To put toddler in nursery when I have a days annual leave?

[Sunday89]

My 16 month goes to nursery 4 days per week and enjoys it. He was poorly last week and we ended up taking an extra day and a half off between me and DH to keep him off. He’s pretty much better now just a cough and runny nose but he’s passed his bugs onto me and I feel grotty
I had a day booked off today to use up leave before I lose it and had thought about doing something fun together, but I feel really rough and had a terrible night sleep so I’ve ended up dropping him into nursery (as it’s all paid for anyway).
Now I’m feeling aaaallll the guilt about leaving him there when he’s not 100% better himself yet, and wondering about whether to pick him up after his lunch. But then the other side of me wants to enjoy my day off, do a bit of house tidying then lie on the sofa and watch Netflix AIBU!!?? And what would you do...

*Dragoyou are so rude and aggressive

No wonder cm's get a bad name on here.*

I am no more rude and aggressive than anyone else on here commenting towards me.

No you said there is no difference between 3 year old and 4 year olds. That age range is state run nurseries, this one is private, so they don't care.

First, no, that’s not what I said and second, private nurseries do go all the way to school age too - the majority where I live wouldn’t be able to get kids into state nurseries even if those nurseries offered sufficient hours to enable work.

They ask, I'm not going to say no. How they want to parent is their decision. I still have my opinions on people who send their child into nursery I'll while they are off just because they have paid for it. Or teachers who send their kids to nursery for their usual days.

I’m still not clear on why that’s ethically different from paying for childcare on weekends but clearly the distinction matters to you, so let’s leave it there.

Oh I was just copying your statement aimed at me.

The difference is that I was ready to back it up with an explanation of what I’d said. I’m not sure I made a mirror statement, at any rate, but I’ll go back and check.

Have no idea what kind of parent you are, just like you have no idea what kind of childminder I am.

No, but I’ve been honest that it was comments and attitudes like yours that influenced my decision to go with a nursery, because they are at an underlying level in conflict with my own.

I don't judge my minded kids on the decisions their parents make, infact sometimes I feel more empathy towards them because I feel sorry for them.

Jesus.

You presume I'm a bad childminder because of my opinions on the parents decisions, I will presume you are one of those parents and presume you are a bad parent. HTH

What is ‘one of those parents’?

I don’t think anything you have said means you provide poor standards of care to children - simply that the underlying values you have displayed on this thread - lack of empathy, judgements based on assumed, distorted or absent facts - are not those I want as a huge influence on my children, and I chose a nursery of a childminder to deal with that risk (among other reasons).

So the hypothetical teacher is supposed to pay you good money for a service you aren't providing and you thinktheyare the selfish ones for not keeping their kids at home?

They could withdraw their child from the service and see if the place is still there when they went back to work if they wanted. Money really isn't the most important thing in life. Teachers are paid through the holiday so it would make no difference to their income if they still had to pay a cm or nursery. Again money is the most important thing obviously.

JassyRadlett

Ok then, I really don't have time to sit and go through all your comments anymore. You judge me, I judge me, I judge you and people like you, based on your comments.

Ok then, I really don't have time to sit and go through all your comments anymore. You judge me, I judge me, I judge you and people like you, based on your comments.

Okie doke! I’m still curious about who ‘people like me’ are (mothers who work? Mothers who have occasional days only with their eldest children rather than both when they’re off work? People who disagree with you and question your logic?’) but I suspect you’re not going to answer, so let’s leave it there.

I have given many answers and explained my logic many times. Only the purport obtuse would still be asking the same questions. There really is no other way for me to explain. I don't have a problem with working parents 😂 I rely on them. What a stupid thing to say.

I am also a working mother, I just get to look after my own kids at the same time as eating a living.

What a stupid thing to say.

I couldn’t agree more, but then I feel the same about some of your other statements.

I'm glad you you can admit that what you said was stupid.

I was just trying to find explanations for what you keep declining to explain that fit the pattern of your previous statements...

Suggest we stop this silliness now. You think I’m a shit parent based on who knows what, I think you have displayed a total lack of empathy and a tendency to distort and misquote on this thread that I find distasteful. Neither of us is likely to change our view, so is there anything to be gained now?

I don't know. You keep asking me questions. I honestly can not figure out what more you want me to explain.