Pretty is the same as tall?

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AIBU

My partners opinion is that describing someone as pretty is the same as saying short or tall and as factual as their hair colour.
I guess I don't see it that way.

He said pretty and being attracted to someone are too different things.

He was describing a 14 year old and said she is quite tall, glasses, round face, quite pretty.
I thought this was odd. He says not.

AIBU is it semantics?

I think that my 9 year old niece is really pretty. Apparantly I am attracted to bearded bald 40 year old men (guess what DH looks like ). It's different. I also think that one of my cats is pretty. No weird fanny feelings there either. I also think that leopards and birds are pretty. And woolly clouds against a blue sky. And the view of the sea.

Don’t know where “ear” came from.

Some things aren’t opinions

No, of course they aren't 🙄 Usually when they aren't yours.

@LaurieFairyCake Really?!

I think Eddie Redmayne is 'pretty' (more so when he was younger though).

@reallyreallyreal Half term is next week here. Thank god!!

Am I the only one who doesn't agree on how 'pretty' the child model is in the picture posted?

“Am I the only one who doesn't agree on how 'pretty' the child model is in the picture posted?”
I think the picture of her at 10 is pornographic. The picture at 6 has a disturbingly adult gaze.

Not odd at all

There is a soltely nothing wrong with what he said. It's totally fine to say someone is pretty or handsome or whatever. It's ludicrous to suggest we shouldn't.

The issue here is your insecurity and jealousy, you articulated it when you said you hate it if he calls anyone pretty. But you've got to a very low level when you're jealous of a child.

I really think this is something you need to seek help with. Because it's not healthy for you and you will damage your relationship, possibly irretrievably.

Pretty is like nice

Subjective but also has an understood non subjective value attached for the sake of communication

People do place value on women's attractiveness and it starts young.

The difference between the treatment I get at work and out and about when I have my hair blow dried and make up on versus when I'm bare faced with hair in a pony tail (but still clean and presentable) is depressing.

People place value on people's attractiveness. Not just females. It's simply part of human currency.

There is a soltely nothing wrong with what he said. It's totally fine to say someone is pretty or handsome or whatever. It's ludicrous to suggest we shouldn't

There’s clearly nothing wrong with people thinking people are attractive. What’s a bit off is that a middle aged man can find no other features to describe a 14 year old girl that he teaches apart from to identify her as pretty. Surely there’s more to her than that?

No the comment is going to make the world crumble but thousands of these little comments make up one big way that the world judges and sees females - in terms of their looks

I think YABU.

In actual fact, I have a mate we call "Pretty Ben" because he looks like he should be in a boy band. I am certainly not attracted to him.

What’s a bit off is that a middle aged man can find no other features to describe a 14 year old girl that he teaches apart from to identify her as pretty

Eh? Could you not be arsed reading rhe op? He used plenty of other things to describe her, tall, round face, glasses etc. And saying someone is pretty doesn't mean you're attracted to them, don't be so ridiculous.

“People place value on people's attractiveness. Not just females.”

Do you think it’s the same for men and women? If so, why do you think Mary Beard gets such negativity but nobody ever seems to comment on, say, Piers Morgan or John Pienaar’s looks?

“He used plenty of other things to describe her, tall, round face, glasses etc. ”

So what was the point of adding pretty? Surely hair colour would be more useful?

Just saw the pic of the child. I'm sorry to be blunt, but that's not my idea of pretty or beautiful. Sorry kid, doesn't make you less valuable but your features don't take the cut in the visual sense.

I think you skim read the chapters on “sexism” and “equality” in your Penguin Bumper Book on Feminism, to be honest, which is why you keep boring everyone with your pretentious proclamations on the subject.

Lolz. I want dat book.

“Lolz. I want dat book.”

Happy to lend you my copy- but I haven’t decided who on this thread needs it most.....you might have to wait your turn.

Let's just settle on everbody with a different point of view to you.

‘You’d seriously describe a 14 year old boy as “bonny”?‘

Yes. Not sure why it’s difficult to understand.

So what was the point of adding pretty? Surely hair colour would be more useful

Because it's just another descriptor, cmon you know this.

‘You’d seriously describe a 14 year old boy as “bonny”?‘

I'd also do this, I don't see the issue, I've also described men as pretty, clothes as pretty, flowers as pretty, many things really.