Pretending that I did it ...

[Glitterzzz]

So.. I am no chef but I can bake.. my OH asked me for a carrot cake sometime soon.. usually I would be happy to run round the supermarket get the ingredients and stand in the kitchen to turn out a half decent baked delight some hours later

But

I’m tired. It’s half term. I’m run crazy with two children with additional needs, no school or nursery breaks and trying to keep the house and I’m on a diet myself ... so I cheated.

I contacted a cake maker ordered the cake and was gutted to see how professional it looked when I collected it today considering how much u paid for it... in the need to make it seem I baked it lovingly for him I brought it home and have roughed it up a little... ( smudges in the Cream cheese frosting, a dent here a dent there and whizzed up some pecans and walnuts and whacked them on top...

Unfortunately the real baker had gone to the effort of making little sugar paste carrot decorations which she seems to have apples with a orange substance so I removed them and will just say I attempted a decoration that failed...

Does this cake look home made but not too fancy/ professional? Why do I even care ? 😂😂 I guess I love him and wanted to give him something he wanted and of course all the thanks of how lovely it is and how hard I must have worked

I put all my cakes on cake boards, buy in bulk off amazon and reuse when possible so I wouldn't overly worry about the board

Great idea, OP!
Enjoy!

Don't know how to do the @ thing yet, but gosh! Thank you, CaptainBrickbeard

My point of the post was to ask if I had managed to make it look less professionally made.

I never realised that so many people have such fragile limits on honesty and are so insecure that if their partner was to tell a similar lie that this would shatter and destroy the trust they have in the person.

It’s a cake.

Not an affair
Money issues
Secret love child
Drug problem

A

Cake

If that would rock your world and doubt your connection to your partner I think maybe YOU should all worry about your own relationships instead of jumping to conclusions on mine.. yes sadly we are those kind of people that call each other sickly nicknames and are like teenagers around each other .

It’s called love .

I won’t be responding again now on this thread, god forbid the daily mail picked up the story my whole cover would be blown, relastionship over, kids taken into care and friends disowning me all down to my insane untrustworthy behaviour

Mmmwwaahhhh x

OP this backfired massively didn't it.
You thought we would all think what a GREAT idea, what a funny old story, what a hoot etc
Instead you look utterly batshit and have now flounced.

Also £20 for a cake.........ok.....

Well you're certainly acting like teenager, can't argue with that.

"Limits on honesty"

You're being very defensive OP.

fragile limits on honesty

That's a great one. I'm stealing that next time I'm caught in a lie

Glitterz. Majority of people seemed to be baffled as to the point of pretending to bake a cake for your dh. When surely going to the trouble of commissioning one alone, is in itself a lovely gesture?

Fair enough if you’re going to fess up and tell them ‘ fooled you! ‘ but I anything else is just plain weird in a long term relationship and If it was my partner I would be concerned there is a pattern of telling ‘white lies’.

I think the overriding reaction was bafflement rather than condemnation. There is a lot of defending against things that haven’t really been said and a determination to ignore the things that have!

I have just asked DH to bring me home some carrot cake today. I hope he just nips to Tesco rather than partaking in some sort of elaborate fraud though!

@RaffertyFair I disagree, the OP hasn’t confirmed anything of the sort, although perhaps joke was a poor choice of work. She has, as she says, done it to make her husband happy. This has worked. I fully expect her to tell him at some point, just to show that he will find it funny, and really not that big of a deal.

All couples are different. I’m glad he enjoyed the cake OP.

And thanks for the recipe @BertrandRussell. Will compare it to mine as Im sure it needed tweaking last time I made it.

I never realised that so many people have such fragile limits on honesty and are so insecure that if their partner was to tell a similar lie that this would shatter and destroy the trust they have in the person.

It wouldn’t “destroy the trust” but I would think it would be utterly pointless lying about it and I’d gd annoyed that they didn’t feel they could just say they’d bought one.

That is such a weird thing to do for your own partner . Yes buy him a posh cake if it's his birthday - or if you want to 'just because'. But to spend £20 and all that extra effort to pretend you did it yourself?

If your kids are of an age then baking can be a good half term activity for them.

(Note I'm lazy and I would have either done a packet mix with the kids or bought one from Asda for £3......)

Where in Sussex are you? I want someone to make me a cake and I’m in the area(ish) Feel free to PM me if you don’t want to put on MN

I'm getting cynical in my dotage - this would be a good place to advertise a cake business, wouldn't it...

I'm still smiling over this line from the OP: "was gutted to see how professional it looked when I collected it today considering how much I paid for it"

Most MN cake posts are about fails, along the lines of "I can't believe I paid £65 for this pile of crap", followed by lots of posts about the cost of ingredients and the baker's time, and the OP should have just gone to Tesco if they wanted a cheap cake

So thanks for a variation on the "what do you think of the cake I have just bought" post - though you do realise that you have now set the bar too high to ever make your regular carrot cake again? Unless you usually make three layers of perfect evenness and frost like a pro

I don’t think this is a cake advert (though it has worked on me, hence the carrot cake order I’ve now placed). More likely than that is someone trialling a madcap blog or novel with a wacky and ‘relatable’ protagonist but rather than hitting ‘hilarious’, it’s landed on...inexplicable?

I don’t think it demonstrates serious honesty issues or a problem in your relationship but it’s a bit bloody odd. I have literally zero idea why you didn’t just make one yourself (it’s not that time consuming) or buy a supermarket one.

I have read too much about carrot cake that I've now decided to make one.

I may well tell DP that I bought it.

yes sadly we are those kind of people that call each other sickly nicknames and are like teenagers around each other

It’s called love

At least your relationship has greatly improved since last year. I mean I’m not sure making up silly lies about baking a cake will go down, but evidently you’re that type of ‘kooky’ person and your partner will probably know that about you.

I’m am so amazed at the £20 professional cake though. There’s no way a proper baker is selling big, well made cakes at (probably) a loss. Did you strike a deal with helping to advertise or something?

Walkaround,the pta demanded home made not shop bought cakes.shop bought forbidden
so I bashed a shop bought cake and dusted it with icing and it amused me
I liked the ridiculousness of it,quite chuffed With my skulduggery and initiative
And the PTA are so caught up in all the fuckery of school events they didn’t seem to notice

Not wanting to be lied to = fragile limits on honesty

That is brilliant Some Donald Trump levels of wordplay right there.

Some real histrionics & handwringing on this thread about honesty & relationships
Lots of pompous harrumphing if you lie about the cake what else will you lie about
I can’t see the problem frankly,only difference being I’d have fessed up it was a bought cake

Huh?! You DID buy it from a shop!! My tiny mind is boggled...