Pretending that I did it ...

[Glitterzzz]

So.. I am no chef but I can bake.. my OH asked me for a carrot cake sometime soon.. usually I would be happy to run round the supermarket get the ingredients and stand in the kitchen to turn out a half decent baked delight some hours later

But

I’m tired. It’s half term. I’m run crazy with two children with additional needs, no school or nursery breaks and trying to keep the house and I’m on a diet myself ... so I cheated.

I contacted a cake maker ordered the cake and was gutted to see how professional it looked when I collected it today considering how much u paid for it... in the need to make it seem I baked it lovingly for him I brought it home and have roughed it up a little... ( smudges in the Cream cheese frosting, a dent here a dent there and whizzed up some pecans and walnuts and whacked them on top...

Unfortunately the real baker had gone to the effort of making little sugar paste carrot decorations which she seems to have apples with a orange substance so I removed them and will just say I attempted a decoration that failed...

Does this cake look home made but not too fancy/ professional? Why do I even care ? 😂😂 I guess I love him and wanted to give him something he wanted and of course all the thanks of how lovely it is and how hard I must have worked

Come clean tomorrow, tell him you were exhausted. Just take a slice out of it, eat it, sod the diet for one day and tell him to bake the next one lol.

But why?

All I want to know, as another Sussex resident, where is it that I can get cakes like that for £20!!

Not bothered to read the whole thread as it's completely nuts. But I'm the 5 minutes you spent messaging her, 40 odd minutes to collect it and lots of minutes posting on here about it, could you and the kids not just have baked one?

Whilst I can see the funny side it is weird behaviour. Why do you feel the need to impresss your husband so much? Do something nice for him yes but it sounds a bit needy. I would hate to be in a relationship with someone who think it’s ok to lie to me like that. It would make me doubt them generally. Those laughing it off and saying were being judgemental should also take note as they are probably the same kind of person. Honesty is important in a relationship on all levels. One little lie can start to build up. Why is your husband asking you to bake anyway, why can’t he do it himself if he’s a chef? Just sounds wrong to me.

I think perhaps as a general rule women take this more seriously than men. As another pp did I asked my dh what he'd do if he asked me to make a cake and I bought one and pretended, and then he found out. He said he'd think I was a bit weird, but would find it funny and wouldn't care. He was not bothered about the deceit! I wouldn't be either to be honest, think I'd find it hilarious.

Home bargains sell a Jane Asher carrot cake mix (and other types) for around £1.50 and it's pretty darn good - lots of people have commented and I accept their comments graciously ☺
I love to bake but will always keep a few of these in storage for when I'm just too tired or tight for time. Plus they are really easy for older children who want to cook by themselves sometimes.

An AS (after another poster mentioned it) sheds a new light.

People are taking this so seriously! It's hilarious :D

I'd be highly amused if my DH did this.

"I am doing okay with the guilt of my awful deception. I am not feeling like I will need any councelling or medication to deal with it at any point in the near future So rest assured me and the cake are doing very well"

yay! team OP all the way here.

Good to see more posters who get this. 😀

I hope you waved a fond farewell to the rest of the cake (and your DH) as he went to work today OP.

Btw my DD went shopping yesterday afternoon (Sainsbos) and I requested carrot cake....she returned with coffee. It seems they were all sold out of carrot - wonder why 🤔

It’s not that people don’t get it. It’s that it’s not funny!

Ok...good to see more posters who find it funny because they get it. Others don’t find it funny and think it weird. Everyone’s different in how they see things.

When I was a busy mum I did this all the time - £3.50 from the Womens Institute market, and a cake that was way better than anything I could produce. These were always for a school event or church fete. Sometimes I owned up, sometimes I didn't.

@DaphneduM I think buying a cake for a school fete is totally different though. When I was well enough and had time, I’d do my own baking for school, birthday parties etc. When I was ill or had been in hospital, I’d buy or order a cake. My dd always knew/knows and it didn’t bother her one jot. School didn’t care as long as they got cake.

