Can anyone help regarding bullying policy at uni?

[helena65]

Is it normal procedure to called for a mediation meeting after accusations of bullying? I honestly have no idea so if if anyone has any advice I would be very grateful.
My daughter 18 has been bullied and harrased for months by 2 boys/grown men in her flat in uni student halls. She is in a flat with 3 boys and just her ..no girls. The third boy joins in with the online bullying but is friendly at times to DDS face.
The other two..post on FB that they have jizzed in the kettle and microwave for revenge on s flatmate.. they glare and laugh at her every day.. they put rubbish from the bins in her food cupboard. They put dirty dishes in her cupboard..they shouted at her constantly on snap chat to which she never replied..she has now blocked them..one boy told her he was going to make her life hell till she wanted to drop out of uni.
She hasn't spoked a word to either boy since Xmas..just kept her head down and hoped it would stop. It didn't..it's escalating.
For background..she has ibs and anxiety and her ibs has flared up with all this stress..she has missed some lectures and at one point had to come home for a week as she couldn't stop crying and going loo.
One boy is the ring leader he has decided that DD must take the bins on a certain day even though she doesn't use the kitchen and has her own bin for any rubbish. He ties up all the bin bags on HER day as he sees it and leaves them in the kitchen..not allowing either of the other boys to take them for days..till it stinks in there and someone snaps and takes them.
DD finnally went to the deanery team to make a complain ..she got it all out and they took a statement..the woman was wonderful and very sympathetic to her situation..saying she does not have tolive this way. They took statement from the other boys too and an investigation is under way.
DD has sentproof including photos..Snapchat messages..etc.
She made it clear to the deanery team she can't be in an interview with the boys..she needed it tobe alone. She has now received an email saying the accommodation team has decided a mediation meeting for all flatmates to discuss their issues is planned for next week!
DD is now beside herself that the she has to sit across the table from the boys who have been bullying her for months whilst they simply talk it out!!
Right now she can't sleep or leave her room..her ibs will definitely not allowing her to attend that meeting...nerves and stress are massive triggers for flare ups..she also doesn't want them to see her cry and she knows she would.

Can anyone help with how she should reply to this? Has it been a waste of time going to the deanery? Since the boys gave their statement the behavior has gotten worse.. putting rubbish from the bin in her cupboard happened after their meeting..so she knows they are not bothered ir worried by the investigation.

Thanks Cynthia. DD attended the discipline hearing last week. The dean refused to discuss her written evidence. Asked her if she was paranoid. If she had taken the face book posts out of context...and even said that she believes she believes she was bullied!!
She said all this in a Stern patronizing tone to dd crying. When the college advisor who was with DD asked if ddcould have 5 minutes..thedean refused. She then told DD she would email her decision regarding DD guilt or not within 5 working days. When questioned on this by the college advisor ifshe could could do it quicker as it was so distressing to dd she said she would try and get it done by me more Monday. Well it's gone 5 and no emails.
She even got angry at dds suggestion that she was afraid of one of the boys if he came back to the flat. She threw her arms up in the air and said..firgods sake.. he won't hurt you!!!
I find this so crazy on so many levels...iam at a loss how-to help.

It's not Warwick is it?

So the Dean thinks your DD is exaggerating a few incidents?

Oh Lou that is disgusting on their part, your poor dd. I don't know who, but surley the dean must answer to some type of governing body? Something doesn't sit right with how they have handled it. Is your dd still in the flat alone?

Yes she is still there alone for now. I hope the dean does answer to someone else because she is making it clear what she thinks. She also works on a weekly basis with one of the boys as he is president of the college. He has no doubt charmed her.
It isn't Warwick.

When she gets the disciplinary outcome, she'll have the opportunity to ask for it to be reviewed, and at the end of the process, she'll get the famous completion of procedures letter we've been on about earlier in the thread. They can't refuse to give it to her (and if they did, she could go to the OIA and say they've refused).

Hi biblio. I think someone said the cop is only for formal complaints? I have no idea what this complaint is against DD but she has been told by the dean that the buck stops with her and she has no right of appeal.

Hi Claire...the dean us using dds anxiety against her and basically saying she thinks she is a bit crazy and paranoid and no bullying has occurred except for me n dds head.

You need to threaten to go to the press or to share the students' social media messages all over Twitter. That is the only language university managers understand.

Unfortunately, as I've realised in the last 18 months, the culture in universities is deeply misogynistic, from male students right up to senior managers, even the female ones. There is no desire to change and the only thing that seems to shame them into doing anything is the prospect of bad publicity (as happened with Warwick).

Hi Lou, I work in this area. A student can get a completion of procedures letter at the end of any university process involving them. The university needs to tell her what she can do next or else issues a completion of procedures letter. She should ask by email. If they reply to say they won't do either, she should go to the OIA with this as evidence that she's been refused a completion of procedures letter. The OIA can look at cases where a completion of procedures letter is incorrectly withheld.

The dean can't say that the buck stops with her. There is always a right of challenge(or should be - if not, their procedures deviate from the good practice framework that universities are supposed to follow, and that's something the OIA will be very interested in).