AIBU to not buy my dd something she wants

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Because I think it’s naff!

She’s only 5, and she want a jojo bow like her friends in school.

I know it’s not the end if the world if she does have one, but I just think they’re so horribly naff and tacky!

You also said the comments were hilarious but true OP.

Erm, what’s a jojo bow (I am very old) 😊

I don't know what they are as mine are now late teens - but I do remember saying that no child of mine was going to troll around in Disney Princess dresses.

I then had to eat my words as DD ended up with about 10 of the things, along with a Barbie Dancing Princesses dress. There was a phase of wearing them over the top of her lovely Boden finery All The Bloody Time.

She grew out of it and is not a chav now.

I feel really bad but I really don’t want to buy her one!!

I’m pretty relaxed with most things she wears but I can’t help thinking of the families I see on the train at 11am, all girls with jojo bows, parents with cans of carling.

Don't be a screaming snob / so uptight

There you go @JRMisOdious

You can blame THIS lass

(JoJo Siwa.) She started it all! That's a JoJo bow in her hair.

www.claires.com/whats-hot/jojo-siwa/?cgid=189&lang=en_GB

Why are you getting so worked up about this user.... There must be chavs out there who are actually proud to be chavs? No? I try to avoid using thay word on here as people get really uppity about it. QED.

However, i generally find the tacky items are sported by the chavvy lot. It is hilarious that people find certain things chavvy, but there’s nothing I can do about that. It’s just the way life is, certain things are deemed chavvy, other things are deemed middle class, other things are deemed snobby.

I find in general that I’m not that in to the stuff that’s deemed chavvy. I’m also not sure why you can’t get your head around that?

Erm, what's a jojo bow

A large brightly-coloured hair adornment (often bigger than the child's head) worn at a rakish angle. Named after a child who wore such bows on an American kids dance show.

The sneery use of the word chavvy is more tasteless than the bows imo.

aridane I prefer leffe over carling, hence my disgust

Yes, @Theimpossiblegirl, I agree!

theimposs I think if you’re a chav you should be proud and not let the sneering get to you. Just like the sneery middleclass threads, atleasts the middleclass lot give comeback

Again, dwayne if you’re a chav, wear it with proud. Don’t be offended, but bite back as to why it’s a good thing.

Personally I’m neither a chav nor middleclass. I’m a working class snob and fine with it.

It's completely fine for children to not always get things they want. If she still wants one next time it's her birthday, then fine, get it, but I wouldn't just go out and buy one now.

(I thought they were a bit over, now, tbh?)

I was fairly strict and controlling with dd1 but then I had dd2&3 and realised none of this shit matters. My dc love massive silly bows so yes I let them. It makes them happy and that's what I want for them. Other parents may think my dc are chavs because they wear big bows to the school disco but I don't care what they think. I'm happy and confident with who I am, have a professional job and nice house so quite frankly people who know nothing about me can judge away.

I know lots of lovely girls from naice families with these bows

Also, I have never forgiven my mum for not letting me have a shell suit...

So I say go for it

Oh and dh and I don't drink carling.

Didn't you have deeley boppers when you were a kid?

All ‘tacky’ and ‘chavvy’ ever mean is that the middle classes have decided they don’t like them.

There’s nothing inherently wrong with a bow. I had collection of Fergie bows at that age. I thought I was the dogs bollocks.

Let her have the stupid bow. 5 year olds couldn’t give a shiny shit about middle class taste.

That’s the spirit mother

You are in for a rough ride over the next 15 or so years OP.

Your DD is going to want a LOT of stuff you deem as 'chavvy' or tacky or unsuitable for a naice 'lower-middle class' girlie.

Can't wait for her to want a Justin Bieber poster on her wall next year, an Ariana Grande calendar for 2020, a Stormzy T-shirt when she's 7, and a TATTOOOOOOO when she is a teen. Ooooh the shame

I still donsingle So does my daughter!

I thinl user has twisted my words about the bow. I do personally find them tacky, it’s not that I’m worried about what other people with think, or whether they think I’m a chav. It’s just that I really don’t like the look of them and don’t really want my daughter wearing one as it’s me that has to look at it not her

Ooh the word naice has been used!

I LOVED deely boppers

Get this for your daughter OP. PLEEEEEEEEEEEEEEZE!!