To think mumsnet abbreviations...

[Nearlythere1]

Am i being unreasonable to think mumsnet abbreviations are utterly moronic at best, bordering on.. i don't even know at worst. Does it not take most posters more time to look up which idiotic abbreviation they need than it would to just write it? And the sheer saccharine "D" prefix. Come on. It's laughable, and sickening. It sounds like school children talking in code, but without half the moral and emotional discrimination. Everybody is a "dear" something no matter what.

You sound disproportionately angry about this OP.

Seriously, starting a thread to criticise the community in which you are posting is rude. And then to get outraged when this is pointed out to you seems, quite frankly, a bit unhinged.

As others have said, if you don't like it, don't use it.

I find it ironic when the subject of a post, be it a cheating spouse, obnoxious in-law or bitchy friend, are pre-fixed with a "D" when really, they're anything but.

See i quite like the abbreviations and often have to stop myself using them in real life.

The only time the "d" thing raises my eyebrows is when it's a pet.
Dtortoise
Dfish
Dferret
Dlizard

All sound crazy to me!

I like having our own language ( of sorts ) to use and is often a lot quicker to type.

Is there really nothing else in the world you can use your anger up on? Why not get furious about climate change, or FGM (female genital mutilation) or something that actually means something?

Grow up.

You’re not being unreasonable at all. Why not just write husband, daughter, son etc. like in everyday life?

You can do that if you want to

You're super angry about this aren't you! I don't particularly like the use of DD etc so quite often I don't use it. Sometimes I do, sometimes I write 'daughter ' or 'husband'. In the case of the latter, I have never been pulled up, corrected or not responded to by another user. So you can do what you want right? Nobody cares that much.

Ps mumsnet is not compulsory so you could always just avoid it if you hate it so much.

I certainly don't feel as strongly as you @Nearlythere1 😄 but the DH, DD etc does make me want to vom. It's very smug and sickly and people still use it when their DH or whoever has been an absolute raging cunt which amazes me.

For those saying they're common abbreviations, I've never seen them on any other forum or social media before Mumsnet.

If it’s not a forum that suits you (and it doesn’t sound like it is from your obvious irritation), then you are not obliged to log on.

I dunno I like them. It's like our own little mum language and I find I like it, even if it doesn't make reading posts any quicker. Do yeah, YABU and ODFOD.

You aren't going to change anything through this post. Your aggression and rudeness makes it even less likely. You've come into a community with established social norms. If you don't like them it's fine, but don't expect others to change just for you.

And I simply love than you've posted in a topic thread called AIBU when you've said you don't understand the abbreviations and find them pointless, yet you clearly understand the remit of this board and are happy to use it.
A genuine anti-abbreviator would have used chat or similar ;)

For those saying they're common abbreviations, I've never seen them on any other forum or social media before Mumsnet

I’ve never seen them anywhere online before Mumsnet either. However, about a year ago, I dealt with a letter relating to an employment matter where a woman referred to her daughter throughout as ‘DD’ with no clear explanation. I think some people spend so much time on particular forums that they forget that these accronyms aren’t part of everyday use.

There are plenty of sites which don't use their own, and I suspect OP might fit in better on one of them, rather than one where she thinks we're all moronic and insultingly has no qualms about publishing that view.

An idiolect (or in this case sociolect) is an important linguistic phenomenon and occurs across many groupings and nationalities. It is an important cohesive force in communities.

Shared slang is a strongly binding thing. Being so deeply uncomfortable with it that you wish to slag it off in its home, regardless of how obviously tactless and rude that is, really is a sign that you do not want to join this community.

I think you are taking the “D” prefix a little too literally OP.

CF
Cheeky fucker

Use the abbreviations or don't use them.
IDGAF

My take on the 'd' thing is that it's a softener - not so much in the saccharine/smug sense as to lessen the abruptness of just 'H', or 'D', or 'S' as abbreviations (and as for the abbreviations themselves, they're fairly obviously going to be used in a communication style like internet forums).

Do wonder if OP will be regretting her aggressive, hectoring tone this morning.

I'm not really a lover of abbreviations,but don't think they're moronic.

Personally I prefer to type out the full word,but that's MY preference,others prefer to use abbreviations.It doesn't make me angry or want to start a thread insisting everyone types words out the way I do.

I agreed with you at first but now you just sound like a tool. HTH.

OP

Why get so angry over an extremely minor irritant?

Get some sleep.

Another one of these. Boring. Personally I think that people who don't get the ironic, slightly sardonic nature of it all are a bit one dimensional...!

D can also mean dick head if they've pissed you off.

I don't mind the common abbreviations but sometimes on the brexit board I do get confused with loads of the abbreviations and end up googling most of them.

Must we have this same thread every week?

They don't annoy me and Iearnt them all very quickly. There are sites on the internet that annoy me. I don't go on them.

Do you really think you're the first person to say this? If it annoys you so much, there's the door >>> 🚪

When people write DH, they just mean husband. Not 'dear husband'. It's short-hand, and is part and parcel of online life.

Either let it bug you, or move on and fixate on something worthwhile.

Are you saying the D doesn't mean Dickhead, Dumb-arse, Dastardly, Delinquent or Decrepit?