To ask those of you with healthy marriages

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How do you make up when you fight?
Does one of you always do the same thing?
Is one person always the one to make the effort ?
Are you both forgiving or do you just get over it?

@Mummadeeze I was in an abusive marriage, followed by a LTR with a controlling man, but I'm one of the pps who said they don't have fights, because I left both of those relationships, and am now married to a man who loves and respects me, so when we have differences of opinion (not often) we talk things through.

YOU deserve that too, and you could find it, but not until you've left the one who abuses you.
Do yourself a favour, and leave. You deserve to be happy.

LaFreaka that is sad. Do they actually enjoy it then? No fighting and arguing was how they were. Mum was paranoid and quick tempered, likes to get her own way, never apologized. Dad had very strong opinions - he often didn't even know he was arguing but he argues like his life depended on it - he says he adores her - she really doesn't like him - they are awful together but they are Catholic and Old school and they just stick together no matter what - but as a consequence my childhood was completely shite and theres no way I would subject my own kids to parents who argue all the time it was horrible.