To not send meals home with DSC

[user1471499145]

DPs DCs stay EOW. He sees them twice every week as well.
Their DM lives with her partner. She has high earning job but doesn’t return home until 7pm ish. The DCs are 15 & 18.
DP has asked if I can send them home with a meal that can be frozen/re heated on the weekends they are with us because they are fed up with their meals.
I have done so far but this weekend I spent 6 hours cooking. I’m knackered.
& I’m feeding his ex - she sent a thank you for her dinner tonight !
I want someone to cook me dinner!

[BartonHollow]

OP you need to see a counsellor.

You aren't a high class prostitute

You are an abused woman with poor self esteem

Don't neg yourself like that

[Travisandthemonkey]

It’s not the children’s fault. It’s the parents. But that’s a moot point.

it depends if you can stay with someone who has such little regard for you as a human being. That’s what’s really sad op.

I don’t even know you and I think you’re worth more than this

[AdaColeman]

I remember the lasagna thread. I thought you had seen the light by the end of the thread. Why are you still there?

[Cheerbear23]

You are NOT a high class prostitute - you are being taken advantage of. We can help you see that and suggest how to deal with this.

[JustHereForThePooStories]

You’re beyond help. You seem to enjoy being a doormat. It’s pure martyrdom.

[BartonHollow]

This will sound harsh towards you and it's not meant to be it's meant to be harsh about him. All of your threads have involved food.

Simply put he doesn't see you as his other half/partner/equal

You are an unpaid live in cook with benefits

He is using you.

Pack your bags.

[thatwouldbeanecumenicalmatter]

Oh god not this canoeing arsehole again. Seriously OP you're worth more than the shitty crumbs he deigns to throw your way. Ditch the lot of them.

[PanamaPattie]

You're still with him? Duuude. Make it stop.

[ContessaIsOnADietDammit]

Oh op, I remember Lasagnagate. I'm horrified to hear you're still with this twat please, please, PLEASE reconsider your life and just cut the ties. Seriously, you will be so much happier in the long run.

[Margot33]

My nine year old cooks with me. She knows how to make basic meals like lasania, pasta, fish pie, spag bol, chicken curry and chicken & mushroom pie. Why on earth are you not encouraging them to cook for themselves?! Why would you want to make so much work for yourself?! Encourage their independence, otherwise they will never...ever learn to cook. They have a mum that can feed them, if they struggle opening a can of beans!

[SnapesGreasyHair]

FFS OP!! I thought you'd left after lasagne gate.

[C0untDucku1a]

I remember the croatia thread. I hoped you were using that time to divorce your dh. It is not you being unable to negotiate a new relationship after being married so long that is the issue. The issue is your dick of a dh.

[Lahlahfizzyfizzydoda]

I remember lasgana gate.

Please. Just. Leave. Now.

[TinselAndKnickers]

Oh that's sad I remember the holiday lasagne thread. Please leave OP. You're better than this aren't you?

[villamariavintrapp]

People remember wagyu and lasagne because your story really stands out. It’s that bad. Please move on to a better chapter!

[IveGotAlpen]

God I remember both threads. I thought you had left him .
Please, you are SO much better than this.
Now pull yourself together and sort this shit out once and for all.

[blackteasplease]

I agree with please leave. When I first read this I thought "just tell him to make the meals himself if he really thinks it needs doing"

But seeing you are lasagne and Wagyu beef OP, I agree with just leave. I really thought you would after lasagne gate.

[Defender90]

Spend time with the kids showing them how to prepare the meals, a friend done this for her DSC, it went down a treat.

[ChasedByBees]

What do you want to do OP? You’re not being treated well. How are you going to turn things around?

[Gunpowder]

OP You sound like a very kind person. Your DP and his kids sound very selfish. I think you are too tender hearted for them. LTB.

[SaturdayNext]

I thought both you and your DP had learnt something from the lasagna episode, but you're still slaving for his DSC. How come?

If their mother is high earning, she has a number of options for feeding the family when she's earning late - e.g. employ a cook, get takeaways/ Deliveroo meals, or get ready-cooked meals she only has to microwave from the likes of Cook. Why on earth should you be her unpaid cook?

[MsPavlichenko]

I read the lasange thread, and I thought you had moved out.

This is what you need.
freedomprogramme.co.uk/avs.php?search=+&Submit=Submit

[ohfourfoxache]

Holy fuck, you’re still with this wankstain?

I really thought after lasagne-gate that you’d seen the light and dumped him

[Fiveletters]

Oh god. He sounds awful.

Don’t let this be your life. Surely you would be happier on your own than with these people?!