Wedding Invite specifies no smoking

[Busholive]

AIBU? I'm a bit miffed. I by no means chain smoke, but might have one or two outside at a party.

My cousin is getting married soon and the invites request that people don't smoke within the grounds of the church or the grounds of the reception venue. I'm not going to kick up a fuss, I just feel like its overkill.

Hmm - not sure whether I prefer being enveloped in traditional cigarette smoke or the cloying noxious ness of vaping ...

Good on them

No candy floss but a cross between turbo charged benylin and rampant synthetic air freshener

Vaping is just as bad; I had an asthma attack after some idiot covered me in sickly damp vapour. Just bloody give up - vaping is nothing but a dummy tit to suck on.

Oh well, that's depressing. I've given up normal fags and using e-cigs as a stepping stone and I thought the e-cigs were better than normal fags for the passerby.

Oh for God's sake, people whinging about vaping are just being Puritans.
Its not harmful. It might not be what you'd choose , but it's momentary.
It's like a stream of someone else's music. Irritating but generally harmless, and unless you live a hermits life you have to let them get on with it.

Thank you, my feefees were very hurt!! I'm very fragile atm after giving up my 36 year habit

I'm a smoker. I don't drop my fag ends anywhere. I have a pocket ashtray.

Hmmm... I think smoking is horrible and can understand the Church part but not allowing your guests to smoke during a wedding reception is pretty awful to my mind!

I have a couple of friends/family members who have a couple of cigarettes on the rare occasions they have a night out and it would be pretty mean of me to deny them this pleasure, so personally I would never dream of stipulating this on an invite to any type of party.

I can only guess they don’t have a choice with the venue they’ve chosen?

If hardly anyone smokes anymore how are there thousands of butts being dropped on the ground at these venues? Must be a few extreme chain-smokers!

We were just at a party in someone's home last weekend. It was catered by a professional company.
Next morning I saw the hosts and they had been picking up cigarette butts on their driveway and garage (big house) dropped by the catering staff. Around 100 butts.
There were ashtrays available at the event, that the catering company supplied, so could easily have taken one or two into that area.

I think they're being open and pointing out that it's a non-smoking environment.

For every one smoker at an event, there'll be 3 additional 'non-smokers' who will cadge fags because they've had a drink / special occasion / sun's gone down / OH not there / too effing tight to buy their own even though they know they'll smoke.

I can't stand the smell of cigarette smoke. It really pisses me off that outside any venue, office, event area is regarded as free reign for smokers. I would like to venture out at lunch time in nice weather for a breather but that's impossible with clusters of smokers everywhere. Summer is really bad because I'm hyper sensitive to the smell and wake up if the neighbours go out for a late night fag! Even I'm not such a numpty to complain about what people do in their own homes or gardens but in the public domain, it really bugs me.

As someone who works in public health - horray! People are finally having the balls to say things like this.
If it's a problem for you then don't go. Just like if they said "no kids allowed" or whatever. Their wedding, their choice (probably venue choice) but still their wedding. You don't have to go if you aren't happy with it.

Many congratulations to the vaping vipers for replacing smoking with vaping. However, despite miirivan's enthuasiastic endorsement of being enveloped with plumes of candy floss, yep, you'll find many 'puritans' who just don't like your trailing sickly noxious clouds. Being in close confinement with someone with someone who smells of shit doesn't harm health either but hey it's generally harmless

Great idea. Who wants to inhale other people’s unwanted smoke 🤢? It’s a selfish habit. Everyone will have bought lovely outfits for the wedding, why would you want to end up stinking of old cigarettes? It’s gross.

We got married pre the ban and I was pissed off when my aunt used my lovely tea light holders as an ash tray in the evening. Good on them for aging no smoking. It’s only a day.

Our church had a no paper confetti rule (we used dried flowers instead) so I imagine that fag butts would also be similarly frowned upon. The venue will also likely have a similar reason for not wanting your tab ends hanging around for weeks on end. It’s hardly the end of the world if you’d only normally have a couple is it?

Just so as smokers know (if they haven’t figured it out by now) many non smokers HATE being near you. We find it repulsive. Just because we are usually too polite to say it, doesn’t mean we are not thinking it. It can ruin experiences for others who find it disgusting, and often there is no escape from it.

You really can’t understand how vile it is for others until you are in that position, but then it’s your ‘right’ isn’t it? and it seems non smokers don’t have the same right to breathe clean air 🙄

I wish I'd had a no smoking rule. Even though they were restricted to outside the marquee, I still ended up with a cigarette burn through my veil when I went out to the loo

I don’t smoke, never have, I detest it with a passion. Same with any organised religion, however, I love churches. IF I did smoke, it wouldn’t occur to me not to smoke OUTSIDE a church anymore than any other building ‍🤷🏻‍♀️ I’m not getting the ‘surely No one would smoke in the church grounds’ comments, at all.

None of my close friends smoke, a couple of people I’d invite if I was organising a wedding do, but they’d be ok with the request...but my extended family...😖 I cannot imagine the uproar and the mass exodus to the nearest pub. I would put it on the invite, but make it clear it was stipulated by the venue. And being perfectly honest, even though I really really do detest smoking, I love my extended family and would rather book a venue with a designated smoking area. They all know I think it’s a stupid, vile, smelly habit without me making my wedding non smoking.

I think this is brilliant. Luckily at ours only had one or two smokers who knew wouldn’t smoke at church and would be considerate. But would totally have a smoking ban if got married now.

This would really piss me off!
I’m a very respectful, tidy smoker. I don’t smoke near non-smokers and I always clean up after myself. I wouldn’t smoke in the church grounds, I’d walk slightly away and smoke. With the venue it seems to be the norm so again I’d just go outside of the grounds. But any friend can piss right off if they think I’m going a whole day without smoking. I know it’s disgusting but I’ve been a smoker for a long time and I have no intention of stopping any time soon. I think it’s a ridiculous thing to put on an invite.