To not send meals home with DSC

[user1471499145]

DPs DCs stay EOW. He sees them twice every week as well.
Their DM lives with her partner. She has high earning job but doesn’t return home until 7pm ish. The DCs are 15 & 18.
DP has asked if I can send them home with a meal that can be frozen/re heated on the weekends they are with us because they are fed up with their meals.
I have done so far but this weekend I spent 6 hours cooking. I’m knackered.
& I’m feeding his ex - she sent a thank you for her dinner tonight !
I want someone to cook me dinner!

[Orchiddingme]

Just make that the last 6 hour cooking session for the CF's. And what's with your husband suggesting you cook for them and their mum to send to their house? Why doesn't he spend his Sunday cooking and tupperwareing if he is so concerned? One of them is even an adult!

[ContessaIsOnADietDammit]

You fucking what? That's mental!

[PickAChew]

Tell her that if she's so pressed for time, M&S sell nice pre packaged meals.

[MrsElijahMikaelson1]

Fuck that shit
They all saw you coming!

[arethereanyleftatall]

Unless there's a drip feed to come that you're actually a chef who has their own business making food out of their own home, and adding two more will be neither here nor there; then this is absolutely bat shit.
Why would you think this is your responsibility? Why would your dh think this was a reasonable request?

[lottiegarbanzo]

Whaaat?

They're tired of the meals they're given - they learn to cook!

The DM getting home at 7pm is hardly relevant. Snack after school, dinner at 7.30 / 8pm. Perfectly normal for many families.

Why isn't 'D'P doing it?

[TumbleDry]

@user1471499145 I really liked the suggestion that you could supervise them making a meal if they're so "fed up". And they can wash up after. Let's see how long they continue to feel "fed up"! They'll wanna stop after doing it once and you can avoid a conflict by refusing!

[user1471499145]

No drip feed - no chef just a good home cook.
I realise (now) how fucking crazy stupid I’ve been.
The DSCs have very ‘exceptional ‘ palates - not my words (I did post during the Summer regarding Wagyu beef gate when they were holiday).
I’m done now though - I’m out feeding another whole family

[NotSuchASmugMarriedNow1]

A parents job is to raise their children to become independent adults. Your dp and his ex wife have failed thus very basic parenting job.


Their parents need to teach them how to cook. It's easy. If you can read, you can cook

[TinselAndKnickers]

This is absolutely ridiculous! Does the mum pay for any of this?!

[PomBearWithAnOFRS]

Wiltshire Farm Foods is your (their) friend!

[user1471499145]

The deal was one week of me cooking then they would cook. If they decided what they wanted to cook then we would buy the ingredients & help if needed.
I have 3 DSs who can all cook- I was determined I would never inflict a helpless man on a woman!

[ralphfromlordoftheflies]

Oh fuck, you're the one whose DSS made a scene in a restaurant because his dad's wagyu steak was bigger than his?!

[NotSuchASmugMarriedNow1]

Are you the poster whose DP took his kids on holiday without taking you and then messaged you to tell you to have a home made lasagne ready for them on their return?

[BartonHollow]

@user1471499145

Are you the poster whose teen DSS threw a massive fit in a restaurant over £90 Beef and you walked out?

You must have the patience of a fucking saint

[lottiegarbanzo]

The wagyu beef!

They need to learn to cook exceptional food then, don't they!

Meanwhile they're welcome to critique Cook and any ready meal selection they like.

[timeisnotaline]

I’d take a holiday from cooking. You dp can teach his kids to cook. They will thank him one day.

[F1llUpTh3Car]

An 18 year old cant cook ?
Cant make an omelette, stir fry, pasta, soup, cake, dishes in oven ?
I would start teaching them both, how to make one meal a week for the next few weeks
Otherwise you will be cooking for them for several years
There are plenty of recipes on Youtube, blogs etc

[Cheerbear23]

I remember the Wagyu beef incident - are they quite spoilt OP?
Either way, my answer would be Hell No.

[MitziK]

Maybe do it once a month Two meals, double portions, so covers both weekends? They obviously like your cooking - and I'd give some kind of grudging credit to the XW for thanking you.

But definitely, it's time for them to learn to make things themselves if they like your cooking so much - say, on Saturday, they make dinner and extra for them to take home on Sunday. You could sell it to them as 'It would be really nice for your Mum to come in from work to find you've made her dinner' and you'll need to do it at University and you'll never be short of mates if you can cook'.

In a couple of months, you could end up with the cooking done for you one night and her another night - everybody's happier, everybody's well fed and you have two kids who are capable of functioning at 18.


Sometimes people get stuck in ruts with food, even if they know how to cook, and it takes 'something' for them to realise and change the menu.

[Butterymuffin]

Er, he's welcome to sort his kids out a meal to take home if he wants to. Why that should automatically be your job I don't understand.

[strawberrisc]

Jesus. You’re still with him? And now feeding his ex?

[user1471499145]

Yep - I went to Croatia on my own due to homemade lasagna demands!
God I’m a doormat

[AnneLovesGilbert]

You are love. Do you know why? You’re better than this.

[theworldistoosmall]

6 hours? Wow.

Fuck that shit. They can cook for themselves.