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Original poster

To not wake DH's friend up?

236 replies

Greywalls12 · 09/02/2019 07:49

Some people may remember my previous thread, DH's friend staying with us for two weeks as he's homeless, he'll be leaving on Tuesday.

He manages to sleep through his alarms, three have gone off this morning and he's still not up.
DH left early for a day out with mates this morning and has been waking him up everyday since he's stayed here, which i have outright refused to do.

So DH's friend has some overtime with another friend today, and he'll be taking the other friend there. The other friend can't get there without DH's friend who is staying with us as he can't drive. So if DH's friend doesn't get up, the other friend won't be able to work today.

DH asked if i would wake his friend up but i refused, which he was completely fine with and agrees it's not my responsibility.

But now the other friend has messaged me asking if i can please get him up because they need to leave!!

AIBU to say no or just ignore the message?

He's an adult and needs to learn the consequences of not getting up for work surely? But other friend won't be able to work today if I don't, and he's also expecting a baby so I feel bad if I don't because it's not his fault this lazy fucker can't get out of bed. Angry

And he'll be leaving on Tuesday regardless of whether he has any money if anyone's wondering Grin

OP posts:
Bignosenobum · 11/02/2019 22:32

Put his hand in a bowl of water. He will soon wake , it supposed to make you pee.

WatcherintheRye · 11/02/2019 22:38

Wake him up, op, and then cancel the cheque Grin

Redshoeblueshoe · 11/02/2019 22:43

Good luck for tomorrow. It's good your DH has actually seen he is a lazy ignorant twonk. I'd be livid he was eating out every night whilst not paying you any keep

Lweji · 12/02/2019 08:22

Well, has he woken up by himself today? Are you going to wake him up?
Has he packed?
Has he left?

Questions... questions... Grin

Holidayshopping · 12/02/2019 08:46

Has he gone??

Original poster
Greywalls12 · 12/02/2019 09:46

GrinGrin DH woke him up before he left for work, friend fell back asleep and didn't leave till 9 (meant to leave at half 7, and no i didn't wake him up Grin).

DH confirmed yesterday friend is definitely leaving today and he discussed it with friend yesterday so everyone's 100% clear, he'll be collecting his things after work (if he's even gone to work?).

No idea where he's staying from tonight, but it's not my house Grin 1 friend has now said he can only stay with him 3 nights a week as he has someone else staying. Another friend (the one who is expecting a baby also and worked with him on Sat) has offered to put him up for 6 weeks (!!!!!!) Untill he is sorted, but friend has said he'd rather go back to living in a shed.

He has no savings, is well into his overdraft still and has made no effort to find appropriate accomodation or seek help/advice.

DH has given up, not our problem anymore, and we've been more than generous by letting him stay here for 2 weeks for free. I also got up this morning to the smell of weed outside the room he is in, which i find is hugely distrespectful after I had already spoken to him about it, and there is absolutely no chance in hell he is staying another night, or any night in the future for that matter.

Smile
OP posts:
Holidayshopping · 12/02/2019 09:51

Sadly, I think the more enabling you all do, the longer he’ll be like this.

At least he’ll be out of your hair soon!

coconutpie · 12/02/2019 10:42

RTFT.

Cancel the cheque OP.

Grin

Hallelujah that today is his leaving day. Don't ever let him stay again.

cheesydoesit · 12/02/2019 10:57

Does he have a key? Anyway, it's Tuesday, hurrah!

cheesydoesit · 12/02/2019 10:59

He's a cheeky fuck smoking weed in your house.

woolduvet · 12/02/2019 11:07

The weed and the late nights are prob the reason for his overdraft.
Massive sponger!

cheesydoesit · 12/02/2019 11:10

I've just re-read that he told his mate who offered to put him up that he'd rather go back to the shed than live with him! He's a prize cunt, like.

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 12/02/2019 12:17

Err, he was offered somewhere to stay with the mate he gives a lift to work, for SIX WEEKS, and he had the audacity to say he'd rather go back to staying in a shed?

Fuck him.

He doesn't deserve anyone's help with that kind of attitude.

Although, at least if he's in a shed, he probably wouldn't be up til all hours playing games, as a shed's less likely to have power and internet!

Worrarudetwat. Angry

thatwouldbeanecumenicalmatter · 12/02/2019 13:59

Looks like beggars literally can be choosers. What a CF.

Glad you're getting rid today OP.

Gruzinkerbell1 · 12/02/2019 14:50

What a cheeky cunt! Glad he's not your problem anymore OP.

purplecorkheart · 12/02/2019 14:56

He sounds vile. Sounds like you are well rid.

Bignosenobum · 12/02/2019 16:49

I feel sorry for him. How old is he? Is he a nice person?? Maybe he has depression...

MorningRichie · 12/02/2019 16:54

Oh so fuck off, bignose. The bloke is a grade A cunt to the point his mother kicked him out.

Some people have depression and people like you who pin general arseholery on depression are doing those actually afflicted a disservice.

Maybe reading the thread(s) might help instead of posting absolute do-gooder bollocks.

cheesydoesit · 12/02/2019 16:58

I've changed my mind and I feel sorry for him too. Poor wee lamb. Let's set up a just giving page for him.

AnneLovesGilbert · 12/02/2019 16:59

I feel sorry for him

Fine, you take him in Hmm

Iamnobirdandnonetensnaresme · 12/02/2019 17:07

I'd have brought an air horn!
I can't believe he was coming back to your house in the small hours! How fucking rude! And then smoking weed in your house as well!

You obviously were not firm with your house rules.

Getting up for work everyday himself should have been a minimum requirement.

Lweji · 12/02/2019 18:06

Has he left yet?

Eliza9917 · 12/02/2019 18:23

If his mum used to get him up before, so he lived with her, why is he now homeless?

Why has she washed her hands of him? Other than the obvious

picklemepopcorn · 12/02/2019 18:33

After one incident of having to wake him, I'd have been asking him how he planned to wake up- would he like a loud radio, cold wash cloth etc. I don't mind helping, but that is ridiculous.

CanuckBC · 12/02/2019 18:35

No way would that happen here! The weed smoking would be the end. Not in my house. I am glad you will see the arse end of him today.

Good luck!