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Pretending that I did it ...

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Glitterzzz · 23/02/2019 20:00

So.. I am no chef but I can bake.. my OH asked me for a carrot cake sometime soon.. usually I would be happy to run round the supermarket get the ingredients and stand in the kitchen to turn out a half decent baked delight some hours later

But

I’m tired. It’s half term. I’m run crazy with two children with additional needs, no school or nursery breaks and trying to keep the house and I’m on a diet myself ... so I cheated.

I contacted a cake maker ordered the cake and was gutted to see how professional it looked when I collected it today considering how much u paid for it... in the need to make it seem I baked it lovingly for him I brought it home and have roughed it up a little... ( smudges in the Cream cheese frosting, a dent here a dent there and whizzed up some pecans and walnuts and whacked them on top...

Unfortunately the real baker had gone to the effort of making little sugar paste carrot decorations which she seems to have apples with a orange substance so I removed them and will just say I attempted a decoration that failed...

Does this cake look home made but not too fancy/ professional? Why do I even care ? 😂😂 I guess I love him and wanted to give him something he wanted and of course all the thanks of how lovely it is and how hard I must have worked

Pretending that I did it ...
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Original poster
Glitterzzz · 23/02/2019 20:16

The cake was £20.
It took 3 Facebook messages and a 15 min drive to collect.
2 mins to assemble the blender and whizz the topping
30 seconds to Chuck some bake wear in the sink.

I faked it because I’m tired but I wanted to impress him. Yes, years later I still have that desire... 🙀🙀👍🏼 My point of the post was checking it doesn’t look to professional ?

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YNBU · 23/02/2019 20:16

I used to lie about not having a cleaner if that helps Grin

Thingsthatgo · 23/02/2019 20:17

I have real issues with lies in a relationship, even harmless lies like ‘look at this delicious cake I baked for you’!
If my DH claimed to have cooked dinner from scratch and it turned out to be a m and s meal, I would be really hurt that he tried to con me, not delighted that he had made a delicious meal.

TheZeppo · 23/02/2019 20:17

I think it’s funny 🤷‍♀️

BartonHollow · 23/02/2019 20:18

"I promise I am mentally balanced and in a non abusive relationship"

Ok. We only have your word.

But can you see how people made that leap purely off your own words?

Lovethetimeyouhave · 23/02/2019 20:18

It doesn't look too professional. I get why you've done it and it's kinda sweet. Hope it tastes great

HundredMilesAnHour · 23/02/2019 20:18

I think this is really odd. Why can't you just tell him the truth?

The fact you've even faked the washing-up is concerning. It doesn't say much for your honesty in your relationship. You "feel pressure"? Just tell the truth. How will you behave when you need to talk about something serious when you can't even tell the truth about baking a cake? Just bizarre.

MiddleClassProblem · 23/02/2019 20:19

But he wk t really be impressed with you because you didn’t do it... surely you can both feel more of a genuine wa feeling if you just say “I didn’t have time but wanted to tear you so got one made...”

Amoregentlemanlikemanner · 23/02/2019 20:19

This is really funny!

MiddleClassProblem · 23/02/2019 20:20

I don’t understand how you will feel good about him being impressed for something you didn’t do but are taking credit for. I just find it odd.

SlangBack · 23/02/2019 20:20

I would bill him £1.50 per slice Cake

DisplayPurposesOnly · 23/02/2019 20:21

It's not 'sweet', it's completely batshit. And the layering and layering of deception (faking the washing up??) has failed to convince me otherwise.

iamyourequal · 23/02/2019 20:21

I am concerned at your dishonesty. Would it not be better to come clean? I don’t understand why you bothered outsourcing in the first place. Perhaps he will be annoyed you splurged £20 on a cake you could have made for less than a fiver. (But hopefully he will be chuffed to bits and won’t care!)
BTW it doesn’t even take 15 minutes to make a carrot cake if you have a recipe that just uses sunflower oil instead of faffing around creaming sugar and butter etc. It’s an all-in-one cake recipe!

Bacardi101 · 23/02/2019 20:21

Op that’s a genius ideaGrin I did something very similar on a first date with my now DP. I told him I would cook for him I can’t cook for love nor money anddidnt want to put him off so bought curry from the curry house and poured it into an ovenproof dish and put it in the oven to make it look like I cooked it Blush

Knittedfairies · 23/02/2019 20:22

I hope it doesn't taste too good, so that he wants another...

Dogmum94 · 23/02/2019 20:23

I’m a professional cake maker and all I can think is how gutted I would be if I spent all that time and effort perfecting a cake for someone to then ruin it on purpose and try and pass my effort off as their own!
Each to their own tho I guess Grin

WorraLiberty · 23/02/2019 20:23

Honestly, the more you post the weirder all this sounds OP.

My ex husband used to do this - lie at the drop of a hat for no real reason. It was weird that it was his sort of 'go to' thing to do, rather than just tell the truth about little things.

What if he casually asks the kids if they helped or something like that?

Will they have to lie too?

TowelNumber42 · 23/02/2019 20:23

Exactly how rich and good in bed is this bloke that you couldn't risk a minor cake-based disappointment? realises that in own life cake-based disappointments are never minor

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Glitterzzz · 23/02/2019 20:24

Must admit I wish I could have a taste ! Some of the cream cheese frosting came off on the drive home so I got a small taste ! I’m glad that some of you ladies also have told little white lies and to the ones asking me about destroying trust in my relationship over a white lie of a bloody carrot cake... get a grip!

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bobstersmum · 23/02/2019 20:25

I don't care who made that just send it to me!

bobstersmum · 23/02/2019 20:26

I don't care who made that just send it to me!

Kahlua4me · 23/02/2019 20:26

Cake looks great and home made. Putting the nuts on and not too symmetrical helps.

Just make sure it’s not on one of those round cardboard thingys that shop cakes are always on 😂!

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Glitterzzz · 23/02/2019 20:26

He’s neither rich and I’ve aged him in the last 4 years but he works 70 plus hours a week and he doesn’t ask me for much.. so when he did I didn’t wanna say no... wow I’ve just realised that he will get his cake and be happy, the baker got paid , and I got that time to chill rather than cook... win win

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Glitterzzz · 23/02/2019 20:27

Dam it is on a cake board! I don’t dare try to move it off for fear of it breaking somehow

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Paddy1234 · 23/02/2019 20:28

I would so do this!
I wouldn't feel guilty at all

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