To not send meals home with DSC

[user1471499145]

DPs DCs stay EOW. He sees them twice every week as well.
Their DM lives with her partner. She has high earning job but doesn’t return home until 7pm ish. The DCs are 15 & 18.
DP has asked if I can send them home with a meal that can be frozen/re heated on the weekends they are with us because they are fed up with their meals.
I have done so far but this weekend I spent 6 hours cooking. I’m knackered.
& I’m feeding his ex - she sent a thank you for her dinner tonight !
I want someone to cook me dinner!

[BartonHollow]

So you are BOTH Lasagne Poster AND Wagyu Beef poster?!?? Crikey Reilly, WHAT exactly do you get out of this relationship?

Your stepchildren are EXTREMELY spoilt and your OH's desperation to placate them has now led to you enabling/placating his desperation

The whole thing is a toxic setup for all involved

[DrinkFeckArseGirls]

My 8 to is keen to cook but 15 and 18 (!) she’ll be no doubt cooking full meals.
If they have such sophisticate palates, they should learn to cater to them themselves.

[AlexaAmbidextra]

I thought you’d had enough and we’re leaving him? Now you’re in doormat mode again. You must be some sort of masochist ffs.

[AlexaAmbidextra]

Were not we’re.

[NotSuchASmugMarriedNow1]

You're in an abusive relationship love you do realise that don't you? Using good to control someone is a classic abusers MO.

[NotSuchASmugMarriedNow1]

Food not good

[lottiegarbanzo]

Well, you're welcome to come and stay with us. Spare room available for March. Family dinner on the table for 7pm please. Lovely, thanks!

[StoppinBy]

Those 6 hours would be better spent teaching them to cook, next weekend they are over your DP and/or you should just spend the time copying recipes with the kids and actually making them.

Problem solved, at 18/15 they are old enough to go to the shop together and buy the ingredients they need too.

[Hotterthanahotthing]

DD is 15,iWork until late 1or 2 days.I do not cook meals for her to defrost,I expect her to raid the fridge and freezer and sort herself out .
Just stop OP,I have read your other threads
Just stop pandering to them.

[user1471499145]

lottiegarbanzo - chicken, bacon & leek pie ok ?
All homemade natch

[timeisnotaline]

Oh you’re lasagna person? WHY DID YOU GET BACK WITH HIM? can you go back to Croatia for a month this time to get a backbone? Your ‘dp’ thinks you are his slave, and you do act like it.

[Crystalintheeyes]

The text from the ex thanking you for her dinner would piss me right off.

Your literally cooking tea for his ex.

STOP.

[Grace212]

OMD I remember the steak thing

please stop and think about what you are doing. And I don't just mean about the cooking!

[Travisandthemonkey]

OMG I REMEMBER WAGYU BEEF GATE

They’re a fucking bunch of spoiled brats.

Stop being a fucking doormat.

Buy them each a fucking cookbook, preferably by a Michelin star cook. And leave them to get on with it. The entitled little fuckers

[Travisandthemonkey]

And you’re husband is a cunt to boot

[Travisandthemonkey]

Sorry your

[user1471499145]

Sometimes things seem simple.
Yesterday I was a train - when I got off at my destination it said : ‘ change here for Heathrow Express’
I can’t tell you how much I would have loved to have hopped on that train .
Meals will be stopped

[Butterymuffin]

Can anyone link to either the lasagne or wagyu beef threads if they're still here please? I didn't know the back story. And I still think you shouldn't cook for them.

[TwitterQueen1]

Why do you keep posting what is essentially the same story OP?
And not doing anything about your controlling DH? And your totally unbalanced relationship?

I have a vision of you laughing in your treadmill saying "I'm mad, me! Aren't I?" and for some reason expecting all of us to laugh in agreement with you...

I'm not laughing OP. And you shouldn't be either.

[F1llUpTh3Car]

With the amount of ready meals available, why cant they cook these, themselves at home ?
Plus
Baked potatoe
Fajitas
Pizza
Chilli
etc

[NotSuchASmugMarriedNow1]

You think you're special because you bagged yourself a wealthy man who can afford £90 steaks but the reality is you're just another battered wife

[BartonHollow]

To catch up anyone who doesn't know the backstory :

Thread One

The DP/DH told her she couldn't go on holiday with him and his DC because they didn't want her to come and then texted her demanding she have a home cooked dinner (lasagne) on the table on their return

Thread Two

The children were taken to a pricey restaurant. The DS always asks for the most expensive thing in this case £90 Wagyu Beef
when it came and his fathers portion was bigger, he threw a toddler style meltdown in the restaurant and the OP walked out. The DP was mad at her about it and said she should have let it go.

Thread Three

She is now making home cooked meals "for the DC to take home" which have to "suit their palette" and are being eaten by the ex wife.

OP you are in an abusive relationship, please leave him.

[Chesntoots]

I remember your other threads.

I might be tempted to make her one last pie - apparently dog food looks quite a lot like tinned stewed steak. Just saying.....

[llangennith]

Frozen microwaveable ready meals. Oh, and LTB.

[user1471499145]

NotSuchASmugMarriedNow1 - yep essentially a high class prostitute.

I’m trying to navigate a relationship after 28 years of marriage.
I admit I’m crap at it. I literally don’t know how to have a relationship. I was married at 18 to my only ever boyfriend.

So now I have a new relationship & DSC - yes they are spoiled little shits but as a DSM I can’t say that