parties (the bring a dish type ones!) then cut them in to quarters and roughed them up a little so they looked homemade before wrapping in cling film.

I’d probably fess up for the cake if I were you op, and stress the point that I did put all the nuts on top Grin

AuntieOxident · 23/02/2019 20:37

I can’t get too exercised about this, the cake looks good, it’s big and not too bad at all for £20.
I’m sure i’ve told the odd fib in 20-plus years of marriage and DH has too in all probability. Somehow we have survived.
Ignore the self-righteousness OP. As you say, win-win.

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Glitterzzz · 23/02/2019 20:37

really don’t know if I should remove that cake board ... I’m in Sussex and yes I couldn’t believe the quality and the size for the price... I hope it tastes just as good as it looks...

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CherryPavlova · 23/02/2019 20:38

Perfectly acceptable to make life easier and cheat sometimes. It’s quite sweet you want to impress him.
Remove cakeboard by using a large fish slice and sliding onto a plate. Hold board at plate height and slide across rather than lifting.

Amoregentlemanlikemanner · 23/02/2019 20:38

Could you make another cake to cover for this cake?

WhoKnewBeefStew · 23/02/2019 20:38

Why didn’t you just buy one from Tesco and fob it off as yours. Seems extreme to pay for a cakemaker