Wedding Invite specifies no smoking

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AIBU? I'm a bit miffed. I by no means chain smoke, but might have one or two outside at a party.

My cousin is getting married soon and the invites request that people don't smoke within the grounds of the church or the grounds of the reception venue. I'm not going to kick up a fuss, I just feel like its overkill.

I wouldn't have an issue with this. If you can't go without nicotine get an e-cigarette for the day but ensure you go somewhere discrete. Certainly not anywhere within the church grounds (the ceremony is likely to be no longer than an hour anyway) and at the reception certainly nowhere within sight of other guests.

it isn’t illegal and still a human right if you’re an adult

No it isn't. You would have a hard time taking a case to court because a place told you not to smoke.

As for fag ends being left all over the place, well smokers do usually just flick ash and fag ends anywhere and everywhere.

I think it's quite sad that places still need to put up no smoking signs.

Oh well, it’s a good way of weeding out some of your “friends”. You could shed the “never quite grown ups” who think that it’s taking some sort of stand on human rights to smoke when asked not to and who might even start smoking in order to join this principled stand! Not to mention the “friends” who would rather smoke than come to your wedding.

Fantastic! Litter aside who wants to walk through the horrible smell that lingers when and after cigarette/e-cigs smoked at entrances. These stipulations should be widespread to all buildings.

Or the "friends" who don't like to be dictated to. None of my friends would be so rude or entitled.

It's very odd to have a social venue where smoking is not permitted in the grounds. Most are fully aware that would limit its usage and he very difficult to police. And not very fair on the staff who had to do it.

I suspect this is the bride or groom who has made the request. And I think it's a bit short sighted, either it means people will be leaving the event for longer, as they all disappear off for a ciggy, or they will ignore it. And what are they going to do, folllow them outside and ask people to move outwith the grounds?

I suspect this is the bride or groom who has made the request. And I think it's a bit short sighted, either it means people will be leaving the event for longer, as they all disappear off for a ciggy, or they will ignore it. And what are they going to do, folllow them outside and ask people to move outwith the grounds?

How many smokers do you actually know?

I only know one or two, so it wouldn’t have bothered me at all if they’d disappeared for long stretches to go and smoke respectfully off the grounds rather than stinking up the lovely garden...

You can't "stink up" a garden. It's an open space which is why smoking is legal there.

Red, I'm not sure why that's relevant, or why you feel it's relevant that it wouldn't have bothered you and how many you know.

The relevant point surely is how many the bride and groom know.

It’s a good way of weeding out some of your “friends”. You could shed the “never quite grown ups” who think that it’s taking some sort of stand on human rights to smoke when asked not to and who might even start smoking in order to join this principled stand! Not to mention the “friends” who would rather smoke than come to your wedding.

Couldn't agree more.

It is very strange the effect that smoking has on people. Both my dad and fil were lovely, considerate, thoughtful men. But when it came to smoking they changed. Jekyll and Hide.

It is very strange the effect that smoking has on people. Both my dad and fil were lovely, considerate, thoughtful men. But when it came to smoking they changed. Jekyll and Hide

Yes, you see it on here too. People who are likely lovely in real life becoming highly intolerant, judgement and aggressive about smokers,

🤷‍♀️

Although to be fair it's not just smoking, you see it about drinking, make up, clothes, many things really,

Yes how dare they feel strongly about other people putting their health at risk by exposing them to carcinogens.... Anyone would think cancer was a serious disease the way they bang on about it......

lol. Case in point 🤣

I get married this summer.

My venue only ‘smoking area’ is right outside the entrance to the stunning stately venue. RIGHT in the castle entrance!

I wasn’t having it at all, sorry but I didn’t pay £25k to have to walk through a cloud of smoke all day for pictures...etc. We also have lots of kids coming.

I’ve asked the castle to put the ‘smoking area’ in a field opposite and for staff to firmly redirect anyone trying to smoke anywhere else!

At the end of the day, you don’t HAVE to attend and we’re prioritising clean air, children and the majority of guests over those who want to smoke!

^ before anyone makes mean comments about the price of my wedding. We own our home and will still have substantial savings after the event. We are having a wedding which suits us, in our budget xx

Indeed, @ricepolo. Do you drive? Or walk along a road with heavy traffic? You'll get far more carcogens walking along Euston Road than from cigarette smoke.

Eh, mr darcy why are you posting about. How much your wedding costs and how much money you have ?

Yes I do. So any chance I get to reduce the amount of chemicals I’m breathing in, I jump at.

But not berating all those drivers and happy to inflict your exhaust fumes on other people. Do you not detect a hint of hypocrisy there?

I think it's great, smoking at the best of times is awful and at a wedding even worse.

How do you know I don’t berate them?!

There are certain risks inherent in everyday living. To avoid them you’d have to go live on a desert island somewhere. Other risks, like smoking, can and should be avoided.

Or to put it another way, only a small number of people exposed to car exhaust fumes will be harmed by them. Every other smoker will die as a result of smoking. So it’s fairly obvious where the greater risk lies.

You can't "stink up" a garden. It's an open space which is why smoking is legal there.

Bluelady An open space isn't immune from being stinky. Landfill is an open space.

At least the cousin has been upfront to their guests with plenty of notice. If someone really wants a fag leave the grounds...using whatever lung capacity your habit hasn't robbed you of.

How do you know I don’t berate them?!

Are you saying you walk the streets berating drivers, and berate youtself for driving?