To be so upset....it's only a jumper!

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First of all, I should say that my DH is a 'house husband' so he is responsible for all household tasks while I work full time - a mutual choice.

Today, after doing some laundry he told me there had been a bit of a problem but he had followed the washing instructions.....

For my birthday a couple of weeks ago my best friend gave me a beautiful jumper from Jigsaw....he put it in the washing machine and has shrunk it to 5 year old size! Obviously, I pointed out that the label does indeed have a 30 sign BUT it has 2 lines underneath that indicate a wool wash! Also, the label clearly states that it is 97% merino wool!

I googled the jumper and found it in the sale but by the time he had put his reading glasses on and ambled over to look at my laptop it was sold out. I am ridiculously upset and have gone out because I can't look at him. He has not said Sorry, just insisted that the washing instruction wasn't clear. He has offered to buy me any jumper I want to replace it.....but I want that one!

Thank you for letting me rant. Anyone got a grip for me? Or am I entitled to be cross and upset?

I didn't even know wool cycle was a thing

It’s only a jumper. People make mistakes. Get over it.

If it's felted, then yes putting it on the wool wah would have saved it. However, if it's just shrunk then the temp was the problem so a 30deg wool wash would probably also have done the same

I get you, OP. I recently put a cashmere handwash jumper in the wash and kept the bloody temp dial too high - came out tiny. I was SO upset. It's a few years old, too, so no chance of getting another. I've tried stuff that's supposed to help (check online) and although it's definitely 'grown' slightly, it's pretty much unwearable (for me, anyway - maybe someone a size 6 could get into it). BUT - it does happen, and as your DH has apologised and tried to get you another, I think you need to let this one go. Don't department stores sell Jigsaw? Maybe they will have one. Don't be too hard on DH, it was clearly a genuine mistake.

Ffs OP. Imagine if you'd accidently shrunk his jumper and he stormed out the house. Complete over reaction. I do agree that a 'sorry' would be nice but he has offered to buy you any new one you want.

Oh we've all done it. It's a shame, but I wouldn't chuck special-wash items in with the general laundry.

YABU

What has you being a work out of the home and him being a work in the home have to do with anything?

So he made a mistake. What are you, perfect?

Can't look at him? If you were a man this reaction would be called abusive.

Fine to be upset that you can no longer wear the jumper..... But not fine to be cross with your husband. He made a mistake, these things happen.

I would be equally upset. Keep an eye out for it on the website and on eBay, you might get lucky.

I also have a house husband, and a separate laundry basket for delicates and whites as he insists on a non-apartheid approach to laundry. He is strictly forbidden to touch my special laundry!

About three times I have washed some clothing items on the cold water/delicate/light spin settings and both my husband and son have come along, seeing them in the washer have chucked them in the dyer on the highest heat - because they wanted to use the washer. The items were supposed to be dried with no heat or hung up to dry. If it happened once I wouldn't be mad, but after the first time I lost it.

Its not the jumper - its the fact he didnt say sorry. So you are not b unreasonable. People dont say sorry because its like an admission of guilt, where truly, if you said sorry, it wouldnt get to this point.

(((((hugs to you)))))

Its a jumper.

Your DH didn't do it on purpose.

Get a grip. How will you cope if anything serious ever goes wrong?

I feel for your husband, he’s made a mistake nobody is hurt. You can be upset about your jumper but not at him.

Can't believe the number of people saying YABU. He's an adult, presumably literate, so why can't he read the instructions? DH and I each do our own and I was furious with him for ruining his own cashmere sweater last week, let alone mine. Careless and lazy.

Does anyone know if the conditioner trick also works on jumpers put through the tumbledryer?

upsetting he's offered to buy a new one he washed it at 30
wash all your stuff yourself in future

I get it. I asked for money for my birthday and bought myself a beautiful Bella Freud jumper it £350.
I wore it once and it accidentally washed and tumble dried it with the rest of dark washing.
I may have shed a tear when I realised what I'd done.

Last jumper I had from Jigsaw was full of moth eggs and caused me to have to throw away all my wool jumpers (yes, it was the bearer of the motherload - you should have seen it 4 months after purchase!).

So he has actually saved you a lot of grief...!

This happened to me with a lovely merino jumper from sea salt. I’m still pissed off about it.

Honestly I'd be more annoyed with my friend for buying me an impossible to wash jumper.

If it shrank on 30 normal wash it would probably have shrunk on 30 wool wash because the temperature would be the same.

Anything that can't go on at 40 in our house goes into the wash basket at your own risk.

my OH has only one laundry setting - a boil wash with his jeans. Never reads laundry labels Wool Wash? "Stuff and nonsense." Seperate laundry basket only answer.

All clothes that need faffy washing should be kept to one side and the owner washes them themselves. He didn't do it on purpose.

He didn't do it on purpose.

But he could say sorry and he hasn't.

If you found it in the sale why didn’t you buy it (or at least put it in your basket) immediately- why did you wait for him to “amble” over?

But he is BU for not saying sorry, that’s rubbish.