I nearly always make DH’s birthday cakes; sometimes they’re reasonably impressive, sometimes they look dodgy. Sometimes they’re from M&S. He’s always happy.

I don’t do it to impress anyone, or for the praise and the thanks, I do it because I love DH and DD and they seem to enjoy my cooking, disasters and all.

He’s sometimes too busy or too tired to do jobs I physically can’t do so I’m grateful when he gets round to them. I’m trying to imagine him getting a gardener or decorator in while I was out, paying them, smearing mud or paint on his clothes, putting them in the wash, making the work look less professional and then lying to me, saying he did it.

I’m not a “sour faced cow” or a “negative nelly” but I would think he’d gone mental. I’d also worry about why he felt the need to lie to me and go to such lengths to make the lie convincing, instead of just saying ‘Can it wait until next week, darling?”

I love a good joke but this is not funny. It’s a really odd way to behave to the one person in life you should be able to be completely honest with.

If you “get it” and think it’s “hilarious”, great. But just because you’d do it yourself, doesn’t mean it’s funny or something the rest of us should do just to make you feel better.

I don't have a massive problem with the dishonesty as there is no harm done. I don't like it though - wanting to impress your DH so much you would like snacks of such low self esteem and 1950s values. I don't find it funny or sweet. I prefer the angle that she just wanted her husband to feel loved but this was another poster's take and not the OP's words. I also don't like the attitude to posters who fail to see it as hilarious. Men do this to women all the time - make out it's our problem for being humourless when we see something problematic about a so called joke.

Cake aside (I’ve never cared enough about impressing any man myself!) OP I applaud your cheery attitude in the face of all these hysterical armchair psychologists!
Most people would flounce or get dragged into defending themselves
Good luck with your weigh in (unless you’re also doing that for him of course ) and enjoy the

Most people would flounce

The OP did flounce. Then she came back having said she wouldn’t.

The OP did flounce. Then she came back having said she wouldn’t. wink

Good grief, how pathetic. wink.

@Glitterzzz - this is brilliant, just the sort of thing i'd do before having a glass of wine, confessing to OH & him pointing out it would of been quicker & easier to just of made it from the start

What did you tell him about the cream cheese frosting when he asked OP?

Allison Pearsons book ‘ I Don’t Know How She Does It’ is a fab read. It begins with a high flying working mum in the kitchen late at night. She’s battering shop bought mince pies to make them look less perfect so she can pass them off as homemade ones to send to her child’s school. So funny.

Dear God. Reading this thread felt like we'd stepped back in time to the 1950s with the little housewife not wanting to upset her dh by making sure he'd got all his cake needs met. If you're knackered OP say so! Don't concoct ridiculous tales to maintain the domestic servant game.

Oh my god! This thread has unhealthily sucked me in to the point where I am now EATING CARROT CAKE whilst I answer. I have invested way too much time in it but please, for the love of God and whatever shreds remain of my sanity, someone answer me this:

Why wouldn’t saying to DH ‘I’ve commissioned this lovely carrot cake just for you’ not be exactly and completely as special as saying ‘here is a cake I’ve made you’? Seriously. It’s not a supermarket cake. It’s a fancy one from a baker.

I don’t get it and it’s driving me insane! Why not say you bought him a fancy cake? Why? Why? So much effort and time put into faking it for no reason at all!

None of the above means I think that your children should be taken into care or that your relationship is a web of lies or that you are a compulsive cheat. It means I cannot understand the difference between ‘I’ve bought you a special cake’ and ‘ive Made you a special cake’. Both are equally thoughtful and both make the recipient equally happy!!!!

I suppose it depends on the relationship and your personalities whether you find it funny. It really wouldn’t worry me or DH, if he was extremely impressed I’d probably end up confessing and we’d laugh about it. If he did it, I’d know .
If it tastes as good as it looks then I think £20 was a bargain. It’s huge so if you are trying not to succumb then freeze half of it, that’s what I do.