To think when you agree to meeting up with one person, you only agree to meeting up with one person?

[Prosaic]

I have a friend who I haven't seen for ages as she lives in a different town. She's going to be in town and we made plans to meet up tomorrow night. I get a message from her now saying 'Hope it's ok but I've invited X to come along too'. X is a friend we both know and who lives in my town but we've never hung out as a trio or anything and since I haven't seen this friend in a while I was really looking forward to catching up one-on-one. I don't know X that well either and so wouldn't feel comfortable talking about personal stuff in front of her. But she's already asked X along...so it's presented as a fait accompli and I can't really tell her to uninvite X.

AIBU to think you don't just invite a 3rd person along to a pre-arranged catchup? She will be seeing X separately anyway so it's not like she's in town for one night only and needs to catch up with everyone all at once! I have another friend who often does this - you think you've agreed to a nice catchup and then all these other people are invited along. Am I being overly precious?

This reminds me - does anyone know where is the thread about friend B inviting another person to a dinner party hosted by friend A at her home? OP was going to decline. I never found the thread again.

People who say the more the merrier are lying. What they mean is, the more the merrier of MY friends.
I am involved in pokitics. I have a friend who says the more the merrier about her friends. She hates discussing politics. If I invited a lot of my political friends along, she would be bored shitless.

People who say the more the merrier are lying

I’m certainly not.

What they mean is, the more the merrier of MY friends

No I don’t.

Macblack, not all hearing issues are the same. A 'background noise switch' may help people with a deficit in the higher frequencies, depending on their audiogram profile, but unfortunately if your hearing requires boosting in the mid to low frequencies it's not possible to filter out the noise. And until they develop a way to boost hearing via brain implants the background noise issue won't be solved. Discriminating speech from noise gets harder as you get older, apparently.

I now realise I hated discos as a kid because of my hearing. It's also the reason I don't 'do' large group gatherings.

really So you don't care who your friends invite along if you have planned to meet up with them?

really So you don't care who your friends invite along if you have planned to meet up with them?

No. They can bring who they like. Firstly i find group situations easier, and secondly I wouldn’t want anyone left out.

Why do you find group situations easier?

So how did it go OP?