Wedding Invite specifies no smoking

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AIBU? I'm a bit miffed. I by no means chain smoke, but might have one or two outside at a party.

My cousin is getting married soon and the invites request that people don't smoke within the grounds of the church or the grounds of the reception venue. I'm not going to kick up a fuss, I just feel like its overkill.

I think it's fine. As pps have said, it's not uncommon at venues where they have gardens/grounds that are very much part of what they offer. And I'm an atheist but I find smoking around churches really disrespectful.

So all smokers.....ignore the rules, drop their fag butts, stand right outside the door, create "clouds" of smoke, are socially ignorant, care more about fags than people?

Based on that logic, all drinkers must be violent, rude, embarrassing, ignorant, demanding, thieving and will piss themselves.

Good for them, it’s a disgusting habit!

Smoking in a churchard - utterly disrespectful.

Smoking just outside a barn - presumably a picturesque ancient barn surrounded by other ancient farm buildings and acres of flammable grass - utter madness. And possibly lethal.

Bloody good idea! I recall now with disgust my brother's wedding reception - granted this was 30 years ago - where the place cards at the reception each had a cutout holding a cigarette for every guest, includingbthe children! This was shortly after my father had died of lung cancer, followed by my mother a few years later, then the bride at that wedding succumbed to an aggressively metastising lung cancer that robbed her of all dignity and ultimately her life. My brother has now had three heart attacks, suffers from Reynaud's disease aggravated by cigarettes and despite having had his wife die in his arms, resolutely continues to suck on those bloody foul things. No prizes for guessing where I stand on the smoking issue.

If it is the venues that stipulate this, fair enough. If it is the bride and groom's choice, then they are to be applauded. Smoking in church grounds is awful.

I like this idea. It's a wedding, it's nice to have everyone celebrating together rather than outside smoking which seems to happen at a lot of events like this

Except all the smokers will wander off-site cos they have to, stay for a second smoke, say sod it wheres a pub, let's go. Never to be seen again.

Sounds fab! Hats off to them for giving forewarning too.

Brilliant idea!

I don’t remember the last time I went to a party or a wedding where anyone smoked. It must be 10 years ago at least! I don’t know a single smoker anymore. We were all occasional smokers in the 90s but everyone gave up years ago. I barely even see anyone go outside the pub to do it now.

Smoking at my venue was prohibited. I mean if you were outside they were unlikely to say anything if you tidied up. But many venues do stipulate this in the contract.

I wish more places and functions would do this. Fab idea.

Fine, her wedding, her choice. But think it all a bit controlling. Anyway, gives the smokers choice of not going. Personally, would rather someone I like, even I don’t like their habits, there, than not at all.
Wedding I was at a while ago, and that was a barn, had an outside designated smoking area, complete with a fire pit for the fag ends. It was rather sociable out there!

AIBU to not want to have lung cancer through passive smoking?
I highly commend your cousin for adding this to the wedding invitation - their wedding, their requirements - no fag-ash addicts need RSVP.

Amazing how many smokers don’t think the butts are litter and flick them anywhere

As a smoker that would be one invitation I would delightfully decline. Can't stand weddings, so at least I'd have a good excuse!

Such a predictable thread, the mere mention of smoking brings the tobacco nazis out in droves.

It's their wedding! I would supply nicotine patches for smokeholics.

Yep- tobacco nazis. People who think their right to smoke over rides all other rights.

I'm not a Nazi, I'd just happily wish them well and decline the invite.

For the people who think vaping is not problematic for bystanders, please think about those of us with anaphylactic allergies to fragrances. Things like perfume and air fresheners trigger reactions ranging from annoying to deadly. What do you think a thick cloud of artificial candy floss chemical in the air is going to do.

I always have antihistamines and epi-pens. I understand I exist in a world where plenty of people might even have a medical need for the particular fragrant shampoo they have used. It would be really nice if people weren’t so selfish about putting unnecessary allergens into the air.

Such a predictable thread, the mere mention of smoking brings the tobacco nazis out in droves.

I hardly think posters are recommending that we murder smokers, in their millions.

Would you really smoke in the grounds of a church though?

When my uncle got married all his wife’s family lit up when we were outside getting the photos taken they were all a bit common though

I think it’s disrespectful to get married in a church when you aren’t religious. I think smoking outside the church and taking your litter with you is perfectly fine.
But it’s so easy to be judgy especially on mumsnet.

It's about time smokers realises just how vile their habit is, simply because they aren't the only ones being forced to inhale the smoke.

The sooner it's banned completely the better.