Grown adults getting upset over Facebook isn't normal.

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I know I'm not being unreasonable, 99% sure of it, but I'm losing my mind over the incredulous nature of this. I'm dumbstruck that this is an issue and need advice.

I had a falling out with a relative on my husband's side. I shared a meme about enjoying solitude and liking my own company and they thought it was targeted at them, I explained that it wasn't but they weren't having it. I ignored their behaviour because honestly I was baffled that a grown adult would read that into someone's post let alone accuse them of it to their face.

I subsequently placed that person on restricted to avoid future arguments. I don't like Facebook drama, or this sort of drama in general and have no time for it, so I did this to ensure it wouldn't happen again.

They have found out I've done this and gone bazerk. Calling me childish, rude, that I'm picking on them, that I hate them.

I really hate this sort of thing. Short of deleting my entire profile, which I don't see why I should have to do, I don't know how to resolve this without that person being offended.

Were they not a relative of my husband's I'd tell them to sod off. I've never met adults like this!

Let them get offended. Don't let other people dictate how you run your social media accounts

The whole point of social anything, is surely that it is kinda dictated by how other people react? [big grin]

If I was the relative I would totally think that was aimed at me. And you knew that when you posted it. 👹 Go on, admit it.

What does the meme say. I just see:

A large group of people is a “ (missing word) Thanks”

If the missing word is No and it was off the back of an invite I can see how they are upset. You have decided to share memes and feelings on fb. With this comes responsibility for how others may react.

Sincere written apology. Tell them you have taken the meme down and will be more sensitive to their feelings next time.

MIL?

Relative knows I have Aspergers btw, starting to think that may be relevant here.

Drop feed ago go!

Restricting Facebook access is like cutting someone off. No wonder she went mental at you.

Is it? I can't imagine why someone would be so invested in someone's Facebook profile.

The whole point of social anything, is surely that it is kinda dictated by how other people react?

Sorry I should've been clearer. I was answering this part of the OP's post...

I usually keep it to close friends. I only accepted this person because my husband said they'd get offended if I didn't.

I wouldn't accept anyone just because my DH told me I should.

So despite the majority of posters saying that they too would take it personally if you posted this meme soon after declining their social invitation (and therefore the offended relative in this situation has not reacted unreasonably), you still maintain that this adult has been 'childish'. Wow

YANBU. I find a lot of people's behaviour around social media and communications pretty disturbing, in fact. A lot of angst about what people put on FB, angst over whether someone's blocked them on WhatsApp or is reading but ignoring their messages and why, what it means if someone takes x amount of time to respond to an email...

People need to get a grip.

I have to agree you are being a bit disingenuous though.

You know full well (if not before, definitely by now) that it does look as though that meme was aimed at them.

In fairness your meme is extremely childish and tactless in respect of your declining the invitation. Can you really not see that?

OP is deliberately ignoring every post that points this out marvellous.

Darling I agree. I can't stand gossip and this paranoia about social media is tiresome.

Whether you think the meme is childish or not is beside the point. If someone regularly posts memes then you may think that's childish but it's a leap to think the meme is about you.

You are being a bit naive about this. Of course they thought that was aimed at them and I struggle to believe that it wasn't tbh.

Wasn't aimed at them. A page I follow shared it, I laughed and shared it as I thought it was funny. No deeper thought went into it.

Memes are just as stupid, so I’d say your both being childish.

Can absolutely see why she would think it’s about her after declining a invite though

Wasn't aimed at them. A page I follow shared it, I laughed and shared it as I thought it was funny. No deeper thought went into it.

I'm a meme lover and I totally get that.

But given that you (hopefully, finally understand) know now that they've taken it the wrong way, surely the decent thing to do is apologise?

Can you answer the question, that's been asked a few times now, how long between you declining the invitation and the posting the meme

worra right?! You just do it absent mindedly. No one sits there plotting who to offend with what meme.

I did explain it wasn't about her and she didn't believe me hence me restricting her access so now she can't see my memes. But she's upset by this too...

I’d be upset in your relative’s shoes. I think YABU and rude.

I would definitely think the two were connected. I wouldn't react though.

What was your reason for declining?

The point of a meme is that you are trying to say something (normally humorously which that one isn't) so what you appeared to be saying - publicly - is no thanks to the invitation. I would be offended at that and would consider it very rude indeed. If it wasn't done deliberately as you say I would understand completely how it appeared and be mortified and hugely apologetic to the host of the declined invitation. Hope you get it cleared up.

Think it was a few days after. Not right afterwards or anything. It's not like as soon as I declined I searched that out and posted it.

My reason for declining was just that I don't like parties and am very tired at the moment and so don't feel up to going to any.