My DH is a knob

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DH lives away during the week and comes home every weekend. EOW he brings his DDs who are 12 and 14. He is about 2.5 hours away.

A few weeks ago I had a week off and the day he was coming home I went out for lunch/drinks with a friend. Knowing I wouldn’t be around to have a meal ready for DH and DSDs arrival I put a meal in the slow cooker before I left.

Today he is coming home a day early with his DDs as it is half term.

Unfortunately I came down with a flu bug last night (I wouldn’t say actual flu but felling like total shit, aching, shivering, horrid sore throat, no energy) and have been off work today and spent the day in bed.

I texted DH and said you are going to need to sort out a meal. There is him, his DDs, me and my 16 yr old son.

He phones on the way home and says can you order a takeaway 15 minutes before we all get home?

I have no cash (if it gets here early) and just feel really pissed off that he I am unwell yet still need to be involved in everyone’s dinner. Why can’t he just buy some food on his way home and cook it for us all? Even if it’s bloody microwave meals.

AIBU?

Tell him to turn around and take his daughters back home for the weekend.

He sounds an UTTER prick.

Then just look after yourself for the rest of the weekend.

@livefornaps

I actually did.

He has apologised for being a knob.

Good! When I'm sick, I can barely look after myself and crave someone to make me a cup of tea/soup. No one's there but at least I don't have some twat demanding things of me and palming off his kids into me.

I wouldn't be in such a hurry to accept the apology.

Tell him to get the fucj out for now and that you'll contact him when you're feeling better.

He sounds like an ungrateful swine who just wants to put his trotters up and stick his snout in the trough.

He can get on with being an adult by himself for a little while, without you pandering to his whims.

I hope it was a genuine apology. I think you might need to expect him to cook a bit more in the future to make sure he’s not become too entitled in this relationship.

Glad to hear he’s apologised.

Any normal human would have texted back ‘sorry to hear you’re poorly, I’ll grab a takeaway in the way home, do you want me to get you anything from the shops whilst I’m at it’

Fgs!

I know.

I get that he had a long journey but if I wasn’t here he would still have to feed them.

He’s just lucky that I am here and normally very organised with meals etc (as I also work full time).

I have forced them all out of the door today to get some fresh air

mooncup, OP sounds poorly, only you think she sounds as if she's sulking, and you seem to be slightly obsessed by it. Time to move on?

He’s just lucky that I am here

Well, yes he is. I am always saddened when hearing of people who take this kind of support for granted and get huffy if it unusually isn't available. As if it's your job rather than a kindness given graciously.

Mine is the same. Les incompetant!